Has anyone ever been in a friends with benefits with a narcissist?

[Anonymous]

I think the guy who is my friend is a narcissist. I can’t talk about anything he does that bothers me without it becoming a personal attack. He becomes the victim. Everything has to be his way.
He can be really amazing at times.
He will say or do things to try to get a reaction out of me. He plays games.
He did distance himself/ignores me when we have a disagreement, until he is ready to see me again.

[quaranta]

This is not necessarily pure narcissism but the traits you're listing are anyway toxic and pathetic, especially the distancing after disagreement instead of facing it, and passive aggression to deal with his own fragility. These things together plus playing games show the profile of a guy who (I assume he is 30+) is still deeply immature and needs to use childish ways to communicate discomfort instead of just having a mature and chil communication that would be more than expected at his age, probably.
And given the age, very hardly he would even change his settled communication style, which is toxic and abusive (passive aggression is always abusive). He had plenty of chances in all these years to improve himself in his life, after mistakes and poorly managed relationships, yet he didn't. Why? The why, might be found in a narcissistic disorder, or trait at least.
So if you are considering a relationship with him, be very aware that this is what you will get in any case for all the duration of the relationship itself, he won't fix these lacks any time soon. You are warned about what you are going to get... And don't fall in the trap of thinking you could do something about it, you just cannot, and any time you submit to his "rules", you reinforce the mechanism, feeding his inner screaming kid, "confirming" he can pull out his caprices any time he wants, because afterall you'll still be there and absorb. So be aware of what you are allowing him to do, too.

[Finchie40]

Before calling someone a narcissist look at it from both sides , Most of you girls do that to your men and sadly to say 95 percent of the time you are the narcissist, Most of you girls have a loving caring guy and you eventuality criticize him and belittle him and compare him , your constant questioning to him is probably making him feel like you are trying to find flaws in him , to get your way , Girls love to start drama and point fingers at others over pointing fingers at themselves , she will see no wrong in her doing , she will act like he is playing victim when really he is probably just defending himself from you putting him down all the time , Again I ont know him or your relationship but a majority of the time it’s the girl that is causing shit for no reason

[spartan55]

You can't find a guy who is at least decent to fuck you?