Is it ok if I chatting with someone who already in relationship?

[bubblegunnn]

I met this guy 2 years ago on omegle, moved to snap, we had a really good time and always chat everyday, shared our moments, video call pretty often, flirt abit, and i started to confess my feeling after he told me he have a crush on me. I like him too, he's so cute and funny and we have many common interest, we want the same thing to be girlfriend boyfriend but realized that never gonna happen cuz he live abroad.

By the time, he always told me he's lonely, so i told him to get a girlfriend.. and a year later he really did, we didn't talk that much that time.. and recently he texted me again few times within 2 months and we talked a lot and i feel like we r kinda connected again. I thought he broke up w his girlfriend so i asked him about his girlfriend and turned out they r still together and everythings good..

Am i a bad girl to still chatting with someone i liked even tho he already in relationship w someone else?
Why do u think he texted me?

[In_Trance]

seems pointless to me.
what if you were the girlfriend and another girl was chatting to your boyfriend? Is that ok?

[bubblegunnn]

What if the boyfriend who started it first?

[In_Trance]

So that would make it ok if it was happening to you? Is that what you're saying?

[bubblegunnn]

Im confused how.. i feel like i interrupt their relationship, but i also dont want to ignore him as we were close and that sounds rude to me.. i won't text him too if he doesn't text me

[In_Trance]

You did and that's exactly how you should feel.
Put yourself in his girlfriend's position

[bubblegunnn]

I think, i rather tell him i dont wanna interrupt their relationship, instead of ignore him and make he wondering why i ignore him

[In_Trance]

I think you would do that just to keep options open for the future. I would advise against.
He's doing this to his girlfriend now it's only a matter of time until he does it to you too.
Block him

[bubblegunnn]

Block? He doesn't flirt or anything and i block him outta nowhere without telling the reason 🙄

[Wise4myage]

Its fine as long as you keep things non sexual.

[bubblegunnn]

Finally

[Wise4myage]

What, lol.

[bubblegunnn]

Ill text u personal

[OlderAndWiser]

Doesn't matter why HE is doing what he is doing; why are YOU doing this?

Soetimes, people "chase" relationships that are imposible to attain because they want are scared to really be in a relationship but want to convince themselves that they are making an effort. What is motivating YOU to do this?

[bubblegunnn]

Because we were close n i dont wanna ignore him without reason and make him wondering "why she doesn't reply my chat"

[OlderAndWiser]

hy haven't you told him that you are not comfortable with this and want to exit?

[bubblegunnn]

Thats the proble sirrr.. i wasn't not comfortable nor dont want to exit 💀
But we are not texting anymore since 2 days ago

[OlderAndWiser]

Why aren't you looking for a relationship with someone who lives near you?

[bubblegunnn]

Because white guys is my type and can't find it in where i live

[OlderAndWiser]

Then you should move to where there is a good supply of Caucasian males.

[bubblegunnn]

If i could i would trust me

[OlderAndWiser]

In what country are you?

[bubblegunnn]

Indonesia

[OlderAndWiser]

That explains much!

[Andres77]

Depends on what you're texting about.

He might be moving closer to ending it with her and he kinda wants to recharge your connection so you're there if/when he does break up.

Sounds like he needs to make a decision about the other girl and then reach out. Otherwise he's using you as a buffer and not being fair to her. And if he does break up with her to reconnect with you you'll always have doubts about whether he's going to do the same thing to you as he's doing to her.

[bubblegunnn]

It was normal convos without any sexual context..
Like how r u, what u been doin, hows weekend, amd we talked bout obi wan kenobi show and star wars universe as we have somethin in common

[Andres77]

Seems safe but it leaves the door open.
How would you feel if you were the girlfriend?
And what's the status/trajectory of their relationship?

[bubblegunnn]

Ikr or maybe he just only want reconnect w me again like u said..
If im his girlfriend, i would be mad to whom started it first.. which is he, so im gonna be mad at my boyfriend and if i feel uncomfort i tell him to stop..
Also it wasn't flirt tho
Their status was good tho, he said she gon move in soon

[Andres77]

Do you still do video chat?

[bubblegunnn]

No.. last time we had video chat was year and a half ago.. he wasn't in relationship and wasn't have girlfriend.
But we were kinda have a thing, he told me he really had a crush on me but its in the past okay

[bubblegunnn]

I actually had a crush too on him

[Andres77]

What country is he in?

[bubblegunnn]

he's from and live in US

[Andres77]

Where do you live?

[bubblegunnn]

Indonesian lol
IK IK

[vald9inches]

Yea you can text him and stuff and no you are not bad or anything like that i think thats normal that you want to do it

[bubblegunnn]

Remembering we had no sexual context right

[vald9inches]

What do you mean?

[bubblegunnn]

We meant me and him didn't flirt or sexting

[Anonymous]

You're an online friend. It's "bad" for you because you like him now and let yourself like him.

[bubblegunnn]

No, i like him a year and a half ago. Not now

[Opinion Owner]

Well then you're just online friends. Can't people in relationships have friends? Granted his wife might get jealous or disagree? lol Even though she probably has some male friends. It would be interesting to know if she knows about you or not.

[RuthlessAggression]

NOPE

[bubblegunnn]

Why not?

[RuthlessAggression]

because we all know your intentions are

LEAVE HIM ALONE

[bubblegunnn]

He texted me first tho, should i ignore him?

[RuthlessAggression]

YES!

[bubblegunnn]

But it will be rude 😭

[RuthlessAggression]

Not at all

You don't have to reply to anyone you don't want to reply to

[bubblegunnn]

Well i want to! Also just wonder why he hit me up again for months

[RuthlessAggression]

NOT GOOD

It's not ok to talk to a married man hun, we know what you're doing and it's NOT OK

[bubblegunnn]

he's not marrid yet, its only his girlfriend not wife

[RuthlessAggression]

Same idea hun

It's his girlfriend, HIS GIRLFRIEND

[bubblegunnn]

Then whyyy he texted me again

[RuthlessAggression]

Why you think. DON'T ENCOURAGE IT