My partner's actions hurt me but when I bring it up to her she says I'm controlling?

[rehanQ]

Is it really fair of her to accuse me of being controlling when I'm just trying to tell her to stop doing something that hurts me?
For example: getting too close with another guy who I have insecurities for and I have asked her multiple times to either block him or stop.
But she always tells me that I'm not letting her have her freedom and that I should trust her?

[boggboss]

Meh for me it simply shows you two are not compatible I don't feel anyone should be able to make there partner block someone or not be there friend that is controlling behaviour but equally if a partner is insecure and thay have valid reason why they are upset about a situation then you would clearly change things to accommodate although that dont inherently mean cutting off

[genericname85]

did she ever cheat on you or do you know about her cheating on someone else?

[sage2021]

Yeh, if she keeps doing that behavior and doesn't care that it hurts you, then I would definitely second guess if you want to stay with her.
I am in your shoes right now myself. My guy won't stop lying to me. He will never admit he lies to me. I told him how much it hurts me, but he still does it. He'll never stop either. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[Anonymous]

How do you tell her? Tone and wording can make all the difference.

[rehanQ]

I tell her how when she does those things it makes me feel really insecure and I would appreciate it if she stopped

[Anonymous]

No its not fair at all, but trust is important in relationships.