Do you do this stuff with your female best friends? If you're doing anything that is romantic or you both have feelings for each other that could be a problem. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with having a friend although good communication in your relationships are critical.
I don't know about holding hands but... I think a emotional affair would be you're dating and doing boyfriend/girlfriend stuff with each other if that makes any sense.
I am so happy that you have a amazing husband as well as a amazing best friend. There is nothing wrong with having a best friend. He just happens to be a guy and not a girl.
Have you or do you have any other close friendships like this? Have you seen your friends with friendships like this? I mean girl best friends go to the bathroom with each other all the time. That is obviously not anything sexual.
I do take issue with you saying "mainly because he didn't want it to"... If you were trying to initiate sex or some kind of romantic connection with him. This is a MAJOR issue.
But friends also have physical contact, friends can have deep conversations, friends can feel so comfortable with each other that they could get changed, etc. BUT... the difference is that there are no romantic or sexual feelings involved.
If you have a guilty feeling that you're doing something wrong you might be... Pray about it. But NOTHING wrong with having a best friend. By any means.
I do want you to know though emotional affairs hurt. They hurt bad. So if you feel like you're something wrong number one pray and number two talk to both your husband and your best friend about things.
If you feel like things are going too far you can speak with your best friend and not saying to end the friendship but maybe tone things down a bit.
We all should have a friend who we can tell things to... etcetc.
But I would hope that you can also do this with your husband as well.
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Did the same thing you're saying here. Im married, she was single. Weve known each other for years. she's a coworker. We hugged and held each other. Changed clothes around each other. She would find time for us to be alone together. She depended on me for emotional and deeply personal needs.
I knew it was a problem when 1) my coworkers said she was my girlfriend and she was okay with that, 2) my wife felt very uneasy around her... and perhaps most telling, 3) we were very insecure about the "friendship". She couldnt stay away from me and i felt jealous if she hanged out with other guys. I ended it, but it still hurts like hell.
Yeah, that was not a friendship. And reading your description, neither is yours.
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Would you be willing to share the contents of your discussions with your current partners?
Are your partners aware of anything and everything that you say and do?
How would you feel if your partner was doing to you what you're doing to them right now?
Those are pretty good indicators...The line crosses when you tell or talk about more things than your husband. More importantly though are your thoughts towards him in comparison
If you won't say it or do it in front of your s/o then it is cheating
Simple: When you want to be with him more than your current husband.
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