My friend seems to be interested in my ex, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

Ok so I (29m) have an ex I'm close friends with (25f). I was hanging my friend (28m) and we discussed women we were seeing and I mentioned my ex is coming to visit me, he wanted to see what she looked like so I showed him a picture of her. She is pretty attractive and he instantly seemed interested and even asked if I'd get him her number. I felt awkward and said "I don't know" and have been thinking about what I should do next. My ex is single and so is he, he does see women off places like tinder though, he mostly just dates rather than has relationships. I think he wants me to hook him up with her.

[Gent207-2]

So admit it you have feelings for her and the idea of her being with another man especially your guy friend makes you uncomfortable.

Just tell you are uncomfortable with the idea and move on

[Asker]

I'll consider this if I decide I'm too uncomfortable with it.

[Jacobbbb]

Well she's your ex. Do you still have feelings for her? I wouldn't have any problems with my friends dating my ex I'd just tell them best of luck cause they'll need it 😆

[Asker]

Well we broke up when she moved away for school and stayed friends, she's actually a pretty awesome girl! Thing is we've been friends for awhile and we haven't even discussed anything intimate in so long so I don't think anything would happen between us lol.

[Jacobbbb]

I see. Well follow your heart. If you're still good friends with her I understand being a little attached still. I guess... it's kinda dumb to say no to the friend since you technically aren't dating her. He might think you're weird or something lol. Do you not feel comfortable letting him take his shot with your ex?

[Asker]

I am a little attached I guess, but I think you're right about it being weird that I refuse to help him out with this. They are both single and he is making it clear that he wants to get with her. Most of my friends dated a lot and have been with the same girls but I haven't experienced that yet, but it could happen when she visits if my friend plays his cards right. I feel like I'd probably be a good friend to him if I helped her out plus she hasn't been seeing any guys lately either.

[Jacobbbb]

It's up to what you feel comfortable doing honestly. If you still feel some way for the girl, I don't think it'd hurt to take another shot if that's what you wanna do. But if you wanna help your friend out, then that's also okay lol

[Asker]

Do you think if I gave him a green light there would still be a chance for her and I in the future?

[Jacobbbb]

Maybe not. I think if you still like her you should tell her, and be honest with the friend about it too. But... if you wanna go the other route it's letting your friend have have his chance

[Asker]

Do you think I should just bring up the friend to her first and see what she says?

[Jacobbbb]

Apologies I got the notification for this earlier but I guess I never responded lol. But yes that's actually a good idea. It'd be a good way of seeing her perspective on it, plus it's you asking her, the person who has presumably been pretty close with her this entire time. Go for it

[Asker]

Yeah I'm kinda thinking that if I bring it all up to her and ask her properly then that would probably give my buddy the best chances of actually getting with her too

She acts reserved to most people and hasn't had too much experience with guys but when we were together she was pretty wild and there's things I know both her and my friend both like, so it could end up being good for those two lol

[Anonymous]

He is your ex, so nothing you can do.

[Asker]

No lol the girl is my ex, the guy is my friend.

[Guy13]

Yep, pass your Bro some goodies IS what he's asking. Can you do that?

[Asker]

Lol basically I think that's what he wants ultimately, too hook up with her because she's attractive, I never was in a situation like this and don't know if it'd be awkward with them in the future.

[Guy13]

If it were me..."I don't care but I'm not your Momma or Pimp"... " Make your own acquaintance, get the number yourself (no one gave it to me, bitch) and blaze your own trail... I don't think you'll get it anyway."

[Guy13]

Make sense?

[Asker]

Yeah I mean that's fair too, I feel like I'd be a good friend to him if I helped out, I still think he'd have to do most of the work lol.

[Guy13]

If you do not get involved (provided data to either side) THEN you are not caught in the middle. If you still love her THEN you better tell your Horndawg friend as much. I would like to know what your final decision is AND how it plays out... It's the boy in the man thing, you know !!!

[Asker]

I understand lol.

[Avicenna]

If it doesn’t bother you, hook him up. My best friend once told me I should date his ex-wife.

[Asker]

I'm sure he'd be super happy if I did that lol. Do you think it would change my friendships with either of them?

[Avicenna]

Without knowing all of you, I can’t say, but if you can handle them kidding each other in front of you, you should be OK.

[Avicenna]

* kissing

[Asker]

I'm pretty close with both of them but I've never introduced them to eachother, I would probably feel a little bit jealous to see them kiss but I guess also happy for them since they're both having fun (I do care about both of them)

[Avicenna]

Sunds like you can handle it, so go ahead and do it.

[Asker]

Do you think I should still do it if I might want to get back together with her?

[Avicenna]

No, definitely not if you want to get back together with her. But you need to be realistic about whether she'd ever want to do that.

[Asker]

That's fair... It could potentially be a good way to move on by setting them up together, he's brought it up since our hangout and I know he's excited at the idea because she's attractive lol

I haven't told her though lol should I build him up to her and encourage her to let loose with him?

[Avicenna]

Well, use your judgement. You don't want her to think that you're putting your fingers too hard on the scale for your friend. Just introduce them and, yeah, say a few good things about him, but don't overdo it.

[Asker]

That's pretty smart, I really don't want to offend her after all! I should probably tell him he needs to put in the effort if he really wants to see her and potentially get into her pants lol maybe I could just offer advice to him to help the man out?

[Avicenna]

There you go

[Asker]

Lol thank you so much

[Avicenna]

No problem!