I think my husband is moving companies to pursue a serious relationship with female coworker at his current job (he’s resigning)?

[Anonymous]

How can I find out? I know there’s a woman in his life because he’s been acting differently. He’s not cheating, but he’s definitely in love with another woman and he’s dying for her.

It’s very unlike him to decide on changing jobs, but he landed a great offer and is very keen on it. But I think one of the motifs behind it is so he can be with her.

We have a rocky relationship and have called it quits plenty of times, and most likely will do so for good eventually (we got married too young and did LDR which strained the emotional foundation of our marriage). How can I find out?

[Anonymous]

If you have a bad gut feeling. Consider hiring a private PI. Or just confront him on it.

Look up the RIED technique. Start off by the positive confrontation. Could be asking “oh how was work honey”

that is how many law enforcement officers conduct interviews and interrogations. But you will want some evidence or know he’s doing it first the link below ⬇️ 👇 there is some other techniques too but there neither here nor there.

It will be hard to come up with morally acceptable reasons as to why he’s cheating. You could say “hey I know we have had a bad relationship and maybe I ain’t been the best wife to you at times and you just were looking for something else”

Make sure to read the before steps before conducting a interrogation and make sure that your suspicions are correct.
If he confesses…. Divorce

https://reid.com/programs/program-descriptions/the-reid-technique-of-investigative-interviewing-and-advanced-interrogation-technique

[Opinion Owner]

Step 1: The Positive Confrontation Benefit of the Transition Statement
Step 2: Theme Development First Person Themes Third Person Themes and Personal Stories Identifying the suspect's Needs for committing the crime
Step 3: Handling Denials Addressing Suspect Challenges Addressing the Suspects Request to see evidence Introducing Evidence Tactics to gain trust Tactics to change the suspect's perception
Step 4: Overcoming Objections Handling Logical Challenges
Step 5: Procurement and Retention of the Suspect's Attention Use of Role Reversal Challenging the Suspect's Values and Traits Addressing the Suspect's Fear of Consequences Addressing the Futility of continued denials
Step 6: Handling Suspect's Passive Mood Having the suspect verbalize agreement
Step 7: Presenting the Alternative Question Understanding the Alternative Using Positive and Negative Supporting Statements
Step 8: Having the Suspect Orally Relate the Details of the Crime Committing the Suspect to the crime Guard Against False Confessions
Step 9: Elements of Oral and Written Statements

Number 9 can be a challenge. But you need it for evidence

[Opinion Owner]

Even if cheating isn’t a crime where you live.

Replace crime with the word cheating

[slatyb]

When a person changes jobs, they sometimes recommend their colleagues for jobs with their new employer. It's not unusual for a bad employer to lose multiple employees when one leaves.

"He landed a great offer and is very keen on it." -- sounds like a great opportunity, and he should take it. His crush on his colleague is a separate problem.

You could ask him. Why are you continuing with this marriage? Are there children?

[Asker]

Yes 2 kids. Was thinking of dropping him off at the office to see who he hangs out, but I’m pretty sure he won’t introduce me to any female coworkers

[slatyb]

Never mind your suspicions, what's actually happening that worries you?