What’s something you used to believe earlier about relationships, but you don’t believe it any longer? (Page 2)
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I always thought it would be just spending time and doing things together, and being something "official".
But much more than that, it is about that person who is constantly at the back of your mind. Considering for them whenever you plan your schedule. Thinking about them when you see things they like. Adapting to their personality, character, needs, likes and dislikes. Its about the small things, not the big events.
I used to belive if you're a good person , you won't be change even you two will break up. From my previous experience, my ex was a kindest person... most of his colleagues describes him "good person" but when we broke up he hated me afterwards.
That was the moment I don't belive in good guys anymore. Who knows they'll become a psychopath after the breakup lol
That Love is enough! That as long as you love each other, you can work through anything! Sometimes things come up, and no matter how much you love eachother, it is just not enough to be able to get through it in one piece as a couple!
That all it'll take for a woman to love you is to just be a good guy and to treat her right. I was so naïve in the past.
I used to believe That girls want our money. Even worse there were instances where i asked girls with jobs ( one of them was a SAP developer) if they want my money.
Couldn't have been more wrong, could i? It was a big doh for me.
Not all women are after money.. haha
nah. nowadays i want to cuddle the girls and not have any prejudices.
That men actually want your mind and body but they really just want u to stfu and lay on ur back if ur not a hoe they don't want you I'm built like a sex doll I've been told but never a beautiful or smart or funny but I'm always "sexy" or "hot" I hate this shit anyone hot is always a dick
Girl I thought it was only me going through this đ¤Śđ˝ââď¸
Nope apparently I'm not just good to be around I'm just good to screw
No girl you are worthy! From now on Iâve learned we just got a watch who we give our attention and time to! Trust me girl Iâve been in your position to many times
Oh ik I'm great guys are just special
I thought that dating as "official" as getting married. That if you agree to dating someone, you are essentially committed relationship waiting for marriage. You've already decides that you were going to marry this person but not now. In essence, I thought that dating was the same as an engagement.
The problem is socially. There is no real rule to when people are what. When you leave a person to their own decisions it will never go well.
If your culture or society would say the moment you hold hands with a person of the other sex is the moment you will marry that person and be with them forever than that's what you will think and abide to and so will the other sex. But when you have someone who has a completely different upbringing then that's the moment thinks start to break as there is no equal social thought of the two.
I used to think there where perfect men without flaws, lol. Now I know they are just humans like we all 😂
That's the way I used to believe about women.
That only young people can date. It was pretty shitty belief, but it was mostly influenced by TV.
The newer belief is no better. Some people pass their whole life without finding anyone to love. And that's okay.
I learned that if a person doesnât want to sexually satisfy you, itâs because they donât love you. Iâm not talking about extreme fetishes. Iâm just talking about general stuff like swallowing and anal. A girl would gargle semen and give up her ass to one person, and completely deny her next boyfriend. Itâs not that she canât handle it or itâs too painful, itâs literally just sheâs just not attracted to you enough to please you.
Man, swallowing and anal are not general stuff. A woman can love you and never done that before in her life because she doesn't want to. Regardless of what you see in porn.
Also, with anal there are some cares you have to take for it to be good for both of you. @laurieluvsit has a great MyTake on it I'm sure she doesn't mind me sharing here:
ANAL SEX 101 - How to make the first time, and every time, one of your greatest experiences, and pleasures, ever! â
@MAC1983 Sheâs talking about using enema bags which is for porn films đ umm no just squirt some lukewarm water and poop it out a few times and done. Only good advice she had was at the very last paragraph with position and relaxation.
I still believe this but no matter how much you love someone they are not gonna love you as much as you love them back
I'm always in relationships where I do most of the giving. It's basically a one way street relationship.
@Bob92220 same here
I've noticed that if I'm with someone who uses me I feel like I count. I have value to that other person. If I'm being used by a woman I enjoy the attention she gives me. I do realize that once I stop "giving" she disappears. I wish I wasn't this way.
That there's a special person waiting for you.. I don't believe that anymore.. I believe you mesh well with a person and that y'all make it work..
I used to believe and trust someone that broke my heart into pieces. It is hard now to trust another person again but I am trying to put down the many walls.
I completely understand. It's very difficult to heal from that type of trauma. Sometimes it takes a lifetime to heal. Sometimes it can't be healed.
Yep. I believed my ex wasnât capable of things. How wrong I was.
@GlassTop
Why is your ex holding a toxic grudge against you?
That you have to give in to them on everything to prove your love.
Nice!
I hope you're taking notes. So our pain is not in vain and you can avoid our disasters...đ
Absolutely! Most of my questions on here are about navigating and tackling relationships and dating.. the experiences of people older than me are helpful while trying to understand romantic relationships and avoiding disasters hahaha
Smart. Well done. I like how you think.
Thank you very much, thatâs very kind of you and your opinions help me a lot as well! Appreciate it (:
Cuz I've made so many stupid mistakes... I've got lots of advice.đ¤Ś
Lol, you give good advice though (:
that true love and soulmates are a myth. found out if you want a lasting relationship you both have to continue to put in the work to maintain it. which means both people staying healthy on a physically, mental and emotional level.
I used to believe there was someone out there for everyone but I found out that that's a lie. Some people were meant to be single like me.
Before: Marriage is a sacred bond & trust between partners
After: Marriage is a sham invented by women, for women and through which they very often plan and rip off the men. Women would be FAR less tempted to screw it up and we'd all be better off w/o it.
All relationships start to sour and breakups end bad. Itâs not true at all. Sometimes you guys just arenât working anymore and you both can amicably come to that conclusion and move on like adults🙂
That men cheat more than women. I don't believe that anymore.
That there is hope and true love, and that itâll last forever like it did with my grandparents
If it lasted for your grandparents it can for you. Itâs a lot of work and the right person. Not one âtrue loveâ like a Disney story but many possibilities and you two have to work for it
That person doesnât exist for me and nobody wants the same things as me with me. I give up
I wish I could experience real love like my grandparents
@Mess96
I was curious about your statement, "nobody wants the same things as me"
Can you give some examples?
Because everyone wants sex and casual stuff with me. Nobody wants what I desire.. a long lasting monogamous relationship, marriage, family, love for life