Am I overly-sensitive for hating my "father" over this?

[Anonymous]

My name is Isabella. Growing up, my "father" never acted much like a grown adult... at all. He would always tell me that I was a boy named Bill, and that I had balls. He knew it pissed me off because I knew very fucking well I wasn't a damn boy, and it sure as hell wasn't funny at all to me. It still REALLY pisses me off to this day. I could say that I hate him for it. Mind you, he kept this up from when I was toddler to an 18 year old. My mom told me I was overreacting and it's not that serious.

[SkyeSymes]

Seems like he was abit of a weirdo no offence hope he's not around still now! people like that don't deserve kids, People out there can't even have kids and you got people in the world who goes out they're way to mentally abuse there's! If he is still in you're life find a way to get away from it won't help you in any way. If he's not around you anymore then learn to move on from it people have been through far worst although it still isn't right! Hope things are better now for you.

[Asker]

Thank you.

[roy_ricky09]

Wait what!!!

[SkyeSymes]

@roy_ricky09 ?

[Anonymous]

Of course men will say that it's an overreaction when it's a man doing it. Your father is fucking disgusting, and in now way are you overreacting. I hope guys know why most women are gay.

[RasmusAiken]

Your 'father' was cruel to amuse himself by telling this lie to a toddler and repeating it until you became an adult. A truly loving dad might lightly tease but he would always reassure his little girl that she was fully feminine and everything a dad dreams of.

[Anonymous]

Hating him is a bit strong, but it's not good practice to promote a misleading gender type to a child as they are coming to understand themselves and the world about them.

Sounds like you're mother didn't help either.

[roy_ricky09]

Yes you are overreacting.
Most of the fathers treat their baby girls as gous, to make them strong in this harsh world. That is only to protect you.
He's your father and has more life experience than you. Once you reach his age or become a mother someday, you will understand

[Anonymous]

Did you ever tell him how it made you feel (directly say it)? If so, and he did it anyway, it's extremely immature of him. However if you never did directly (even if it was "obvious", the words need to be said). But yes if he knows and did it anyway, you can hate that part of him for sure. As with anyone. Him being your father is irrelevant as far as "dismissing" those kind of feelings or actions like that being "acceptable", they aren't.

[Opinion Owner]

It's a lack of respect regardless.

[Opinion Owner]

In his mind, he might see it as "harmless teasing", that's why it's important for you to directly tell him how you feel about it. And that's hard when it's a parent, but if it's bothering you that much, it's damaging your relationship with him, so communication is a must!

[Plinko]

Your mom is right. It's a joke, even if it's a shit one.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Throw back the same energy and say he is a woman missing the balls lol

[BLP11520]

You are not overreacting.. what an asshole. My Dad was a mean jerk. Mom was a wall flower

[davner]

gives me elder brother vibes lol.

[Anonymous]

That sounds like child abuse to me.

[roy_ricky09]

Wtf!!! 😳😳😳😳

[Anonymous]

I agree with your mom.

[Opinion Owner]

Are you a tomboy? My sister is huge tomboy and I tease her and say she's basically my brother.

[Asker]

No, but even if I was, you don't tell a little girl she has a dick.

[Opinion Owner]

Well, you said you were old enough to know "damn well you weren't a boy", it doesn't seem like he was trying to trick you into believing you were a boy - he was just pushing your buttons. that's what dads do. I just dont think it's much of a reason to hate the guy.