How important are boundaries important in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

How do you deal with a partner who want his choice to be respected regardless your feeling about it and wants freedom to do what his wants.
(Choice= Using drugs, going to clubs, alcohol, smoking)

When does saying no becoming controlling?

[HighValue]

"Controlling" is often what people say when they want to mistreat their partners and want their very bad, often immoral behavior to be accepted.

I wouldn't accept a partner that uses drugs, gets drunk, or that goes to clubs (most people that go to clubs without their partner cheat).

I think it is best early on in a relationship, perhaps by the third date before it becomes a committed long term relationship and certainly before moving in together to discuss what things are acceptable and unacceptable in a relationship. Expectations need to be clearly defined from both partners.

[dreamstar72]

The boundaries stated,
Three out of four are boundaries that should not be aloud in a healthy relationship.
Some might not agree, but that is how I see it.

[dreamstar72]

As for controlling I’m not going to risk my livelihood and or money for a dumb mistake my so called partner made

[michael00007]

Very important. True love is based on boundaries and surely need to be respected. You should not be blind in Love lol.

[In_Trance]

extremely