Is Pervy Boyfriend Bad?

[Anonymous]

I talk with my girlfriend Pervy sometimes, she says she is okay talking about it. But i doup... so really girlfriend are okay talking pervy things with boyfriend right?

[SueShe]

If my memory is correct, the word "pervy" stands for "perverted. By definition, perversion is

"sexual behavior or desire that is considered abnormal or unacceptable".

An open source dictionary states that a perversion could be summarized as a form of human behavior which deviates from what is considered to be orthodox or normal. Although the term perversion can refer to a variety of forms of deviation, it is most often used to describe sexual behaviors that are considered particularly abnormal, repulsive or obsessive.

If I go according to the definition of those 2 sources, then I consider it as NOT okay to talk about those things with a boyfriend/girlfriend. Why would anyone even come up with topics like that in any normal conversation or relation?

[PrettyPriya]

You beat me to it. 🙂

[SueShe]

@PrettyPriya by 3 short minutes, yes. Wow, I came in solid first :-)

However, I like the reply you gave. I always just stick to the definition of the dictionary.

[PrettyPriya]

@SueShe Thanks! I would assume there are degrees of “prevy” as well. Lucky for me, the pervertedness level in my home is non existent. Whew, dodged a bullet there.

[SueShe]

@PrettyPriya Great. This is the kind of home I like. Also, I hope that Mr. B** is doing well in these difficult times.

[PrettyPriya]

@SueShe he is hanging in there, thanks. I had passed your and everyone else’s kind words and he was more than appreciative.

He was blown away how many people that he is a stranger to said such nice things. We both appreciate it. I’m in process of moving my existing travel plans up in time so I can be there.

Our original intention was travel together in August (second week) to take care of some wedding related things. I'm hoping I’ve got this sorted now.

Talking to airlines is like hitting yourself in the head with a hammer.

[SueShe]

@PrettyPriya I know what you are talking about when you mention the word "airlines". I grew up in that field (more or less) and if you need any tip or info, let me know if I can try to help you out.

[PrettyPriya]

I’m not sure what the definition of “pervy” means. That could mean a range of perverted statements. I guess it will depend on what is said. I can say that my fiancé isn’t someone I would consider “pervy”. He doesn’t make sexual remarks to me.

Sometimes he is goofy about things but not what I would call a pervert. Our intimate time that we spend together is pretty much limited to weekends when we actually have time. During the week, we are both quite busy. We each have careers and things to do.

We own a house which requires chores and upkeep. I only mention this because it relates to your question. We have so much going on that pervy things really aren’t going to get him anywhere since we don’t have much time for intimacy during the week.

I guess as long as you keep it between the two of you and she doesn’t care, what you do in your own home is your business and choice.

[Emiliamazing]

Talking about certain subjects in private can be cause arousal, but the timing needs to be right. It’s likely other actions would cause a nice arousal:)

a back rub, a compliment, a little romance not derived from pornography, etc

[Anonymous]

The problem is sex talk always seems like fun for guys but for most girls it becomes boring very quickly.

[Asker]

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