Give up on love and focus on career?

[Anonymous]

It's been 3 years I am looking for a relationship, didn't got a single girl, tried tinder , bumble, etc 0 swipe in 1 year.

I really wish i could find love but I am just too ugly and unlucky with love.

I am currently pre-placed in Barclays...
So If I really give up , I am not going going to look back. Will live my whole life alone.
I don't want to be someone's last settlement, or a gold- digger's target.
So it's better to just be alone,

[Guy13]

Man, if you whine this much at your age over Relationship... I have no doubt why you are single. No woman likes whiny vibes... they've got other girlfriends for that crap !! Man-Up and stop valuing yourself by beauty and your standing with a woman. No woman or man for that matter wants someone as shallow as that !!

[Asker]

Well I am not Whiny in person, I am whiny on this app cause here I can be myself without thinking of anyone finding out.
Well in IRL, I am the most helpful, cheerful and group type of person

[Guy13]

Gotcha…that’s the thing about the internet and why online dating don’t work. Everyone is pretty much their opposite in real life…

[Asker]

Yup, i got that when I got on bumble🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Dude, you're just starting your life and you're already giving up? No wonder no one's swiped.

[Asker]

Well it's been 3 years...
And if I actually succeed in job, I can do whatever I want, cause I'll have money

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Lol, "if".

Dude, get therapy. It isn't normal or healthy for you to feel like you should give up. You're probably dealing with depression and you need meds to help you deal with it.

It's okay to need therapy, dude. I've been in therapy for 5+ years and finally have a handle on my diagnosed anxiety disorder. Therapy and meds can really change your life in a good way.

You don't need to waste away, but you do need to put in effort. It's your choice, but if you choose to give up you only have yourself to blame.

[Asker]

I am doing just fine with my other parts of life, maintaining 9 sgpa,
Got pre-placement from clg.
Planning to get a place by rent for my own ( currently living in cot bases 😅😅).
Searching for a good internship, so that I can pay my own rent...
Just love - relationship, Only this aspect of life I have been struggling with.
I did get into one but she loved someone else, as soon as that person accepted her love. She left...

[Asker]

I am also taking mock interview of my classmates those who ask me for help.

[allgoodmyfoot]

What if a hottie falls for you at Barclays?

[Asker]

Nope, I won't mix up work life with personal life, and besides I am ugly😂😂😂 no way girl will fall for me

[allgoodmyfoot]

Dude we all make lists in our heads about what we want, how we want, where we want, but at the end of the day, things seldom go as per plan. So instead of thinking "I AM UGLY" focus on thinking "I AM GOOD AT XYZ". That would make a difference trust me

[allgoodmyfoot]

When you meet the right one you will definitely know, if not instantly then gradually, but you will know for sure

[Asker]

For starters I am not good at anything, average at gaming, average at coding...
And because of average coding I got this pre-placement.
Wish I had some talent.

But I don't, I changed from introvert to at least in a group, that was only big thing I was able to do.
Thing is not everyone have a talent, I can't even brag about things just to impress.

[Asker]

I am kind of the guy sensei, but with no hardwork or jujutsu 😂😂😂

[allgoodmyfoot]

Relax, empty vessels make the most noise, wise women understand. Be confident about yourself. You're good 👍🏻

[Asker]

😂😂😂 I don't have anything in which i could be confident enough 😂😂🤣.

[allgoodmyfoot]

Okay then you'll find an underconfident women like you. If not then an underconfident man. If not then an underconfident trans. You'll find someone

[Asker]

Lol 🤣🤣🤣, then better to give up right. I can just make just good enough money and just travel the world or sky diving, or bungee jumping, and settle in some other countries right..
Just a small dream but yes I'll try to achieve it.
Like that Michael and sox (check out there Instagram)
I'll get one dog or a cat.
I had a dog when I was in school.
And a cat when I was a baby.
I just might do this for my whole life

[allgoodmyfoot]

Sounds exciting to me

[Asker]

Righttttt...
Well living alone isn't that bad at all.
Sure u skip on marriage, having kids, sex and all but you can do whatever else u want.
Best part is you never have to worry about leaving money behind for someone, or have a sense of responsibility for someone else.
Your life your rules. Even if u get sick, or even die no strings attached, noone will be affected other then parents...

[Anonymous]

Given your age, that is not a bad idea.

[Asker]

Right?
I am kind of tired of giving it my all, trying to look nice, trying to be good , helping everyone who asks, even spoon feeding assignment to girls...

[Opinion Owner]

Plus, by focusing on your career is when love might find you.

[Asker]

Na man , If I am going to focus on career, I am giving up

[Asker]

#alone forever