How would you feel if your son or daughter had multiple girlfriends/boyfriends?

[Lucy68]

[Cubus]

I wouldn't approve.

I believe you're talking about a teenager - you are not allowed to jump from flower to flower.

[Lucy68]

You have some adults that unfortunately will do it to. One my coworkers he just found out that his girlfriend was not only dating his brother but is also dating her boss and their next door neighbor. And two of my female coworkers found out that their boyfriends are dating 4 different women

[Cubus]

*liberation*

[Lucy68]

I prefer my relationships monogamous

[Cubus]

I do too

[Cubus]

Thank you for Most Helpful

[Lucy68]

You're welcome

[Jersey2]

I would be happy for my son but concerned for my daughter. Yes, it’s a double standard.

[musicbrain5]

What is your reason for that?

[Jersey2]

@musicbrain5 For my son it shows he is successful at attracting women and hopefully will settle down and marry including a family which I think is wonderful. For my daughter, it shows she is confused, doesn’t know what she wants, is less selective and feels like a dangerous road for her emotionally more than physically.

[musicbrain5]

I think successfully attracting women or briefly dating a few women at the beginning is one thing, but having multiple girlfriends at the same time is inappropriate in my opinion. But I’m wondering, why would these actions not show that your son could be confused and not know what he wants either?

[Jersey2]

@musicbrain5 Guys have to have game to attract multiple women. Girls don’t, they just have to be available and they will have a line at the door. She can be more selective and is also more likely to be emotionally mature. He is playing the field as that is what he is biologically programmed for but she should settle in after teenage years and focus as she is biologically programmed differently. His biological strategy is to spread his dna around. Her’s is to have help in raising a set of children with one guy as that has a higher success rate. There are lots of in betweens and gray areas but that is generally it works in my opinion. In the end, he will also benefit from one family as it does have a higher success rate.

[Summeroflove]

This might seem controversial. It depends on how he or she went about it.

I believe in dating with the intentions of marriage. I don’t agree with cheating. I also believe in being open and honest.

In the Old Testament people married more then one person. I don’t know if I would say my kids should be doing this. But.

Especially if they’re young. If they all agreed on it. There is no sex. And they keep it exclusive to what was agreed upon.

The point of doing this though is with the expectation that one person will eventually like the other more or one will eventually at some point break up. At that point. It will be just two.

As a adult. I don’t personally think I would do this. But back in K-12 school. I could definitely see myself doing this

[Apple1996]

It wouldn't bother me as long as they are happy

[Summeroflove]

True. It would bother me in certain situations such as if there was cheating involved. It would bother me if they were sleeping aeojnd

Long as they all agreed and were loyal fine. Whatever.

[Apple1996]

Yeah cheating would be bad. I was thinking more like a poly/open relationship

[cuckbetamale]

I agree queen

[Summeroflove]

I see what you mean. No open relationships. Hell no.

Just dating two people exclusive until you find the one you like better.

[AmandaYVR]

There is only one partner.

I'd be very unhappy about this and would keep talking to them about it until they stopped this behaviour. It's not healthy.

[OlderAndWiser]

I don't have any children so it would feel mighty damned weird!

[John1972]

I raised both of my children (Daughter & Son) to make their own decisions without much outside influence by me. Now don't get me wrong I taught them what was considered right and wrong and how to be respectful and to always consider others whenever they do something. There have been very few times that I've had to step in and put a stop to something or alter their course, but if my son or daughter was playing the filed like that I would have to pull the emergency brake on it and step in. Now I would not make them quit but it would be one of the moments where I have to go over how it would feel if someone were doing the exact same to them and have them consider what if someone was to be heartbroken how that would make them feel and hope that talking to them and having them sit down and consider others that they might deviate from the path they were choosing. As with being allowed to make a gown up decision if they choose to, that comes with grown up consequences that if faced with they would have to accept they made the choice and now must deal with outcome alone

[SnowedIn]

How would I feel? Not great. And, not actually because I think that either one of them must only have one partner -- I think if consenting people want to have more than one partner then they can do that. The real issues that I see if it were a son or daughter would be that multiple relationships don't/won't/can't work. Two adults having multiple physical/with benefits relationships might possibly be able to work but two young people would only end up hurting themselves and the other girlfriends/boyfriends. That I couldn't stand for. Don't hurt other people.

[Izzy_3991]

I wouldn’t approve. I would sit him/her down and have a serious talk with them. I would hear their side first and then explain (and show) why it’s a bad thing to do.
I ain’t afraid to bring out the nasty STD/STI pics either 😂

[Lucy68]

I like this answer

[Summeroflove]

Well. That could be the case. I would hopefully raise my kids to not have sex until marriage and understand these risks.

If they were in a agreed upon relationship that didn’t involve sex. But I could still see some having a problem with this.

[Summeroflove]

If they’re not having sex and they all agreed upon it…. I might be okay with that DEPENDING

[Amy10223]

I rather my daughters go out wtih many men before choosing one special one. My youngest has been with her boyfriend sincew she was 18, and now she's 27. I like the young man, but I feel she should have dated more. I won't tell her that, though.

[Wish4UrB00ty]

I mean the chances are pretty good that I would rase my kid to understand the problems with that and hopefully avoid that situation but none the less if my or decided as a young adult to choose a poly life style or to play the game and mess with multiple girls at once I would not be happy but t I will try to still like be them. As they are still me kid. Oh would try to understand at least what there thoughts are.

[YourFavoriteFriend]

If it was my daughter, I would call her a slut! If it was my son, I would call him a CHAD!

Ok, just to be clear. It's a joke! I would raise my children to know the value of a relationship and love. But even if the had multiple partners, I would still be fine as it makes them happy and that everyone knew about everything.

[Jdjfjcjj]

Guess I'll be the first to say it. Many fathers are going to go from feeling disgust, disappointment, and asking themselves where they failed when considering daughter.

For son, I'd tell ask him why he bothering committing to relationship if he wants to have fun? I'd also hope he isn't throwing his money away maintaining both relationships. Outside of that, I'd probably remind him remember to wear condoms.

[musicbrain5]

I would tell them that they are involving themselves in unnecessary drama and potential heartbreak. A relationship should really only be between two people.

[Summeroflove]

You’re not wrong. Some people might do this to see who they end up with in the end. Once they loose interest or break up with one.

But… Hey. I see that could turn pretty much into drama

[laraWM]

I probably wouldn't feel comfortable with it but it is their own lives so I wouldn't interfere.

They basically could live as they'd like

[Summeroflove]

Well as children under 18. You can put a stop to something you don’t feel comfortable with. As adults you can advise them but that’s all you can do.

[laraWM]

@Summeroflove Yes true

[TrueConfection]

As long as she's not having sex with them, I wouldn't have a problem with her dating more than one guy.

[Shayyyy1]

Worried like what if I slip up and misnamed one of them. I'm a terrible liar but if they were polygamous it's their life I wouldn't mind.

[bamesjond0069]

Son. As long as he wasn't cheating them then I would give him props and tell him he is entitled to all the women he can get.

Daughter. I would beat her ass with a belt and keep her locked in the house because she is being a slut.

[thethug1234]

Your crazy, it's her life, why do you care?

[bamesjond0069]

@thethug1234 either she's mine to keep in line or I've given her to a husband to keep her in line. It's never up to her.

[thethug1234]

why do you care though?

[bamesjond0069]

@thethug1234 because it's my daughter? Duh?

[thethug1234]

Friend if women don't have sex, how do men have sex?

[bamesjond0069]

@thethug1234 she can have sex with her husband. Who you have sex with is not my concern.

[thethug1234]

May I ask you why you're against your daughter being a "slut"?

[bamesjond0069]

@thethug1234 because sluts are bad? Nobody values them for much and it shows a lack of moral character.

[thethug1234]

Friend may I ask you how exactly men are supposed to have any fun sex, if women don't as well?

[bamesjond0069]

@thethug1234 there's a million sluts, seems like an easy answer.

[thethug1234]

did you personally ever have sex outside of marriage?

[bamesjond0069]

@thethug1234 yes. With sluts. They are a dime a dozen.

[thethug1234]

So you expect their father to beat and ground them too.

[bamesjond0069]

@thethug1234 only if he loves them and cares about them. But most fathers don't care about their daughters for some reason so... whatever. It's not really my care or concern. Frankly, fuck them. My daughter I would love and care about though.

[Prettygurl12]

That would be very difficult for me to accept.

[Kaneki05]

It's their life plus what's wrong with that?

[TacosRAwesome]

I'll get them a DNA test but then again both my parents could get it so it could have skipped a generation.

[Havthrills]

This is a good one since many people have fwbs or like an open relationship. I would be disappointed and talk to him/her about it.