7 years waste of time?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend of 7 years told me he can text his ex’s because we are not married! That made me so upset and I don’t know why, wonder if anyone knows! I feel like I wasted 7 years of my life

[William7489]

Yes, that is a very very terrible sign. Please remember what I’m about to tell you. Please. There is no “friend“ in the word or phrase ex girlfriend or ex-boyfriend. Realistically there’s no rewind button. Once somebody has been intimate with you, seeing you without your clothes on, known all your most secret of secrets, kinks and taboos, and the relationship is over it’s really best to let it fade into oblivion. Particularly when you’re with another person. There is not one genuine reason that’s good or justify continuing communication with a former boyfriend girlfriend or lover if you’re in a committed happy relationship. Tell him he needs to make his mind up. And as badly as you feel, I’ve been there. Time is precious but look at it like this. You may have lost seven years, but thank God you will not lose another day on a person who has a little respect for you

[Asker]

But I feel I’m old and no one ever choose me:(

[William7489]

Feelings are not facts. That feeling is probably a reflection of the relationship you’ve been in, and the feedback you’ve gotten from your partner being so negative. I’m not trying to make assumptions but that’s what it sounds like. I’m a little over myself, and it gets tougher to date in someways but it can also be easier. There’s a lot of single guys out there who are dying to meet levelheaded women who don’t like drama and want a solid relationship. It’s simple do you want to live in a world with zero self-respect or would you rather go out knowing you have more value than that. Let the world decide how valuable you are and whether or not guys want to date you. I’m sure you’ll be surprised. Be positive

[Asker]

Such a great insight, ty:)

[BLP11520]

My sister wasted 5 years on a guy when dozens of better guys wanted her. He was a dishwasher and fry cook. His only ambition was to smoke pot.

[Danielle93]

You did wasted years of your life on nothing. He just told you he sees no future with you and likes things the way they are.

[Anonymous]

Did he mention why he keeps in contact with her. Are they friends? He wants to get back with her?

[TroyDT2]

Text about what?

[TroyDT2]

I mean, I'm friends with a few of my exes and we talk, but the romance ship sailed, or rather sank in each case. But as I only date women I like as people, a failed romance does not mean I now dislike her.