Are crushes a waste of time?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's okay to have a crush on someone but I think the way a boy in elementary school has a crush on a girl or vice versa versus a woman who has a crush on guy is much different. From my experiences, girls who have told me they like me or they have a crush I thought it would lead to something and I don't mean straight to sex, I am referring to dates and getting to know her better. But nothing progressed because it is common now to flirt with many people. It's how far you take that power of telling someone you have a crush on them. I am not throwing girls under the bus but let me be clear.

Girls have more options and I am sure girls will crush on many guys during her life time. A girl's mood changes hot and cold, one day to the next. One day she'll like you, the next day she'll ghost you. Sometimes it's something the guy did, other times it's nothing and she moves on. When that happens a guy is left pondering what happened? Why did she go cold, she told me she was crushing on me. It's justifiable when kids do it, when you're an adult you should know better.

When I say knows better, I am referring to communicating but people are such pussies nowadays (guys and girls) no one tends to give a shit. When a guy feels betrayed and posts questions on GAG or Reddit or YouTube or other forms of social media. He will get the typical answer - "she doesn't like you", "move on", "stop wasting time" and the classic "she doesn't owe you a response". The last one is immature, have some common decency. It's like if I applied for two jobs and I prefer one over the other but got both jobs.

I would tell the other company thank you I appreciate the opportunity but I will have to pass and wish them well. I don't sit there thinking, why do I need to tell the company anything I don't owe them anything it's not like they paid me mindset. I think that's rude and ignorant. If you are crushing on someone, and both like each other then go forward on a coffee date if both of y'all are comfortable and see where it goes, simple.

zeitgeist057 · Accepted Answer

Everything in life is a waste of time, but some ways of wasting time are more pleasurable than others.

I used to be a bartender, and one of my favorite customers had a lot of funny gems. One of them was: "In my life, I've spent a lot of money on wild women, music, and drugs. The rest I just wasted."

What else is a waste of time?

Staying up all night talking with someone until the sun comes up. Taking a walk to the top of a mountain and back. Oral sex. Cuddling. Camping and backpacking. Traveling around the world. Caring for people who are dying. Caring about people who are dead.

I hope I make my point clear. If you look at things in a certain way, there's very little point to doing many things, since the benefits are either temporary, superficial, or nonexistent. But we still do them anyway, and value them.

Rei02 · Accepted Answer

Many will say crushes are just a waste of time, but if we see it in another light, they aren't depending on how one can manage them.

They are just a waste of time if one just chickens out and loses the chance in going near to them. Although that won't be a waste of time if you learn the next lesson: don't chicken out with your next crush and have the courage in talking to him/her.

They won't if one takes courage to go and talk to them, and later knowing them no matter if dreams or expectations are meet.

Emogirl999 · Accepted Answer

I mean I had a crush on a guy for 3 years and got rejected by him twice, and now we have been dating for 6 months and so far it's going really well. I don't think there is anything wrong with having a crush as long as you don't let it take over your life or break you if you get rejected or they find someone else.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

You either act on it and it goes to its conclusion or don't and watch it do what it's going to do. I get real tired of reading all these "I have a secret crush" questions and the fool just doesn't do anything. At least ask for fucks sake. Maybe I'm wrong but that's just my take on it.

TransAm85 · Answer

To an extent if you don't or can't do anything about it. I have a little crush on this guy in my neighborhood, but I'm never gonna do anything b/c I'm married. He knows I like him, but nothing is ever going to come out of it. I'd love to fuck him, but lose an investment of 11 years over 1 good fuck? That's stupid.

WindAtMyBack · Answer

It's only a waste of time if you pine after them exclusively without considering anyone else. Otherwise it's pretty harmless. Crushes can also make good memories.

The same thing goes for online love affairs. There is nothing wrong with it, but there are very real and difficult issues that need to be resolved, including legal issues. If it's not making real progress toward getting together in the real world, then it's a waste of time and the person should just move on.

HopefulGuy94 · Answer

If the crushes of two different people's are themselves own but none of them knows it already , then it cannot be waste of time probably , cuz if they tell their feelings against each other then it may result in marriage in the future but those are really rare and cannot be observed mostly in the earlier ages , to be honest. But if it is observed it could be the real or true love for sure especially the only one and first crushes for each of them , who does not want this?

crossdressingrihno · Answer

If you don't do anything about your crush then you're basically just causing yourself unneeded stress. If you have a crush you should do something about it sooner rather than later otherwise find a way to stop having one because you're just going to find yourself in a tough stress by holding on to those pent-up emotions and it's just not good for you

Bubbles16 · Answer

Not to me because when I was 11 I had a crush on one of my guy friends but the crush the crush "faded" I guess you could when we got to high school but last month he asked if I used to like him and when I said yes he told he that he liked me too so to put it simply no I don't think crushes are a waste of time because they might like you back and you don't even know

dustybiker · Answer

No. They are like glitter. Life's small bits of happiness.. and pain. lol

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. I spent all of high school and even a good part of my adulthood secretly obsessing over a high school crush and it was truly a waste of time. I thought that everything would work out somehow even though I never told anyone about it. Life had a rude awakening for me.

Mess96 · Answer

Yes and I hate crushing and getting attached. I don't wanna experience either one ever again. It's too much pain cuz they never feel the same way. I know why it's called a "crush" (that's how you feel when they don't feel the same in return)

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Unless you act on it crushes are a waste of time all the way. If you like someone, tell them.

lightbulb27 · Answer

no but as some smart person staid below, they are your emotions... pay attention.  that said, your emotions may not be making the best of decisions sometimes...

Anonymous · Answer

Is a crush a waste of time?
Can you update your question with a context.

A crush can be distracting, annoying, stressful, hurtful, a lesson, an experience either way but the exchange is not equal and it’s up to one equal to add or take away from the crush. However it’s probably a good way to reproduce if we weren’t so caught up in law catching evolution.

Cool question 👍

nocturnalbaby · Answer

A little bit, especially if nothing ever comes from it, but it’s not our fault if we have a crush on someone. It’s just a natural feeling

JHNS98 · Answer

I would say yes. I certainly decided that personally a long time ago, but this mind set is dangerous. Don't be afraid of rejection, it will hurt you in the long run.

AdithyaR · Answer

It's just false hope of things that'll never work out so yeah, they're a waste of time.

HeartFullOfGlue · Answer

Nope Sometimes its fun to have a few crushes and for some people it sorta motivates them.

IJhonnyI · Answer

If your not gonna man up or women up and go for it then yes having a crush is 100% a waste of time

Stoner710 · Answer

When your young no old say after college age yes there a waste of time if you like someone might as well ask them out

qwert1234 · Answer

No. They are your emotions. Do not disregard your emotions.

Kiran_Yagami · Answer

If you aren't going to do anything about it, yes. You either approach your crush and try to start a relationship, or you don't and get on with your life. If you don't do one or the other you are wasting your time.

Th3ft · Answer

Well I am pretty sure that all relationships start as crushes… so…

Vesuvius87 · Answer

If it leads no where then yes it's a waste of time.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Maybe not for the person who has one.. For me though? Yep

Flower7 · Answer

Yes because they very rarely work out and often lead to heartbreak.

Marianna546 · Answer

Not really because i had a crush who reciprocated my feelings

Freyke · Answer

That depends on what you do about it. Will you keep crushing from afar or actually let your crush know that you like them?

Jltakk · Answer

They were a waste of mine and actually added to my mental afflictions.

LindsayR07 · Answer

We never regret the things we do as much as we regret the people we don't do.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

It’s a waste of time if you’re not brave enough to tell them how you feel.

AndrewAzul · Answer

Certainly in real life crushes precedes relationships and so without crushes how would people become romantically interested in one another.

Wise4myage · Answer

Yes, unless your gonna act on them, then why bother?

Imsmurter1 · Answer

Nah I think it's harmless day dreaming. It's more like a waste of emotional energy than a waste of time but a little bit is ok.

McKellar · Answer

If that person likes you back, then no. If that person doesn't, then yes.

Iron_Man · Answer

If they’re not talked about or resolved yes they are

Anonymous · Answer

Unless you're dating them, then no. Your emotions will get out of control next to that person.

blowmedown · Answer

Mostly but not always waste space.  Interesting reaction to admission "I think you pretty" some of them tho

krin_m · Answer

If you cannot act on them, they are a waste of time in my opinion.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, but what can you do?

AnnaTumbles · Answer

If they're above your league then ig yeah

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah it’s better to crush cockroaches with a finger and leave the house and liveeee

serious · Answer

Of course they are a big waste of time

1GoldTwins · Answer

Not if you go in for the kill!

GatewayRealm · Answer

If it ain’t Logical then it’s senseless.

Anonymous · Answer

Crushes with inaction yes.

Ninania · Answer

No, it's good fun.

globetrotter22 · Answer

Not if you act on them.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

Only if you keep crushing on one after one...

Tina19 · Answer

Yes totally

Creampiekarl420 · Answer

Life is a waste of time

roy_ricky09 · Answer

Yes.. But it's fun and exciting distraction

scooogy · Answer

In job life I guess they are.

Vivaldi · Answer

I think crushes are unhealthy.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Complete waste of time

Kaivalahali · Answer

yesssssss

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Usually.

Anonymous · Answer

Of course

Joker_ · Answer

yeah

legalboxers · Answer

100% YES!!!

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