Why after fights do men not want to discuss it but women do?

[Applesausefish]

For example my boyfriend rather not discuss an argument we have and just move on. While I like to discuss how to not make the same Mistakes

[caring__1]

If it were safe communication, that would be one thing, but people generally aren't interested in being talked at, told what they did wrong and what they should do differently in the future. Many people feel entitled to act like a parent, pushing their agenda onto the other person and treating the partner as a child. We believe no one could come up with a different conclusion, since our conclusion makes so much sense to us.

The ideal approach is to learn effective communication skills, so arguments never happen or escalate. Make sure the other person feels safe, meaning no accusations, assumptions, blame, criticism, demands, rationalizations or saying what should or shouldn't be done.

You're more likely to find a partner willing to listen if you address what you're hearing the partner's concerns to be, rather than continue to focus on your concerns. Together, identify what the two of you would like to see as the outcome, where both of you win. Be accountable for your own choices rather than focus on your partner's choices. Identify how your words and actions might have impacted your partner and what you plan on doing differently in the future. Focus on what you have learned, not what the other should be learning. Make it safe and comfortable for your partner, and your partner will be more open to having these conversations.

[HighValue]

Men like to solve a problem and move on. Women like to keep a problem and complain forever. Plus women just cry and throw a fit when proven wrong and try to make the man feel bad for her when SHE is in the wrong until she gets her way.

My solution is if someone is wrong and throws a tantrum to get her way she gets out of my house. I won't put up with the BS that many people tolerate in a relationship.

[Jdjfjcjj]

I tend to do this when I know that further discussions with the woman tend to lead into another argument.
These type of women I've met tend to have problems with accepting responsibility for the things theyve some wrong or can't offer an apology without using the word 'but'. Additionally, this could be the case where once a relationship has reached a high level of toxicity, a man who once was open to discussion, now might not give a shit anymore.

[nolabels]

That's not the way things go down in my house.

Quite to the contrary.

[BarryLiverstone]

He is hoping things are back to an even keel. He’s fearful if he discusses it you will become upset again. Does he often not communicate after a fight?

[chicosuave]

no all men. im the drama queen when i get on fights

[Anonymous]

Chris Rock already covered this.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/78c2o79Ohyo

[Anonymous]

Men hate dealing with issues or any kind of failures. It is always someone else's fault.

[Jdjfjcjj]

I'm curious to know if women in general agree with your sentiment because most men I know would say women have a huge accountability problem.

[MrOracle]

Most men deal with failures and setbacks all the time and have no problem with accountability. Men have no safety nets, and no one is going to save us, so we very much live in reality. It's far more common for women to avoid accountability, as most women are used to being very insulated from it.

[Anonymous]

Probably just doesn’t want to prolong the argument and hopes you forget about it later but it would be good to discuss it so it doesn’t happen again

[Anonymous]

Imagine not wanting to cause any more trouble.

[WindAtMyBack]

No reason to. Just move on.

[FilmGuy93]

Because the conflict is resolved

[Anonymous]

Oh for fuck sake.

[aaron210419]

He's immature