Why do men always call their wife out of their name?

[mommaofjjj]

Im 23 years old i have 3 kids ages 2-5 i have been with my husband for 7 years and married for 1 year i work overnights and he is a stay at home dad and i pay all the bills he does not want to work he dont ever want to do family stuff he just wants to play his video game he dont have a license and he is 30 years old by the way and i am feeling like im just a f*ck buddy and not his wife he dont show me no affection at all we barely even talk to each other and when i try to tell him how i feel im being a bi*tch and he put his hands on me and he is now on probation for a year and a half and he us blaming me for it i know i should leave but my kids love him and he won't get his life together if i leave him so my kids will be without a father and where i live i have no support and i can't afford overnight childcare for 3 kids and im not even allowed to have any friends or go anywhere without being accused of going to see my side piece

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And no i never cheated on him he is always accusing me of seeing someone

[RotOfStars]

Your husband is out of control with himself.

You need to tell him and show him that his behavior is not OK.

He hit you. Now he has legal problems. That is a consequence of his actions.

Continue providing consequences for bad behaviors.

You really need a relationship counselor to help give you the confidence to say No. I need a man to help me and these kids. If you will not be man, then you will not be a part of this family.

He will not learn from words. He has to have a harder life in order to want to change.

Don't forgive him. Don't accept apologies. Tell him you want to See him do better. Than maybe he can have another chance. But right now he should lose all access to you, your love and limited access to his kids.

It's a hard thing to do. But we both know it is the Right thing for you. Even though it will hurt him, it is the Right thing for him. He will grow from this, or he will show you that he's not capable of really trying.

I highly recommend talking to a relationship counselor about setting boundaries.

[Ευδεμονια]

I sincerely think you’re in a negative spiral for your life. This man is very dangerous for you, because you’re alone and he is only a nuisance for you, he doesn’t contribute at earning money or raising your children. Also he put his hands on you, this is a serious crime and is violence.
I don’t know if where do you live exist a service of support, like social assistance or child protection laws, maybe there’s a legal solution at your problem.

[LazerBean]

So when you were 16 you started dating a 23 year old guy? And then had his kid at 18? That's messed up. Did you not have parents? Because any adult on their right mind would have seen that he was just using you because you were gullible.

[mommaofjjj]

I got pregnant at 16 had my son at 17 got pregnant at 18 had my son at 19 got pregnant at 20 had my daughter at 21 my parents didn't care what i did and he was on his own

[mommaofjjj]

And now im stuck and my family won't help me with my kids so im just stuck i have a good income for myself just not enough to pay for 3 kids in child care im 23 and i know i dont wanna live the rest of my life like this

[dustybiker]

Contact your local woman's center. They should have advice and resources.

[DJB72]

The kids are already without a father from what you've said. Procreation is not being a father. Any fuckwit can procreate but it takes a Real Man to be a father. That doesn't mean he has to be the higher earner, but he needs to be the provider.

Leaving isn't an easy option, but it might wake him up and make him be the man you need - and if it doesn't then you're going to be able to find the man who can be the Father your kids need

[exitseven]

Sounds like you need to kick this guy out, get a restraining order if you have to. Sue him for child support,. He will have to get a job or end up in county. Next time be more particular about who you let into your life.

[boggboss]

Really not sure what to say apart from u got with a shitty guy then had kids then got married and now wonder why he is the guy he is and not the guy u want him to be

[Guy13]

Wow…what about marriage counseling? Ephesians 5 is where marriage and coupling counseling originated from if you want to save 💰.

[mommaofjjj]

He dont want to

[mommaofjjj]

He said he dont care if i leave him but if i do he'll be homeless

[Avicenna]

This is not something that random strangers can help you with. You need the opinion of people who know you both.

[Xtendable]

That sounds like it sucks, and like you’re stuck. I’m so sorry

[sheikalana]

reminds me of my father.

[Stevefiveo]

Get a divorce lawyer ASAP.

[In_Trance]

Talk to him

[mommaofjjj]

I've tried he dont want to hear it and says he dont give a f*ck

[In_Trance]

That's a crystal clear response