Supermarket crush confusion?

[1diamond]

Call me stupid but even though I am an older women I have not had a relationship in 11 years and have not even dated for about the last 5 due to single-handedly raising my sons who are now grown. I very rarely get a crush but there's this guy who works in my local supermarket who I think is beautiful. Trouble is I have no idea what he's thinking. He sometimes makes strong intense eye lock in with me, he will then smile, then other times he just ignores me. I originally caught him gazing at me the first time I saw him, now he just ignores me. He seems to need to be around work colleagues to feel more comfortable around me. I don't understand as we are hardly youngsters why he behaves this way. I don't know what to do about him. It's hard because he is at work and I don't want to make him feel uncomfortable or seem desperate just because I am older. He sometimes looks almost scared and confused. Am I wasting my time? Please help me out guys :)

[Prof_Don]

Giving him your phone number doesn't make you seem "easy"...it lets him know that YOU are interested, so he doesn't have to "guess" and "ponder".

Once you get the ovaries to do it (women don't have "balls")...you'll be shocked at how well things will accelerate. :)

[1diamond]

Lol. That's funny. Maybe if he flirts with me a little. Thanks :)

[GymStatus]

some one has to take the 1st step and say hi to one another... then take it from there.

[1diamond]

Thank you, but I have said hello to him. The next time he saw me we both said hello again and now he's ignoring me. He definitely acts a little odd around me this much I can tell. I don't know how much longer just saying hello will be enough though if you know what I mean. He kind of seems a little suspicious almost a times. There has been the strong eye lock in a few times and he always seems very serious faced during this. I don't think I have ever known anyone act this way before, seems odd.

[GymStatus]

If he is single you can step it up a bit and compliment him on something like his shoes or style etc... If he is taken or uninterested then you may have to chalk it up as a loss and keep it moving...

[1diamond]

I will give it a go when I am feeling more confident maybe. I think I need more of an indication he actually likes me first though. Although I think he may, I am not to sure and sometimes when we really like a person we can misread and wishfull think. Thanks :)

[foolycooly1001]

You could give him your phone number.

[1diamond]

I don't think he has given me enough to go on to be that brave as of yet. I would hate him to think I am easy as I can assure you I am not. Do you think it sounds like he likes me, or maybe I am just wishfull thinking? Thank you.

[foolycooly1001]

aren't you a little old to be wasting time playing the helpless little girl?

[1diamond]

Just because I don't want to throw myself at a guy who's never even spoke to me or vice versa other then hello don't mean I am playing a helpless little girl. He could be in a relationship or anything. I have to use this place to shop on a regular basis and I am well known amongst staff as a long term customer. I would be mortified if that was the case. If he is gazing into my eyes one min, then ignoring me the next he's not exactly coming across as very mature himself is he. I don't read minds!

[1diamond]

You are very young at the moment and don't realize that these things don't get easier with age, they get harder. I have also heard many guys say here in UK they prefer to do the work as they would never trust an upfront women. And they prefer the challenge of a women that don't come across as to easily attainable.

[foolycooly1001]

I don't condone either sex wasting time wondering when they can just ask a person how they feel.

[1diamond]

Yes I agree you are right there. But when we don't know each other it's a little hard. He may have a girl, he may have kids. I tried to get to talk to him the other day, we were in an isle where there was no other staff and he just walked off and I am sure he knew I wanted to say something. This is why I am confused. He then watches everything I do. It's bizzare

[foolycooly1001]

Well you can't really be sure he knew you wanted to say something. If you want to talk to him, talk to him.

[foolycooly1001]

I was thinking about this. If you know his name, you can search for him on Facebook or something. Maybe you can find out if he's in a relationship.

[1diamond]

Ok I took your advice and I found out his name and I have sent him a message on Facebook. I have asked him if he is seeing anyone and I have told him I like him. I hope he don't think I am some weird stalker now but I couldn't hold it in any longer. He will never know what it has took for me to do that. Now I am dreading that he either won't get back to me or tell me he is with someone or not interested but I suppose at least I will then know where I stand and can move on if need be. So thank u.

[foolycooly1001]

no problem. good luck