Girls what do you start doing when you are about to break up with someone? what are your actions?

[Finchie40]

Girl I am with now has been showing a lot of up and downs , and says vicious things to the point I don’t know if she is stringing me along or what , The intimacy has faded and I told her let’s end the relationship but she doesn’t want to? Which leaves me wondering why? Why stay with someone that you really aren’t happy with? So girls what actions and things do you do before ending a relationship? Or stringing someone along?

[Pinay_ako]

Just because the intimacy is lessened doesn’t mean she’s out of there. It could mean she’s going through a personal issue that’s deeper than your relationship and sometimes that’s the worse. Have you talked to her about it? The signs? Before assuming the worst, sit down and talk to her again. If it’s not you, then what is it? Does she still love you? When I’m about to break up with someone, they see and hear less from me daily but I won’t make it long. It’s not only hurting them but also me. I would break it to them. Honesty will set us both free

[Finchie40]

Yes she is going through menopause , she is so up and down

[Pinay_ako]

Up to you to be understanding but for how long…

[Smoke-n-Growls]

She doesn't want to lose you, but she also doesn't want to keep you.

Just break it off. She won't want to break it off for you, you have to just rip the bandaid off.

It sounds like she doesn't want to be the dumper, but wants instead to be able to play the dumpee victim card.

[Finchie40]

I have asked her that , if she is just scared to break up , I told her she comes off very u happy most times towards me and negative , and I have told her I feel like she is strong me along to the point I don’t really know what to feel anymore , I told her if she is that unhappy with me then we need to go out separate ways and she doesn’t want that , it’s like the second I walk away and throw in the towel she is chasing me , like she gets off on hurting me , I don’t understand it honestly , but I feel like a convenience to her

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Listen to your gut. It's telling you that for a reason.

You deserve someone who will genuinely love being with you, not someone who just sees you like a safety net.

[JustinTheGreat]

I’ve noticed that women are more likely to wait until they’re completely emotionally moved on before actually leaving their relationships

[Wsx2wsx2ws]

You are in the challenge part of the relationship. She wants to make it through it to the good juicy filling.

[Wsx2wsx2ws]

U OH I think I accidentally blocked someone some how just below Faith18letsgo's comment. How do I unblock them?

"Opinion by a user you blocked or were blocked by"
So sorry who ever you are I will fix it.

[limsasi]

I start communicating less and less. Eventually I'll ask for a break, this is just to sort out my emotions and figure out if that's truly what is best. I weigh the pros and cons, and if I can't see a future I have an answer.

And I'm sorry you're going through something like that. It sounds toxic, and I suggest if no feelings is involved anymore then you got to be firm about it.

[Finchie40]

I tell her all the time , to go take a break then if that’s what she needs , but then she doesn’t , so yes she is all over the place and it is so confusing

[DizzyDesii]

I distance myself. Suggest space. And when they turn down that idea, I try to respectfully make them hate me. I know its horrible that I struggle to just be direct. But After feeling “trapped” to stay with my first boyfriend and never being able to fully escape him because he always found me, its made it hard for me to leave others on my own. I have to make them dislike me enough to where they end things for the both of us. Otherwise i fear I’d stay or take them back if we end on a good note

[Finchie40]

This seems like what she is doing to me but the second I let her go completely she comes running back like she gets off on it , she tells me I am the nicest guy she ever been with but she has a tendency to push my buttons and push me away , When I walk away she comes chasing me back so I don’t really know what her deal is , she is all over the place emotionally , It feels like I am on an emotional rollercoaster ride , and she loves conflict for whatever reason

[DizzyDesii]

Oh nahh she's playing games

[Finchie40]

Playing games in which way? Testing me?

[DizzyDesii]

she's coming back to you because she thinks/knows she has you wrapped around her finger. Next time she leaves, dont take her back

[Finchie40]

Yea when she tells me she wants space, I tell her take all the space she wants but don’t think I am going to be sitting here with my finger up my ass , space to me is a selfish decision , not saying I have to hold her hand at all times but I should definitely be her priority , if I am not her priority then don’t waste my time , I know plenty of girls that want a man that makes them a priority , I am not going to commit to someone that doesn’t include
Me when it comes to decision making , it should be me and her vs the world , the same way I include her when it comes to my decision making , we should want to experience things together , travel to places we never been together , be each other’s best friend , if I am not her best friend then I am not the guy for her , I can easily exclude her and make plans without her with my friends , it’s ok to spend time with your friends but not ok when you automatically exclude your partner because you are only thinking of yourself and that’s where most relationships go wrong because people only think what is best for them , even though in their minds they feel they aren’t going to do something stupid they aren’t thinking how their partner feels , if you choose to go on that trip with your friends make sure you are going to be ok when they go on trips with their friends , why space in relationships to me is stupid , if you need space from me for a long period of time you are best to not come back cuz I can’t promise that I will be here waiting

[DizzyDesii]

I tell em Straight up i wait for no one lmao. So if they ask for space that means they chose to leave for good lol

[FictionalCharacter]

I don’t like stringing guys along either. When my LDR had its ups and downs and my boyfriend was avoiding/ignoring me. I too have also said “we should end this”. Because he was stringing me along WHILE chatting with other girls.

We broke up and it was not pleasant. I caught him, I called him out, we were arguing and him denying everything. Basically telling me “who do believe, me or your own eyes?”

I’m still healing ❤️‍🩹 and barely getting better.

[Faith18letsgo]

I take longer and longer to reply to them on text. I don’t have sex with them or even long make out sessions. I don’t try to get together. I stop saying I love you. I know this sucks, but I honestly get more cuddly.

[Finchie40]

So you like the convenience of guys

[Faith18letsgo]

Yes, for sure.

[Finchie40]

My question to you is why do you get more cuddly with them if you don’t want to be with them lol

[Faith18letsgo]

Two things second ones more shitty. One I’m afraid to lose them so I want to hold on tight. Two I’m about to go for a dry spell so I want to drink up.

[Finchie40]

What do you mean by dry spell? Sex? Trust me on this , You girls don’t realize by pushing a guy a way makes him feel like you don’t value or respect him , if you stop pushing away you will not really experience dry spells trust me

[Faith18letsgo]

No I mean physical affection. Also I don't want to have sex with a guy I'm breaking up with.

[Finchie40]

But you still cuddle with them? Lol

[TacosRAwesome]

I'm going through a similar thing. Sometimes it's best to just tell them it's over, and go low contact.

[Blackcosmo]

I'd tell them I'm sorry but I think it's better to end the relationship. Things just aren't working out but we can still be friends if that's ok. Stringing someone isn't the healthy or right way to do it at all.

[mandyfire98]

I become disinterested in everything related to the relationship. Whenever I talk to my SO it'll be very matter of factly without warmth. I'll probably get into more arguments with them. Eventually I'll break up.

[Guy13]

She’s tagging another guy.

[Guy13]

If sex stops she into another guy emotionally and may or may not had sex yet.

[Finchie40]

It crossed my mind that maybe she has interest in someone else , but she still gives me sex , just not as much as I want, it’s like I have to wait til she is ready but if I initiate I am turned down , she suffers from anxiety and depression , so I always have a question mark on my head on whether she wants to be with me or not , some of the shit that comes out of her mouth towards me pushes me away but then she comes chasing me back and I think to myself , do you get off on this shit? It’s craziness , but from my experiences with girls , all girls are crazy , and emotional so I tolerate it as much as possible and put my foot down to her when i had enough , it’s like she gets turned on when I am mad at her , crazy shit

[Guy13]

You’re starting to sound like an insecure woman, fyi..,

[Finchie40]

LOL not insecure , just don’t want to be played

[Guy13]

We’re all being played to some degree BUT I get you… Smart and careful RISK….

[jimmy2]

It take 2 to understand