Am I a jerk for wanting to cancel our wedding? (Page 2)

Anonymous · 2022-06-27T20:59:47Z

Me and my girlfriend of 5years, was supposed to be married, next month, it was planned, but we talked about it, and we have no reason other than love, for us to marry, and I said I don't want to be married because for the last two months there haven't really been any sign of love or affection, also because I'm not 100% about the wedding, because I'm really insecure about our relationship as it has been going lately, we argue slot about everything, and we're never really as happy as we used to be. I get that it's hurtful and stupid to cancel so close to the wedding day, and I know what an utter arse I am for doing so. I guess what I'm asking is, am I really that big an ass for not wanting to do the wedding as the relationship feels like it's about to go to shit?

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jesssayin89 Follow
Xper 1 Age: 34

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Definitely don't go through with the marriage. There's cold feet and then there's just not a love match. If you guys don't have much affection or your not as happy then that's a no brainer. Couples argue but for people who are supposed to be getting married that's a no go

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TommyMountainFigure Follow
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Give her the option to put it back a year and see if she's ok with it (If that is acceptable to you as well).. If not, then leave! Never get married under those circumstances.

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DizzyDesii Follow
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Break it off now before you end up dealing with divorce court. I hope y'all get a refund on that deposit for the wedding venu

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Uptowngirl88 Follow
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No she's just dumb for staying for 5 years. I would never stick to one guy and hang around for 5 years. Year tops for marriage and I date more than one guy. So may the best man win.

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- Uptowngirl88
  
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  You're not wrong for being upfront I just think she's stupid for not catching a clue at least a year into y'all seeing each other. If a man is truly interested he would've wifed her by a year
  
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- Asker
  
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  We met at 17 and we're both 22 now, where I live it's not really the norm to marry in that age here, some people do tho
  
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- Uptowngirl88
  
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  I just realized your age. Again if be dating multiple guys at that age.. but no you're not wrong for leaving
  
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- Lis-the-librarian
  
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  How can you date multiple guys? won't you get attached to them?
  
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- Uptowngirl88
  
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  Girl why would you get attached to men who haven't proven themselves to you?
  
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exitseven Follow
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msybe it would be worse to go through with the wedding and then get divorced.

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dustybiker Follow
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Trust your gut. Be kind. Don’t ask again unless head over heals in giddy love. Just live together.

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USLegionary Follow
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No. But weddings are like that. It adds unnecessary stress to the relationship and women tune out and just focus on their big day.

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Whatever2929292 Follow
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Your choice. You could try couples counseling but your choice man. Once you're married calling things off is going to be a lot harder

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shaysh87 Follow
Xper 6 Age: 33 , mho 32%

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You probably just felt obligated to marry her when you never actually genuinely felt like you wanted marriage

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Guy13 Follow
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💣 💣💣💣 goes your deposit.. credit obliterated💣. 85% of the people in your world mad as hell.

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- Guy13
  
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  I knew I shouldn’t bought a gift. WTF am I going to do with a gift card god done married Registry.
  You telling me…I wasted 10,000 in deposit because you got cold feet, 🗣 boy…
  
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- Guy13
  
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  Check back in Friday…see how this circus 🎪 plays out head 🤡…
  
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- Asker
  
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  Yeah right stay together for money ofc...
  
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- Guy13
  
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  😂😂😂. You are going to have a lot of fun real soon. Can’t wait to see who gets the honeymoon trip. 5 years is a longtime to throw away though 🤷🏻‍♂️
  
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- Asker
  
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  We haven't broken up... No honeymoon was ordered, as I couldn't get off from work... This summer for it anyways so was planning for next year.
  
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- Guy13
  
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  Ohhh. Cold feet 👣 Part One
  
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baserunner611 Follow
Xper 6 Age: 23

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Stupid, go married before you destroy the best thing in your life. What is your sense feeling of pressure of pulling a marriage together.
You are to go for a few day vacation, before destroy your life. Everyone get it nervous and jealous, man

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InsideBeauty Follow
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No, you are not. But tell her as soon as possible about your desicion and the way you feel about your relationship.

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_Just_A_girl_ Follow
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Plan better next time. Damn.
The appointments
The haggling
The dress
Catering
Getting your families hopes up
Driving , gas money
Plane tickets

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MikeInHawaii Follow
Xper 6 Age: 59

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Nope! It’s better to cancel the wedding the day of than for through a divorce! The way I’ve seen some women acting at bachelorette parties, I wouldn’t blame the groom for calling off the wedding!

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bootieclapper9000 Follow
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dont get married RUNNNNNNN

look into the stories of divorced men
MGTOW REDPILL

do not get married
trust , me LOOK INTO IT

ITS ALL OVER YOUTUBE
im trying to save you
cause I love you

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driven159 Follow
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When you get married everyone wants it forever but that doesn't happen most of the time so any doubts then don't do it marriage can ruin a great relationship and put a lot of pressure on it it's a lot worse to get a divorce than to cancel it

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midnightmoon05 Follow
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Not at all. Good decision. Better now then after 2 kids.

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foodtv Follow
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Not at all, figure your relationship out (ending it or not) then get married if it's right.

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Anonymous
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Cancel it. Unless you fancy the idea of divorce where she takes any kids and have of all your stuff.

Cancel it now.

Never marry a woman who doesn't love you.

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slatyb Follow
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Cancel it. It will be painful, but not as painful as a divorce.

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