Growing up, my dad was financially supportive and offered life advice. I'm grateful for that but at the same time, I don't know how I should feel about his other side. He was always distant and most of the interactions that I had was him were uncomfortable. He would always criticize most of the things I say and do. He would always point out my sister's weight by saying "guys don't like that" which would upset me seeing my sister hurt by his remarks. His words hurt and despite that, he tells me that my sister and I are acting "too sensitive". Every time he saw me cry, he would tell me to suck it up because I was acting selfishly (acting like a spoiled brat basically). When I was twelve, like any other child I was upset and cried about a certain situation in front of my dad. He threw a piano chair and yelled at me to "call the cops I dare you". When I was fourteen, I was being a brat and I regret it but I didn't think it was right for my dad to kick me in the stomach several times until my mom had to bring herself in to stop him. Every time I bring this up to my mother, she always tells me to be grateful for having a "perfect" dad living under a roof. Are my emotions valid or am I spoiled?
Am I being spoiled for disliking my father?
