I asked my husband to cut off contact with a female coworker (whom I think is a potential love interest), but he still has her on LinkedIn?

[Anonymous]

They are apparently very “close friends”. She’s 12 years younger. Very pretty and smart. And when she found out that he needed to minimize contact, apparently she went up to him and was very emotional about it. They still work together. I have a very funny feeling about this and I think they will continue admiring one another, given that she’s a lot younger than me, they have a huge connection, and actually work together.

[iseekpinetrees]

If he cheats he cheats you can't stop it. Don't be jealous of someone he works with. If he cheats he was obviously bored in your relationship and didn't think of you in making that decision. It's not worth the frustration you're putting yourself through. If u get a gut feeling he cheated leave him if you trust him in making good decisions then why worry.

[JesseP1nk]

If he wants to cheat then he is gonna cheat. You gonna do what? Guard him 24/7 next for 50 years? I would sit down with him and tell him. "Look, this thing with your coworker makes me feel uncomfortable, i ask you to stop, if you dont, then i need to re-evaluate this relationship we have." Meaning basicly if you gonna see other people then i also gonna see other people.

[Asker]

Well apparently he told her they need to minimize contact and she cried about and was emotional about it too. Which implies that they love each other.

[jahaims]

If the only thing stopping a partner from cheating is availability then they are already a cheater. Unless they have crossed boundaries then you just sound insecure.

[DryGermanGuy]

You wanna screw up your own relationship with your husband with that juvenile jealousy? Leave it alone. How silly is the idea to cut contact with a coworker?

[Asker]

They’re constantly texting, outside of office and out of working hours. Why would she cry and go all the way to him TWICE when he told her they needed to minimize contact? I think he was happy about the fact that she got emotional about it.

[DryGermanGuy]

You started this by making a situation out of a non-situation.

[BLP11520]

That is trouble!! They may hook up when given the chance

[Asker]

I think they will. Why would she cry and go all the way to him TWICE when he told her they needed to minimize contact? I think he was happy about the fact that she got emotional about it.

[BLP11520]

You are right, I don’t have advice for what you should do

[BLP11520]

His ego and attraction to her is clouding his judgment I would say

[KrakenAttackin]

Maybe you should work harder to keep your husband's attention and not be a nagging bitch?

[OlderAndWiser]

Do you have children?

[Asker]

We have 2 kids. 10 and 8. I married young (22). We are very different and did long distance for a while, which took an emotional toll on him.

They were constantly texting, outside of office and out of working hours. Why would she cry and go all the way to him TWICE when he told her they needed to minimize contact? I think he was happy about the fact that she got emotional about it.

We are trying to fix our marriage and this just adds more problems.

Do you think he may have feelings for her?

[OlderAndWiser]

Your question: "Do you think he may have feelings for her?"

You answered it yourself: "he was happy about the fact that she got emotional about it"

[OlderAndWiser]

Have you ever asked him about the extent of their relationship? Have they ever gone out on a date? Ever kissed? Ever had sex?

[Asker]

Yeah she cried twice and wouldn’t leave him in his “solitude”. And for some reason he seemed relieved about it. And he actually told her that her crying like this validates what I say. But she denied it of course

[OlderAndWiser]

Have they had a date, kissed, had sex?

[Asker]

It doesn’t help the fact that she’s 29/30 and he’s 42/43. I’m 38.

[OlderAndWiser]

Why are you avoiding my question? Is it simply to painful to confront?

[Asker]

He claims they haven’t. But I’ve seen their texts and he’s always trying to see her outside of the office ALONE. They met up once at a wedding cuz he wanted to see how she looks. They have nicknames for each other and what not

[OlderAndWiser]

Have you ever taken your children to visit Dad at the office?