Is she wrong for not attending her husband memorial?

[Anonymous]

Here’s what she wrote:

A lot of people still don’t understand why I can’t attend his memorial. I was asked by investigators to stay at home until they are done with their investigation, but furthermore I think the police department he worked at set him up. I haven’t been to anything with his name on it because of the amount of anger that I have. Am I wrong?

[Sparkie460]

Everyone grieves differently. Some people get closure from seeing them at rest. Others can't handle it. My daughter hasn't been to to memorials for any of our family members. She wants to remember them how they were when they were alive

[Asker]

Read below the messages between them both below and I understand your daughter

[Sparkie460]

Thanks for the mho

[kylee2437]

You are allowed to grieve however you like and if going to a memorial is going to upset her and make her lose her peace, that’s her choice and her right.

[Asker]

Investigators told her to stay home or away from family until they are done. But this girl that’s so called his “best friend” seems upset she isn’t going. She hasn’t been to anything regarding his name because it hurts. She seems to be upset

[kylee2437]

So this best friend thinks her friend should disregard what investigators said? That best friend doesn’t seem like a good friend

[Asker]

Then the widow wrote this

People said they do but whether or not I could be there…I stay away from anything dealing with his name because I don’t relive the hell I been through before that day leading up to it and there’s a lot of things I see that I wanna speak on but I can’t. When the times comes I will be ready.

The girl just left her on read…

[kylee2437]

Bottom line is best friend is not a good friend for trying to be nosey instead of being comforting in a situation that involves being a supportive friend

[Asker]

Then she says” no I’m just a little confused as to what’s going on” she’s a fallen officer wife smh

[kylee2437]

Yeah she’s not being supportive, she’s being nosey

[Asker]

Then the wife says

I’m standing by decision to not attend regardless of whatever, respectfully.

And she’s a police officer married to the chief!!! Come on now

[kylee2437]

And she’s allowed to do that. If people can’t grieve in different ways, that’s very telling that we don’t live in a free country

[Asker]

Yesss and she suppose to be his best friend

[Asker]

You said she was trying to be nosey! She definitely was!!! She stayed at home

[kylee2437]

@asker yep, anyone that judges things like this definitely is trying to be nosey

[Asker]

Then his ex showed up

[In_Trance]

not wrong

[Asker]

Would you also read the messages at the bottom?