Guys if your girlfriend\wife refused to have a baby cause she changed her mind, what would you do? ?

[Anonymous]

Like she just changed her mind and made a solid decision that she won't have a baby at all... Would you stay or would you go?

[Mmmariax]

That’s a huge decision that would effect you both, I don’t think wanting or not wanting children is something anyone should compromise on so don’t expect someone to stay if that’s not what they want out of life.

[Sjoerd85]

My wife wants to get pregnant... I was always "perhaps later", but the more I think about it, the more I am leaning towards "I don't want kids". I guess we will have to see how that goes...

[WildCard42]

I already have a teenage son, I would be happy if my next partner didn't want kids, unless she's 100% gonna be a stay at home mom.

[Asker]

You mean be a stay home mom for your kid?

[WildCard42]

See in my situation I my ex begged me to give her a baby. I wanted to be a dad anyway so it was fine. Then a few years into being a mother she lost interest. she wanted to go back to work and I ended up working part-time and basically raising our son myself most of the time. Even after we separated he lived with me for years and years while he and I barely got by on my paycheck. Meanwhile hid mother was working full time, not helping with him at all, and going on expensive trips in the middle of the school year. I should've got a lawyer and got child support out of her, but I couldn't even affort to get a divorce while I was raiding him myself.
I loved being a dad, but those were some difficult years by myself, and I was incredibly disappointed in the way my ex begged me for a baby, then basically ran away and neglected our child.
I don't want to go through that again if I can help it. That's why I'm not interested in having anymore kids unless my next partner was a far better person and actually wanted to help raise our kids. Mostly I'm just too tired to do it all again, that's why she would have to be a stay at home mom and show me that she actually wants to be a mom. I'm not raising anymore kids by myself, I'm not interested.

[Asker]

So basically you want your next partner to raise your kid?

[WildCard42]

I want her to stay home and raise our kid if she wants one so badly while I work and pay for everything, and help with the baby when I'm home. I don't want anymore kids in reality, but I was already a good single parent. I don't want to raise another kid in a shitty situation with a woman who doesn't take care of her baby or pay for anything. My ex was literally useless.

[Jdjfjcjj]

With girlfriend, that's easy, I wouldn't marry her and not move relationship forward. With wife, I'd ask why she's changed her mind and if it's something we can work through without pressuring her to do it for me ( because she may resent me or kid later). If we can't, I'd leave her too.

[exitseven]

I was pretty undecided as to whether or not I wanted to have kids. I could have gone either way.

[slatyb]

That would depend on how badly I wanted a baby and how much I wanted to be married to her.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I don't want kids, so she'd have to have made that decision before we started dating.

[ArtemisSilver]

Depends on the rest of the situation but that's probably a deal breaker.

[Twalli]

Well we don't want a kid and I sterilized myself. We'd adopt. We decided that early in if we ever decide to raise kids.

[Anonymous]

I would be happy. No kids is just what i want.

[Anonymous]

Id respect her decision.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

I’d be happy