Guys, would you feel insecure if your female partner made more money than you?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

[WonderBell99]

My grandmother earned way more than my grandfather and they have been in a perfectly happy marriage for around 50 years. Although, I imagine most guys would be insecure about it. Depends on one’s personality and the way they were raised. The social circles and people they associate themselves with play a significant role too.

I recently came across a question on GaG; the asker, a young man of about 25 was insecure that his partner made more money than him. I tried to understand his grievances, and apparently, it was because it made him feel like “less of a man” and was afraid what others or even, his own girlfriend would think of him. I feel like confident guys who have the utmost confidence and assurance in their own capabilities would not be threatened or feel insecure about their partner making more money than them.

Personally, if I ever do get married, I would have three separate accounts. One would be my partner’s which would be totally in his control, one would be mine which would be under my control, and the third one would be a joint account for shared expenses and such which would be under the control of the both of us. I do not care about a guy’s income as long as he is able to support himself financially and has a stable flow of income.

This should not be a competition, if it is, would probably do more harm than good to the relationship. Insecurity kills every beautiful thing in this world.

[RomanticRealist]

Just gonna chime in my opinion - I think a lot of guys won't admit that it's a problem - you'd have to put them in scenarios and observe their reactions to get the truest answer. Sometimes they don't think they have an issue with it, but just so happen to have a variety of attitudes and reactions to those specific women, even if they're not trying to offend them. My friends and I have seen this happen a lot. It may not even directly come up as "you make more than me," but maybe she wants to know why you're living at home and whether or not you plan to move out and you get defensive and shut down. Or maybe you're bothered that she takes vacations and likes expensive restaurants that you can't afford. Maybe you see her working with or socializing with men who have the same kind of money she has and you start thinking she'd rather be with him or being competitive. Men are often intimidated but don't want to acknowledge it. It's about self-awareness and unfortunately I don't think we challenge men to delve deeply into their feelings as often, to question why they feel the way they do about their partners, or much of anything really. Things like this.

[Adam1978]

No I don't care about her money, so it doesn't affect my goals. I won't compete with her, that's just a recipe for a bad relationship. She is more likely to create a issue out of it than me.

[TheUniqueOne96]

No.

Lol, I'd prefer a partner who earns so much that I basically do the house work.

[TroyDT2]

I've dated attorneys who make multiples of what I make.

[summiter]

Not at all... good for her!

[BJP21]

Why? Its her money that she earned on her own.

[hyperben]

nope, not at all