It is only an issue if one person is financially dependent on the other. Both people should be able to make enough money they can live completely independently. However it’s not a problem if the poorer person enjoys but doesn’t depend on (nor takes for granted) the richer person.
So for example. Let’s say I make $75k a year and my girlfriend makes $150k. I can make it own my own with rent, basic necessities, etc. However we could live together in a luxury apartment and go on nice vacations with her salary. Nothing wrong with that if she just wants to enjoy our time together
It would make me slightly queasy at first tbh but I could get over it (there is some male pride still) I know if she dumped me I could survive on my own. I don’t depend on her to pay bills. I also wouldn’t have to tolerate bs like she owned me because she doesn’t. But if times are good then times are good. No shame.
However what I have a problem with are women who date men who have money, accept all the financial perks and have the audacity to complain about being “objectified” and other crap. Like they still deserve respect despite being near worthless mooches. The cold truth is they are just long term prostitutes in that scenario. They have only one thing to bring to the table (their bodies) in exchange for one thing they only want (money). They have zero room to complain in that scenario.
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No, but I only dated traditional women long term.
Meaning, her career can't be her top priority. I wouldn't have dated a woman who traveled for work or worked 60 hours a week and one who would not quit when we had kids. She was able to go back, of course, once they were of school age but if she expected daycare to raise our kids then she wasn't wife/mother material.
Women have ALWAYS worked. Who do you think were the nurses and school teachers and secretaries and seamstresses and things all throughout the last 200 years? They did other things to and many woman didn't have kids. Some mom's were stay at home moms for their entire marriages but women have always worked.
Feminism has just gotten women to prioritize their careers over their families and talked a lot of women out of even having families.
I don't begrudge her for having a job she likes or for making money. I would just have never dated a woman long term who made her career her number one priority in life and expected a marriage or kids to come 2nd place to her job.
It wouldn’t bother me, I don’t think. I don’t think it would upset my fiancé either. If he’s ambitious and working hard; (as my fiancé is) then it would only be temporary until he gets a position where he could support me to take care of our kids. I’d get if it offended him but I’d just have to take care to let him still feel needed.
I think it’s fair if a guy doesn’t want a woman out earning him; just say that. A lot of the dudes in these comments are trying to avoid saying that while also saying that and it’s painfully disingenuous and annoying. Trying to hold onto their precious masculinity (which is good!) but done in a shriveling and cowardly way where they feel the need to excuse themselves for being men.
i think so... and there's just no solution for that because you simy can't make another human beinh hold their life for yoy. it is simply unfair. but in my country we have a lot of OFW my mama included and not once i remember my mama made my papa felt that he isn't the man in the house. i hqave also not felt that mu papa is less than my mama.
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No, that wouldn't bother me. It would bother me if she made that difference painfully obvious. That would be a problem. But just in general, absolutely not. I really don't care.
I don't think making more money on its own bothers men, it's the way the women act as a result of it that bothers men.
Wouldn't bother me at all
Guys just don't like material girls/gold diggers. I don't know why this is so hard for so many women to understand. Guys are in the relationship for the relationship not for the money. We like the quality time, conversation, companionship, intimacy, loyalty, mutual respect, helping each other out/acts of service, etc. Its all about the person not what they own... For too many women it's all about the financial transaction and men simply just don't like prostitutes. Simple enough right? So if he has more financial wealth than you, don't show off your greedy shitty side and try to use him for his financial resources. If you make more than him, don't make it an issue and act like it is important for him to be more ambitious and earn more money to keep your greedy ass around so you can feel validated because you feel like a high pay prostitute. If you want to be a prostitute then go be one. Hit the bricks. Don't act like you want to be in love with someone, if the only thing on your mind is money. Keep it honest.
It's not that MEN have a problem with the women out-earning him per se - men tend to be pretty practical about money - it's that men know what happens to WOMEN when they out-earn men.
Many, many studies - including several from very feminist publications, such as Jezebel, have shown that WOMEN are (generally - of course individual exceptions exist) unsatisfied with their partners if the woman out-earns the man, even when he's a high-earner. Women are hypergamous and always expect to date UP, so if they become "better" than a man in some way where they expect HIM to be "better", they grow unsatisfied and assume they can do better (that's often false, but you won't convince the woman of that, because she will FEEL that she can do better, regardless of any evidence to the contrary).
One study showed that women divorce their husbands at a rate of 90% within 2 years of their pay exceeding their husband's. You could maybe say that 10%, or even 20% of men just weren't working hard enough or could have had a better job but didn't, but even then, how do you explain the other 70-80% of the time when women ended a marriage? It obviously wasn't due to a lack of money - most of the time, it was hypergamy (the woman wanting a man better than her).
This is one of several reasons why men tend to not be interested in dating (much less marrying) women who out-earn them: in most cases, it's going to destroy the relationship, and the family, if one exists.
A woman making more money than men does not bother men. The problem is that
1. Women who make more money than men rarely give men a chance that make less than them. This was confirmed in 2011 study than spanned over several decades, showing the marriage patterns of men and women.
2. Usually women who can out earn guys tend to be in very male dominated fields and lose a lot of their femininity. They tend to be more masculine than feminine and don't act submissive towards their man.
3. Another problem is that when women make more money than them, the marriage tends to break down fast and the relationship crumbles. It's been long reported that a woman giving an increase in her salary was a predictor for divorce. So imagine, if the woman makes more than the man.
4. Women tend to abuse their male spouse and hold over their heads that they make more money than them in order to demoralize/antagonize them. This often comes out very often in couples fight. Men tend to do this much less and don't use the fact they make more money than their spouse against them.
Hope that clears it up.
I think it depends on her attitude concerning that because I think I could live with that as long as she respects me and doesn´t give me the feeling of she´s making more so my life and work is less important. I can´t therefore say I wouldn´t but it depends on her attitude.
The problem for me is that in modern Western society the worth of a job is also defined by the amount of money a person makes by doing it. So I don´t need to make more or way more than her but I surely wouldn´t date a woman that made way more than me.No cuz I am perfectly capable of supporting myself , without her income, so it wouldn’t bother me if she made more and it didn’t bother me she made more , I’d actually be happy for her and make it clear to her that I am with her for her not because of her paycheck. I dated girls that made
More than me and money and it was never an issue , cuz I work as well , she would buy me more things then I’d buy her , but I would tell her to stop it cuz I don’t need anything , the thought was nice but save your money for other things , I am very content with what I earned and achieved , If you want to make me happy , come in naked holding a beer that’s priceless 😋I THINK, from what I've seen, only times it really bothers them is when women rub it in their faces and make them feel as if they're inferior for not bringing more.
I make almost twice as much as my boyfriend. He knows this. I technically don't need his financial support at all. But he still pays his fair share of expenses and I appreciate him for thatThis is the future of all relationships. Society is becoming increasingly gynocentric, politicians promise more and more benefits and right to women to gain the female vote and win the election, women get preferential treatment by corporations, HR departments are dominated by women who will show in-group preference, women get faster promotions and dominate CEO positions making thousands more than their male employees. More and more women out-earn men with minimal work. Good luck to any man finding a woman today who will make less than him.
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</a>It would not bother me at all. If she made a ton of money, then I could retire early, take care of all the cleaning, pets, etc. and make sure her dinner is ready when she gets home. Maybe make lunch and bring it to the office, help out wherever I can.
Funny Freudian Slip, implying that it's gay, going to bother me more if she taller than me.
Will she think she is better for having more money? Will she have a condescending attitude? Will she think that entitles her to making the decisions? Will she contribute equally financially? Will she be upset when all of her hard work for a career means NOTHING to a man, and her looks and how she makes him feel matters MUCH more than anything she could ever contribute financially will?
Logically it shouldn't matter and at various times during a working life the income of a partner may vary. If you are a contractor there just might not be any contracts.
It seems to matter to women. On one channel I listen to an academic physiologist made a point that high income earning women still wanted a partner that earn't more than they did. That wasn't just assertion as there was a study backing her statement.
women who make more don’t like to be responsible for finances
so they expect the guy their with to do something or be more ambitious
Even If she pays all the bills she still wants you to do something other than get high and play COD all day
been there done that 🙄
it doesn’t bother men
I make enough now to cover my bills, incidentals, and have fun, along with a 401k and a great insurance plan through the company I work at where I'm content with my current salary. I wouldn't mind a relationship with a woman that earns more, provided she didn't lord it over me.
I guess I would feel somewhat inadequate. I would feel she would eventually resent me for not being more competent and capable. Most women wouldn't want a guy who makes less than they do, right?
I feel like most men don't care, but what bothers them is when they're being disrespected OR when the woman uses that as an excuse for certain behavior. But that's just my opinion.
If he was a real man who was sure of himself I don’t think he would. He would be happy for his girl and knows what he brings to the table.
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