How do you move on from someone that you want but who doesn’t want you or love you in the same way?

[Anonymous]

[CaptainOverthink]

You make some hard choices, distance yourself from them. Stop whatever relationship you have with them.

Ofc you tell them if need be, that you don't feel good about the way things are and that you've made up your mind about moving on.
So you cut all connection, cry about it and make sure that you've gone through all the emotions and talked (ventilated your thoughts) to your friends (if you have those types or if you'd rather lean on family).

You make sure to put all doubt about it out of your mind by telling yourself the rational story, that you need someone who wants you in another way and that there's no point in overthinking this because all you can do is meet reality where it's at.

[ZackBan]

It takes humility.

Often times wanting someone even though they don't want you stems from ego and a lack of self esteem. Like getting that person to want you proves that you are desirable and failing to do so means you are a repulsive person.

You need to live with the fact that people are very different in terms of tastes and types and that your only chance at happiness is finding someone you want who wants you back.

In short: you move on by opening your mind to other options and potential partners.

[RosieMelts]

How do you move on?
how do you move on?

you move on! Lol

you literally move on with your life-you’re *doing something* in your life

you have a LIFE

live it to the best of your ability people! Y’all we can do this 😭😂

If you have nothing to do or no hobbies life treasures you’re gonna be depressed asf

Get out there and live your life and trust me it’s like a bicycle wheel, once it gets rollin’

You get that momentum you need to finally feel a refreshing breeze and soon enough, you’re away from that place you never wanted to be…

so get on the bike and move on!
it really is that simple : )

~All the best

[Anonymous]

Create some space between you and him/her so that you can move on from your romantic feelings. Stay busy, and surround yourself with loving, supportive people. It’s going to take time to get over them, just how it took time to fall for them. But you do get through it eventually.

[Pinay_ako]

By focusing on someone else or something. Keep myself busy. Cut my losses and move on! Can’t put my life on hold for someone who doesn’t care for me. Bye ✌️

[splkato]

Just click "Unsubscribe". We overrate some things at times. Accept when things don't work out. It's so simple. The same way you found that someone is the same way you will find another. Human being are animals; we are hunters in nature. Always looking out for a better adventure until we get contented. Before that, don't limit yourself to stress. There is so much love out there to enjoy. Tap out, heal, get your footing then get back to the game refreshed and updated.

[petitedollbabee]

After a year of my feelings for him not being reciprocated, I sat in my backyard for a day crying and finished off a bottle of wine. My feelings for him were gone the next day. I don’t recommend anyone else deals with that problem the way I did, but hey it worked for me.

[BlueScorpio]

You let yourself be sad, cry, and let your heart heal until you can get over them. I've had many of unrequited love incidents growing up, it makes you feel like your not good enough to love but eventually you will get back to your regular with time. You just have to yell yourself that personwasnt meant for you for a reason and that God has someone else best suited for you. You can't force or rush love, it has to be natural.

[EmbraceThePain]

For me, it's easy to not be involved with someone that I've liked but doesn't like me back. Why? Well, I just feel no more attraction towards her once I realize she's not for me and/or she doesn't like me. I don't remain fixated on someone that is not for me.

[itsalyssaagain]

Accept it and focus on something else. I just broke up with my boyfriend for that very reason. It's tough but I just choose to see things with my mind rather than my heart. The truth is he doesn't love me in the way that I love him, nor will he ever. It is what it is and I have to move on. Time heals everything.

[GlassTop]

Hard for me to understand how he loves you differently than what you want? Does he not live up to your standards?

[itsalyssaagain]

@GlassTop Because when you love someone you can only love them depending on how you feel about yourself. If you're depressed, insecure etc then it will reflect in the way you love others. I am anxious, so it's reflected in that I need reassurance in a relationship. My ex was very emotionally damaged, he could never open up to me and played games with me every single day. I was on edge and crying all the time.

[magiusX26]

there is no prescribed path you just do. some things that help are taling your mind off them/the situation with other things such as hobbies, finding other postive relationships such as friends, putting more focus on things like work. all this to distract yourself so that you can get over it with time.

[GlassTop]

I’m guessing you were in a relationship with them but they don’t want a serious relationship? Otherwise from what you said it sounds like it’s someone who refused to be with you from the beginning? If it’s the former, most guys make their intentions clear at the beginning. You can’t change a person to love. it would take a lot of convincing.

[Anonymous]

Real simple, you accept reality. Then you work on getting over that person and why you're hung up on them. You convince yourself there's no point in harboring feelings towards them as they don't share them with you. Eventually you accept it. And you NEVER let that person in your heart or head again!

[putAsmile0nURlips]

You just take the Undeniable hint and walk away... Don't even bother to attempt to get answers. Yea of course it will be absolutely painful and soul crushing but you HAVE TO KEEP WHAT LITLLE SELF RESPECT you have and protect it cause you will need it later...

[putAsmile0nURlips]

Oh yeah, then you throw thier shit away like they did to you...
I swear I hold no bad feeling*...

[QuietVerbena]

Force yourself to accept that they only like you as a friend. I’m usually on the other side of that one but I’ve been friendzoned once or twice.

[abc3643]

You don't, exactly.

What will happen - if you let it - is that, one day, someone will want you and then it is like the world is new again and the past becomes the past.

[bubblegunnn]

Find his bad behaviour that is a turn off for me.. or busy with someone new

[spartan55]

Why would you want someone who doesn't want you? That doesn't make any sense.

[jshm2]

Eh... take the hint, kiddo.

Not everything you want, wants you.

[driven159]

You stop wasting your time on someone that is not going to work out while you were wasting your time with then your Mr. perfect could of just past you by

[nickaboy]

I am dealing with the same dilemma now but it is a bit more complicqted cause she is also the only girl talking to me , but normally i would break contact. Its painfull but the easiest way.

[Hardworkingguy]

That has already happened to me.. I gave her all I had abd she still didn't love me back. So I left and seeked help from a psychologist, got my attention into something more productive

[TroyDT]

For me it's easy. Since I don't want to be with someone who is not into me, I just close that door and open another.

[TheSpaceGnome]

You realize you don't actually want them.
Why want a person who doesn't love you?