When does it cross over from friendship to an emotional affair?

[Anonymous]

At what point is a relationship an emotional affair? If there is no sex involved what makes it an emotional affair? Is it the desire to have sex but don't? I have both a male best friend and a female one and I am married but share everything with these other two people does this cross the line? Can you even have an emotional affair with someone of the same sex if you are heterosexual?

[Anonymous]

Well I think of it tihs way..a lot of what I tell my friends(male or female) I would also tell my boyfriend. This doesn't make an emotional affiar becomes I'm simply connecting with them, which is what humans do. I believe an emotional affiar is when you start DISCONNECTING yourself from your husband/boyfriend because you are too focused on talking/connecting with the other person. You may start imagining the two of you together and value your time with them more than you do your husband/boyfriend. You share your deepest feelings/dreams/ideas with them and tell them things that your husband/boyfriend prob doesn't know or maybe show them a different side of you.

Put it this way: If your in a relationship and you KNOW the person you are with would be upset with the way your speaking with the other person it prob is an emotional affair. If they WOULDN'T get upset than chances are your doing nothing wrong.

Personally I don't believe you can have an emotional affair with someone of the same sex unless you are bisexual. People in emotional affairs begin to treat the person they are having one with special. For example you might spend extra time getting ready in order to make yourself look good for them.

[kiwicoconut]

Best answer in my opinin

[jennifer_bloom]

Its an emotional affair if their sexual desirability affects the way you view or think about them - I had male best friends I would never consider dating - one guy was always telling white lies so I knew I would never be attracted to him, another guy looked like he was 15 years older than me so I knew I would never like him, and the third guy had anger management issues and was in my opinion extremely ugly so I knew I would never like him. We were best friends however.

[MrsWrong2061]

If you have to hide messages or lie to your partner than it's an affair. If it is an innocent friendship you will have nothing to hide.

[KarKingJack]

People don't really consider any of this stuff too heavily anymore. In the 18th century you used to get a lot of literature based on 'Romantic Friendships', quite often between two straight women, a lot of these romantic friendships were purely platonic. It doesn't happen so much now though.

I usually had romantic friendships instead of girlfriends/boyfriends, in my time. With sex, usually. Its a desperate scene although, I'm happy with my ruined love life, hahaha. So I dunno. You don't realize until your out of it, essentially.

[cd112]

I think this really depends on the people involved youshould just be open with your husband and see how he feels, he might not even care

[Princesspd]

For me, when I started to be secret about meeting my guy friend, when I can’t wait to see him, when I dress up and doll up for a simple meeting, when I want him to see me with the nicest clothing and makeup on, when he is constantly in my mind, when I can’t wait to see where he will take me, when I can’t wait to see what we are going to do together…. it has become an emotional affair…. from there on it developed into physical affair which involve sex.

[ThatNikkiGirl]

It depends on what you and your husband agree is crossing the line.

[Anonymous]

When you're sharing something intimate you'd only share with your partner. Even if it's just an emotional thing.

[Commonsense0202]

All close friendships with a member of the opposite sex are emotional affairs if the contact is happening when he is not around.

[Spacemen3]

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[KarKingJack]

Hahaha, niiceee.