Why he doesn't want to talk about the future?

[Anonymous]

So I asked my fiance why he doesn't talk about our future especially since we're engaged. He was like he already knows what he has planned and doesn't feel the need to talk about it like making more money and get us a place one day. I'm like don't men you're going to marry would be excited about the future with you. I feel he's just waiting around.

[slatyb]

He's not ready to get married. Don't do it until he is able to talk to you like an adult. How long are you working to wait for him to grow up?

[Asker]

Waited a year

[slatyb]

Don't wait too long.

[Asker]

I don't want to, I've been with him for 7 years. Seeing peers around me getting married is starting to feel disheartening

[slatyb]

So you must be on the high side of 18-24. Have you ever dated anyone else? No? Then why do you believe you want to marry him? Go meet some other people -- a lot of other people. Date some of them. Marry one of them.

[Asker]

I dated another guy, me and the current one just been together a long time.

[spartan55]

And he probably feels like you are a pain in the ass about it.

[Asker]

I barely talk about it

[spartan55]

So because he doesn't get all excited about it and talk about it all day (act how YOU feel about it) then that means he is just hanging around or not invested?
You are marrying a guy, not another woman.

[slatyb]

He probably feels that way, but if he can't have the discussion then he's not ready to be in a relationship.

[spartan55]

Very true.

[spartan55]

It doesn't sound like she just wants a discussion. Sounds like she wants him to talk about it frequently.

[Asker]

No, I want a discussion