Why the heck is he like this?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend wanted me to come over and cook for him and I agreed. But when I was going to cook downstairs all his friends were there whom he lives with. The problem is I told him I dont feel comfortable and I feel awkward when's there's so many guys and I'm the only girl. Now me and his friends get along very well. But at his home I dont feel comfortable when I'm the only girl there I feel fine when all their girlfriends are there.
I told my boyfriend I will cook for him but I feel awkward and don't want to go to thr common area cuz all his friends are there. Instead of acknowledging my feelings, my boyfriend said I can leave if I don't want to come down and cook for him.
I'm so pissed he didn't understand my feelings and told me to just leave!

[Chris_Morgan]

I don't know him but he sounds pretty inconsiderate and bossy.

#1. I don't understand guys who live with other guys and want to spend time with them, I was always the type to live with my girlfriend and get married and raise a family.

#2. Tell him to order a pizza or something if he wants to hand out with the guys, you're not his cook.

[Asker]

Everytime we spend time which I have to beg him to make time for me, he will go to his friends and leave me in his room I don't unde I am doing everything without expecting anything but a bit of time and respect

[Chris_Morgan]

That's rude of him.
It sounds like he maybe isn't as invested in the relationship as you are. He should be excited to see you and want to spend time together. Some people are like that though, they value their friends above their partners and they probably don't know what they got until it's gone.

[BJP21]

"I feel fine when all their girlfriends are there."

Are you afraid they may do something to you? If they have girlfriends of their own and are respectful, decent guys they know right off without having to think about it, you are off limits. I will agree that he should have hung around for emotional assurance and respect your wishes.

[Asker]

No! I trust them and we are on good terms. I am just going through emotional abuse with my mom, I am unable to carry myself around people at the moment and I'm afraid I have to be perfect infront of his friends all the time cuz if I make a minor mistake o something no matter what if it's not his way or it's a mistake he calls me out infeont of everyone and I'm just mentally not there right now to hear him pointing my stuff out and making me insecure. It's funny cuz I've tried to talk to him and he shut me off.

[BJP21]

Ohhhh Got it.
You have a couple of things going on, first you don't need any form of emotional abuse what's so ever. I will say this is one of those instances where its ok to talk back to your mom and have some courage to do it in front of people to. Let her know how it makes you feel. Next thing is your boyfriend, let him know you need his emotional support, if he is insensitive to your emotional needs just like your mom is. It's time to find another boyfriend.

[taraburtch]

girl its time to move on from him. if he doesn't respect your feelings why are you still hanging around? you deserve better.