Am I wasting my time on my crush?

I'm probably over-analyzing the situation. I noticed whenever I talked, this guy stared at me, not in a mean way. There was a period of time where him and I kept looking at each other and smiling..
I sat across from him at a table. He said he had long arms, and I said I did too. Then he reached across the table and put his hand on my shoulder, claiming that his arms were longer. I put my hand on his shoulder, and claimed that mine were longer. Was that flirting? Eleven days later, I texted him:

Me: is this Jake?
Him: Maybe, who's asking?
Me: Ashley!! Haha.
Him: okkkkkkk and what do u want?
Him (again): okkkkkkk and what do u want?
Me: I guess wanted I to say hi?
Him: Ok?
Me: I m glad you're not some sort of creep.
Him: K.

I was sorta hurt by him responding so coldly. But he apologized later.

Him (later): Sorry if i sounded like a jerk it s just i get super defensive when people i dont know text me cuz ik my friends have given my number to random people so its like who are you what do you want.

Me: I should've asked you for your number instead of asking my friend for it. But you seemed really cool and I was nervous... so yeah.

Then we texted for a couple hours and he responded really quickly, like within seconds. Whenever I see him, he usually looks a little nervous. At first, he would stare at me for awhile and runs his hands through his hair. Now, he looks at me for a few seconds, and doesn't say anything.


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  • Definite flirting.


What Guys Said 2

  • He may have sensed that you like him. Maybe he's shy/not very interested. Might as well ask him out. Don't expect him to initiate if you are the one who wants a relationship.

  • Yeah.


What Girls Said 2

  • I would be PISSED if someone gave my number away... shit

  • You're clearly wasting your time.