Your husband is out of control with himself.
You need to tell him and show him that his behavior is not OK.
He hit you. Now he has legal problems. That is a consequence of his actions.
Continue providing consequences for bad behaviors.
You really need a relationship counselor to help give you the confidence to say No. I need a man to help me and these kids. If you will not be man, then you will not be a part of this family.
He will not learn from words. He has to have a harder life in order to want to change.
Don't forgive him. Don't accept apologies. Tell him you want to See him do better. Than maybe he can have another chance. But right now he should lose all access to you, your love and limited access to his kids.
It's a hard thing to do. But we both know it is the Right thing for you. Even though it will hurt him, it is the Right thing for him. He will grow from this, or he will show you that he's not capable of really trying.
I highly recommend talking to a relationship counselor about setting boundaries.
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I sincerely think you’re in a negative spiral for your life. This man is very dangerous for you, because you’re alone and he is only a nuisance for you, he doesn’t contribute at earning money or raising your children. Also he put his hands on you, this is a serious crime and is violence.
I don’t know if where do you live exist a service of support, like social assistance or child protection laws, maybe there’s a legal solution at your problem.
So when you were 16 you started dating a 23 year old guy? And then had his kid at 18? That's messed up. Did you not have parents? Because any adult on their right mind would have seen that he was just using you because you were gullible.
Contact your local woman's center. They should have advice and resources.
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The kids are already without a father from what you've said. Procreation is not being a father. Any fuckwit can procreate but it takes a Real Man to be a father. That doesn't mean he has to be the higher earner, but he needs to be the provider.
Leaving isn't an easy option, but it might wake him up and make him be the man you need - and if it doesn't then you're going to be able to find the man who can be the Father your kids needSounds like you need to kick this guy out, get a restraining order if you have to. Sue him for child support,. He will have to get a job or end up in county. Next time be more particular about who you let into your life.
Wow…what about marriage counseling? Ephesians 5 is where marriage and coupling counseling originated from if you want to save 💰.
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Really not sure what to say apart from u got with a shitty guy then had kids then got married and now wonder why he is the guy he is and not the guy u want him to be
This is not something that random strangers can help you with. You need the opinion of people who know you both.
That sounds like it sucks, and like you’re stuck. I’m so sorry
reminds me of my father.
Get a divorce lawyer ASAP.
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