I have a feeling my boyfriend is using his phone to cheat, here are some of the signs I'm worried about.. • He started going to the toilet more a few times a day which was very different then normal routine • He just seemed more secretive with his discord and other things on his PC and phone • When I mentioned my insecurities he made jokes saying how if he was I'd never find out and that he'd just delete the stuff • He started doing more things for me and says things like I don't deserve you and I'm so lucky to have you and he feels like a bad boyfriend • When I ask what he does at night on his phone he says YouTube, but when he's with me he goes on Reddit and changes it to that • He never posts on his reddit account unless he's with me, then I don't see him for a few days and it hasn't been active • He has had a new phone for less than a week as his old one was packing up, he still uses his old one and often takes his old one with him when he leaves the room or goes to work, when I ask him as to why he's taking it with him and using 2 phones he says its because he needs to set up apps on his new phone and has authenticators and stuff..
Its only been less than a week so I'm hoping he doesn't continue using his old phone I know his passcode and he tells me I can check his phone whenever I want to it I'm ever worried, I also have bpd so it's hard to tell if I'm just insecure or if it's genuine
Not trusting shady situations is not insecurity, it’s instinct.
If you don’t trust him or his actions do more research. Do you have his new phones passcode? If not text him cute little memes or something and catch his new phones passcode and check it when he’s sleeping.
Tbh most of my parters came from my place of work and I bounce and party girls / club goer girls are probably notch worse than tinder girls ( also probably goes for men too). Not that I pre-determinedly distrust them but I’m getting to the point that I’ve gotten cheated on by a few. My first serious one caught an STI (we would go in together and get checked and she tested positive on the 6th, the funny thing is it was her who wanted to do that so she knew I wasn’t cheating), my 4th and 5th I both caught cheating by going threw they’re phone.
Life can be shitty but do what’s in your best interest first. If you think he’s cheating and breaking your trust it’s a hell of a lot less bad if you snoop through his phone rather than him disrespecting you and staying with a gross liar. If he catches you snooping and really cares about you he will understand where you’re coming from and try to be as open as possible.
If he’s a good man ( with morals , forgiveness and understanding ) and not cheating he won’t say no petty shit like “I can’t believe you don’t trust me” or bring up necessity for privacy over the fact you have doubts over his shady actions.
Edit: when I said 6th I meant 6th STI checkup and when I said 4th and 5th j meant Girlfriends. Also don’t blame your dis-order on it you would only be hurting yourself more by gaslighting yourself and giving a potential cheater a door to gaslight you as well. Bipolar disorder does not mean your not allowed to freely think or that you should dis associate from your thoughts, doubts or beliefs. And talk to your friends and talk to your friends and family so you have people to fall back in just in case the worst is true.