Do you think it's a good sign or a bad sign when someone makes you feel butterflies in your stomach?

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We often feel these "butterflies" when we really like someone, but some people seem to think it's a warning that the person who makes you feel this way is actually not good for you.
But what do you think? Good sign? Bad sign? No idea?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

It's a sign of strong attraction, BUT you need to know WHY you are feeling that attraction.

For example, a lot of women feel butterflies when they meet a top 5% guy - handsome, tall, successful, popular, etc. And on the surface, you'd think, why wouldn't you be attracted to that guy? He's got it all! Ahhh... you need to dive a little deeper and see the whole picture.

A guy like that has a lot going for him, yes, but the vast majority of those guys have some HUGE negatives that most women ignore, even if she sees them and are fully aware of them right from the beginning. Guys like that, who a woman finds SO attractive, will have 100 or 1,000 or 10,000 other women who find him attractive, so he's never going to be deeply invested in ANY woman, and he's unlikely to commit to any woman. He has no reason to - it's FAR more to his advantage to use a woman for a while, get all the sex he wants with a new girl, and then, when she starts being a hassle (because she wants "more"), he can dump her and move on to the next one. In this way, he never has to deal with the hassles - he gets all the benefits and little of the liabilities.

But, even when a woman KNOWS this about a guy, if she feels those butterflies, she's likely to continue dating him, denying those negative things about him exist, or deluding herself into believing that SHE is going to be the one to change him. This NEVER works.

If you know you are likely to fall into that, then following the butterflies is actually TOXIC for you, and should be seen as a red flag.

This will happen to some guys to, just not nearly as many, but, yeah, I've seen guys completely overlook or actively ignore major red flags because of "the feels", and it can go just as badly for the guy.

Of course feelings are important and play a role, but far too many people think that feelings are the only thing that matters. That's how you get yourself into the worst situations in your life: making your decisions based 100% on feelings. Remember: your feelings are GOING to change - you know how often your feelings change about things, so if you are basing relationships on feelings alone, you should absolutely expect things to go sideways, and it's not going to be good!

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

It's a sign, pay attention to it!

This is your sub conscious and possibly to theirs. The answer is deep in your childhood and personality. If you look for emotionally impacting learnings in childhood... there you will find those butterflies!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It depends. Sometimes the butterflies that I get in my stomach are having a rager and they wreak havoc - when this happens then I take it as a bad sign, it feels like nervous anxiety. I do enjoy the feeling of having butterflies in my chest though, feels like I’m in love and happy - that or I might have a heart disease.

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

Yes and no. Not knowing if he likes me back or not but I have some signs he likes me and then he really likes me is good!
no when I know he’s gonna hit me coz I broke something or lost something …

TadCurious · Answer

Bella I've always heard about the butterflies in the stomach thing but I don't think I've ever experienced it when I had a strong crush. I think it's supposed to be a positive thing though. I experience more of a positive and good tingle feeling.
🙂😊

s10sleeper · Answer

It’s your fight or flight response, caused by a rush of adrenaline, caused by fear of not knowing what’s about to happen, so it can be either. It’s actually a natural defense mechanism. It could happen because you are creeped out by someone or it could happen when you are attracted to someone and are nervous

BlueScorpio · Answer

It depends onthe situation. For example, you're walking to home alone at night and see someone you don't know following you, that can give you butterflies cause you sense danger.

If your around a group friends having a good time, and the guy you suddenly walks in and you get butterflies, it means fond of that person and probably have a crush.

Valso · Answer

If that means what I think it means (that thing about the bugs in the stomach), I would do anything in my power to kill these bugs, so that they never appear again and keep us either "friends only" or "sex only".

Years ago when I was younger and naive I would have said it's a good sign but not nowadays.

Daniela1982 · Answer

It just means you have been eating butterfly pupae again. Yuck! They were not as tasty as you might think!

Bolty44 · Answer

It's always good but most people will hurt you after they leave or change their behaviour that's why they say it's bad... If you know the person from long who is kind and hasn't changed and makes you feel like this marry them or be a bestie

Guccigabbana18 · Answer

To me it usually means I legitimately am attracted to them. It's a good sign at the beginning; however if it happens later on it could be ongoing nerves and feeling uncomfortable around them for some reason.

melanieeeB · Answer

Oh I have heard about that too, just a few days ago, that like you shouldn't be nervous around someone and I agree... I must say I can't remember having butterflies in the past, I know I was just gravitated towards someone

NathanDavis · Answer

I've never felt those butterflies... more like moths, but that was some Mexican food...

RosieMelts · Answer

Bad sign- Butterflies in stomach= anxiety If a person is a dare devil/ confident/ likes adrenaline rushes then irl go for it lol

darline19 · Answer

whenever I feel butterfly in my stomach, I take it as a bad sign. I don't like the feeling.

dustybiker · Answer

Butterflies are an excellent sign. Warning signs feel completely different.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

A good sign... I don't think it feels that they might be not good for you but more like you feel intimidated by the fact you actually found someone you like that much

OrallyFixated · Answer

I still get butterflies, and we have been together for 28 years. 🤷‍♀️

Light909090 · Answer

Nobody’s going to force me to eat a damn butterfly 🦋 if somebody even tries to do that I’m breaking their nose

spartan55 · Answer

Can't say that I've ever had that feeling BeeBella.

Still-alive · Answer

definitely a good sign for me... unless its with a person who's taken already or its unrequited.. then thats not good lol. i would have to chill for a bit for them to go away

JSmuve · Answer

I haven't felt butterflies in my stomach in over a decade. I honestly can't remember what it felt like, other than it was uncomfortable.

dolemite89 · Answer

i can distinguish between butterflies cuz i really like a girl and just a bad feeling about her 😅

monkeynutts · Answer

I think it's just a little nervous anxiety about being attracted to someone, it's very normal.

LemiaOfThunder · Answer

It depends on situation. Could be happy butterfliesnor warning.

ChiTown33 · Answer

What are butterflies in your stomach? That doesn't sound pleasant.

Do94btvf · Answer

For me it means that i am very attracted and am idealizing them and what they can offer me. Usually they aren't willing or able to love me.

Anonymous · Answer

Butterfly feeling usually happened to me when. Wasn’t experienced.

Anonymous · Answer

If she gives me butterflies in my stomach and tingling in my balls, I'm good to go!

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I'm not sure what to think

Anonymous · Answer

I don't really like people who know about me that much. I think a little bit of mystery will be good

Iron_Man · Answer

That’s a good sign

Jennz6 · Answer

Oh , that’s a good sign honey

Wise4myage · Answer

I've always thought it was a good thing.

bananathunder · Answer

usually a good sign in my opinion

QuietVerbena · Answer

Good sign!

Joker_ · Answer

great sign

Slim57 · Answer

Good usually

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