I think it is starting to suck the life out of me and I love this man but what do I do?

[bbhhgirl]

So my boyfriend has depression and anxiety and currently going through a divorce and only gets to see his son every other weekend and once a week for 3 hours.
Today he asked for breakfast, I ordered it and then said we have to pick it up. He told me he needed me to make the decision on what to do and he can’t make it himself. So I told him let’s go in the house and eat then you can get on the road. He didn’t even eat half of his breakfast and he is just in this freaked out mood again and I don’t know what to do.

[lightbulb27]

you've got yourself into an emotional mess here. he's a mess emotionally and that is "normal" or the chaos in his life.

I got into what became a friendzone relationship years ago, she was divorcing... and not healthy, on meds. It took years and frankly, was a waste of time. you can't trust who they are because they are screwed up.

Years later I started relationship with my now wife who was divorcing but it was 4 years into her divorce and the emotional junk was in the past on her side.

Point being #1 maybe there's a pattern with you in whom you choose... do you like wounded birds maybe, maybe a caregiver? If so, then you'll have to figure out how much you can handle.

#2 yes, such scenarios will suck the life out of you. that's what happens when a relationship has one or two with emotional instability. Is that what you want and can handle right now? It is not fair to expect him to be healthy when you know he is not. He just got smacked in the heart! you aren't his #1 priority as yet. He's emotionally screwed up and might be for who knows how long. As well, he was married and ran into issues... those have not been worked out at all yet and need to be.

[exitseven]

He is going through a lot in his life. You deserve a lot of credit for being so supportive. You need to determine if this guy will eventually put the divorce behind him and get on with his life.

[bbhhgirl]

That’s my problem , how do I determine he is going to move on. How many months or weeks do I give him.

[exitseven]

That is a decision only you an make.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[Guy13]

Wow. You have much going on. Attend to yourself too as that is most important when you are stressed.

[Jamie05rhs]

"going through a divorce"

You really know how to pick 'em, don't you?

[Anonymous]

Then its time to think about moving on honey.