My ex said: " if you wanna see other people go ahead, I’ve come to realise that I’m a lost cause love-wise…I can' t have a normal life now". Why?

[Deimy]

[OlderAndWiser]

IF he's your "ex," why does it matter what he says?

[Deimy]

Cause I love him but I now he has a hard time now in his life , he has to change his job cause where he worked conditions were terrible and he tried so hard but nobody cares and he is insecure

[OlderAndWiser]

So he’s not an ex.

[Deimy]

We still talk

[OlderAndWiser]

You have remained in contact and you care about each other. And I assume that you aren't dating anyone else, right? That really doesn't sound like a break up.

[FilmGuy93]

He thinks he's too damaged to emotionally connect with someone and he doesn't want to prevent you from connecting with people who can actually give you what you want/need emotionally.

[Deimy]

Yes, I think the same he is depressed... but I love him and support him

[FilmGuy93]

I once heard someone say something that struck me as incredibly simple and yet also incredibly profound. Hopefully you can gain some benefit from their words for this situation as well. They said "when someone tells/shows you who they are; believe them the first time."

Your ex is telling you who he is right now. He's telling you to stop wasting your time hoping for something from him that he cannot give you. Please believe him.