Are you a jealous boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse? How would you deal with one?

[Pinay_ako]

Extremely jealous partners are toxic.

Or if you’re at work, they call the manager to confirm you’re really at work 😑.

[Zeus_66]

Jealousy is unfortunately a reaction to a combination of low self esteem, envy, and inability to be truly independent. What can be destructive about jealousy is that it leads to bullying, oppression, and possession tendencies brought on by obsession and/or objecting.

Getting caught in the occasional thought of jealousy is all apart of the normal human condition. Being chronically impulsive, obsessive, and paranoid is mentally unhealthy.

I highlight that because I want people to reflect upon the fact that jealousy isn't necessarily a bad thing. After all, being jealous leads to greed, which leads to higher production and competition. But that is typically with someone who understands their emotional spectrum and can easily delineate between positive and negative energy.

To your question, I am not a jealous husband. I yearn for my wife, and she can be quite a tease. I love it. Keeps the spice in the marriage. And it keeps her very happy.

For anybody out there seeing compulsive jealously early on in a relationship, get out of it fast and safe. It will only get worse.

For long term relationships (including marriage), see what you can do to mitigate the situation, further trust, etc. If you can't, sticking around may become dangerous.

Be careful, folks. Jealousy can make a good thing go bad real quick.

[hypojoe]

My dad was so jealous that if he worked out of town on a job he would take all her clothers so she had nothing to wear those types if people are toxic they will always be like that

[Pinay_ako]

Wow that’s abuse

[hypojoe]

Thats why when i was born my mom got as far away as possable and was not apart of mylife growing up when I needed someone they were not there so I am use to it now at least now I know why Im diffrent just too bad it took 30 years to figure out what it was

[Pinay_ako]

Sorry to hear this

[APrettyLittleLady87]

That's not jealousy.

That's a pathetic spineless coward that is toxic and controlling. The sort that most men and women avoid because they're not worth the bother of getting to know.

I've had employees like that with spouses or boyfriends like that at one of my businesses. Guess what. She didn't have him charged for harassment... I did. Because his birth certificate had more value than he did as a man.

[xJayleenx]

I haven’t acted out in jealousy yet because I haven’t had a situation happen to me with my boyfriend of two years yet 😂 but I’d probably self isolate myself and then tell him how I feel then after he explains things I’ll probably feel calm again.

[xJayleenx]

Thank you for mho 💗

[ChiTown33]

Trust is paramount in a relationship. You have to trust your partner. Nothing will kill a relationship faster. Problem is most people don't communicate enough in relationships on this so they resort to vindictive actions instead. Which is not healthy and just further strains the relationship. I tell her what I need to feel confident in her. And I hope she feels she can do the same with me, as I don't want her feeling anxiety or that she can't trust me. But if we communicate and her actions don't reflect that then we need to talk about the future of our relationship.
For a relationship to be healthy and prosper both have to trust, communicate, and there has to be mutual respect. I don't want to be in relationship where we don't have that for eachother.

[crossdressingrihno]

Nope and jealous girlfriends are the absolute worst thing. Like I'd argue that jealous girlfriends might actually be worse than abusive ones and I'm talking like verbally emotionally abusive then again most jealous girlfriends are also abusive and the ones that aren't are still a major pain in my butt

[RavVid]

Well I like your concept. I would have to say, i'd appreciate her putting me into this power position. And verifying it to my boss and potentially - even better - my fellow workers. I think it would get me a promotion, albeit at the cost of buying a few beers for those who fielded the call

[AviatorTom]

I'm not the jealous type, though I am sometimes envious when my SO gets to do something I like without me.

If my SO called my manager to see if I was at work, I'd have a serious discussion with her when I got home from work. I'd want to know her view... what have I done to make her jealous?

[DiegoO]

I don't remember been jealous. For me jealousy is a sign of insecurity. Some think it means that you care for someone, but nobody who is jealous thinks everything is alright and will be alright with the relation they are in. If you fear things will go down south because your partner or friend is gonna end up with someone else—rather than you—, you got issues to solve. Frankly I would rather keep single than having to deal with a jealous partner.

Jealousy is a gigantic red flag for me.

[MrPickles13]

I don't think I would be. The only thing is at times with my closest friend I do message a bit to much as they have said. But I get stuck in my own head and then I get really anxious that they are mad at me. Sk it's not really jealous it's more just insecurity and anxiety.

[DermalPunch]

I am jealous for sure. If you saying stuff that doesn't add up. Changing up behaviours or omitting and or lying about small details I will flame and interrogate your ass.

[Guardian45]

Hot-blooded by chance?

[DermalPunch]

@Guardian45 no, i am very cold in interrogation mode. I come with points and counterpoints. Hot-blooded people can't be so logical.

[WhereIsMyMind]

No, not really. If I trust someone then I don't have any reason to be jealous, because I have faith that they aren't going to go and do something behind my back.

[Gent207]

If they could not see reason than I would leave them. No trust, no relationship.
Life is too short to waste on people that don't value or respect you.

[ObscuredBeyond]

I'd need to start seeing a list of reasons to suspect something is off. Otherwise, I start off pretty trusting. But once my trust is broken, it's super hard to win it back.

[Valso]

I am jealous but my jealousy isn't like that of any other guy. If I suspect something's going on between her and another guy, I'll stop talking to her or reduce the talking to only essentianls and distance myself from her. If she's smart enough, she'll sense something's wrong and she'kl ask me. If she doesn't, I'll eventually ghost her.

[Pinay_ako]

Why can’t you be upfront instead of ghosting? Then call it quits

[Valso]

You mean asking her what's going on between her and the other guy? Oh, yeah, that will go well...

[qwert1234]

Me? No.
Dealing with a jealous girlfriend? If it's just random, I just assure her that whatever she is jealous of is nothing.

If it's like on a daily/common basis - we break up.

[Apulu_Imback]

Jealousy till some extent is cute. But too much of it shows that one is obsessive and toxic.

[Blackcupcake]

that’s not jealous that’s toxic and controlling💀 and I wouldn’t deal with anyone like that, I’d just cut them off asap

[Juxtapose]

Maybe I would be jealous but when people lose interest in me my interest in them dries up on the spot 🤷‍♂️

You're pretty much going to be as attractive overall as you make me feel.

[spartan55]

Not in the least. How would I deal with one? I wouldn't.

[Andres77]

I used to be, not anymore.
I've had some pretty bizarre experiences that have helped me move beyond.
Raunchy, actually.

[Guardian45]

Ok. I'LL TOFTT! What happened?

[Andres77]

@Guardian45 I had a rough relationship during two failed marriages. I started this one with a very unhealthy mind..
My wife realized I was a little sick. Not perverted, just unhealthy. Horrible self esteem.
I got the therapy I needed and she's been very careful with her interactions with others to make sure she is always correct in her actions. At first I tested her, she never found out and she always passed with flying colors. I wasn't setting her up, just showing up unannounced or watching her from a distance. I stopped. And she's open about anything and everything anyway. Good run for 19+ years now.

[Guardian45]

Third time was the charm!

[Andres77]

@Guardian45
Pure blessing.
I felt like I never deserved her but she saw something in me... she's happy. I can't complain.

[Phoenix98]

Nope if you’ve earned my trust then you got till you give me a reason not to trust you anymore.

[libsaretards]

No. I am trusting until you give me reason not to, at which point the relationship ends.

[Guardian45]

A little jealousy can be sexy, but when it becomes a green-eyed monster, then it's time to DTMFer!

[kao118]

I’m a bit jealous, it’s true. Or I’m just a soft bitch who likes assurance sometimes, it happens

[driven159]

jealousy is not cute its immature and controlling so saying that they would not be my girlfriend so there would be no dealing with it

[innerman]

I think am a clingy boyfriend
I want you to be with you when I want to be with you... I hate missing someone. It’s the worst

[neoagent1]

I've never been with someone like this but if I was that relationship would be over quick.

[RACSKC0B]

You're an adult, tell me you're not asking for advice about your situation here?

[Pinay_ako]

🤣 this isn’t a personal question… 😑. What’s your answer?

[RACSKC0B]

If you're legitimately not doing anything wrong (like everything you do in his absence, you would still do in his presence), he's not your dad, or the law... tell him to kick rocks, or act right.
Because you can only punish me once, maybe twice, for something I didn't do, if it happens again I might as well be doing the thing I keep getting in trouble for, since it doesn't matter if I did or didn't do it, I get punished either way.

[truthisthree]

give me your
social
passport
ID

and retina scan

lol

[dolemite89]

no being jealous is for guys who have a scarcity mindset when it comes to girls
their dating.

[Agape93]

Nope, and I don't date jealous people

[Pinay_ako]

How will you know they’re jealous? If you are not in the relationship yet

[Agape93]

I have my own vetting process. And the moment I see it, to me that's not only jealousy but dishonesty as it means they hid it from me.

[motownplayer2000]

They are fired right away.

[Anpu23]

I am not and I would leave someone like that

[Avadarling]

IM really not at all I don’t think at least!!

[pink-jilly]

No not at all.. I’m chill

[IsoUser]

WTF, Why the hell would I be?

[Alex8736]

Steer as clear as possible from people like that

[Fuentes]

She would be dumped, I don't deal with crazy.

[DermalPunch]

Crazy and jealous are two different things.

[Fuentes]

@DermalPunch jealousy is crazy because you are hounding me about stuff & things that aren't happening like a schizo which = crazy.

[DermalPunch]

People can act crazy and it has nituing to do with jealousy. Someone can be jealous and calmly express their concerns.

[Fuentes]

@DermalPunch did you read the question and the description thatbis jealousy ans that type of jealousy is crazy or did you not know their is more thennine type of jealousy?

[DermalPunch]

Yes I did. I was just havung a discussion with you. Jealousy is a feeling. It doesn't equate crazy behaviour automatically is all I am saying.

[Fuentes]

@DermalPunch well ofc, I am just saying if a girl is accusing me of being somewhere I'm not and wants me to prove it is crazy is all lol

[Hanrej]

I'm nothing like that. 😊

[Xtendable]

No, not the jealous type

[JohnK123]

Nope hahaha r u

[Pinay_ako]

🤣 I could be if you give me a reason to

[JohnK123]

Lmao

[NathanDavis]

not at all...

[Preeti161101]

I am not

[Smf1989]

I am not