What Happened? We went from the “A” Team couple that everyone wanted what we had, to not living together, fighting all the time… what happened?

[D2wHITe]

Before Christmas I had come across something that pointed to her being unfaithful. I came at her with the evidence and she blew up and said she didn’t do anything and didn’t need to look at anything. She moved out Christmas Eve. She still denies it to this day but the evidence pointed to possibly doing a random hook up situation and been doing it for years. We went from making love 4 to 7 times a week, 6 years in, to maybe 2 times every two weeks. Someone was going to my house after I would leave for work. Was she cheating and now mad I know, or did I ruin It by accusing her?

[PrettyPriya]

Ok, I look at this as two possibilities as to what happened. I will separate them into separate discussions because it is impossible to guess without knowing if she cheated on you or not, whether you think she did is irrelevant in one scenario.

Ok, so scenario number one. You caught her red handed cheating. Whatever evidence you unearthed she thought you would never find. She went into defense and tried to turn the situation around on you. It was her defense mechanism and that is what happened. Now, the intimacy is gone and she is getting distant.

Scenario number two. She didn't cheat no matter what sort of evidence you think you have/had and you really made her angry for accusing her of something she didn't do. Rightfully so because you are saying you don't trust her when she actually didn't cheat.

As you can see, it is impossible to tell unless you had indisputable evidence, which by your details doesn't seem like it. So, I cannot say for sure, but that is likely the cause of the change. She either cheated and is now playing defense and trying to turn it on you or she didn't and is just plain mad.

[Chazmatazz269]

If she left, she was cheating. If not, she would have stayed and helped you to understand what really happened and helped you work through whatever insecurities caused you to suspect her of cheating.

[Avicenna]

there's no way for us to being able to tell, but what does your gut tell you? What evidence is there? What underlying problems have you had in your relationship?

[exitseven]

I don't know if she is guilty but she gave up awfully quick. Maybe that gives you your answer.

[maximumpower]

You finally saw what she was really like.
Congratulations. It only took me 20 years to catch on. The lies continue - just not involving me anymore.

[Guy13]

Life sucks...