Why is it that men tend to want to escape an argument with his significant other while the women prefer to continue the argument without any breaks?

[SolitarySolace]

Why is it that men tend to try to leave an argument in order to come back with a less heated and more level head while women seem to prefer to keep arguments escalating to the point where things can't be discussed in a civil manner and often lead to physical fights?

Is this because women feel as though they can get away with less harsh punishments? That they can cause the men to lash out first causing them to be the bad guy when she was the one who caused things to escalate? Forcing men to the point where he is seen as the monster? I don't understand why women do this...

[Киттйлинк]

Not sure every persons reason is the exact as another..

I am not sure exactly why it happens for me..
I can say Perhaps it could be because I want the problem to reach the solution right now!! not later. It can be frustrating to leave someone in the middle of an argument where you are trying to find a common ground and they leave you hanging..

However that's not to say I am right or that I am justifying this woman's behavior, as I think she is a manipulative abusive person. Just trying to analyze the reasons why some people react the way she does... I see sometimes I want to solve the issue at hand in the moment it's taking place rather than have someone leave and not resolve the problem leaving me angry.. like why can't we fix this right now lets talk now and get it all out..
but also I believe we can all learn something from this.. When you see it as an outsider you can see more clearly when something is wrong, than when it's you in the situation..

if someone walks away don't instigate trying to bring the person back into the argument regardless of who is right or wrong, we all should take a step back and understand we are all different heads and process things differently, if a person left the argument perhaps they cannot resolve the situation in this manner and needs time or to be approached in a different way..

But also, if someone keeps doing this to you, you should know to remove yourself from this type of situation with that person. Perhaps removing the person from your life completely.

ANYWAY! I believe in general it is because women want to resolve the problem right then and there, talk it all out and reach a solution, where as men want to escape the problem and relax because it's too much chaos and perhaps return later when both can talk in a calmer manner.. but if it always happens like this then one will always be yelling while the other is always running away.. and the problem will never reach its solution lol

[dorksided1]

i dont think it is all woman, and this amber heard is a loon, look at her it is taking all her strength not to throw a chair or scream at him. her whole face and demeanor. see if hollyweird holds her accountable like they would do to any abusive male, you want equal treatment she should also be held to the same standards of any abuser

[Lookingforthetruth]

But in general women tend to be addicted to drama (hence why most soap operas are directed at them) and attention (hence the social media addiction among most women today). Thus, women will always want an argument to continue and cause conflict since it gives her that drama rush. It's also the reason why women often get into relationship with men who have clear red flags.

[dorksided1]

@Lookingforthetruth im a tomboy, im not into soap operas and certainly never wanna live in one. if someone no matter what gender cannot voice their issue/s with me like and adult with communications skills then there is nothing to be said. i work with people all day long in healthcare, you learn fast how to talk to people for me that carries into my personal relationships

[BeMuse]

There is a difference between an argument and nagging. Men argue and debate. Women just nag and try to be a pest. There objective isn't to logically resolve the problem, it is to try to hurt you. Thus there's no reason to even listen to what they have to say when they lose their shit. Just kick them out and tell them to go home. Then talk to them in a week.

[BeMuse]

As a man you have to put your foot down and set the boundaries. If you try to plea with an emotional irrational person and you give in and make concessions, they will just do more and more crazy... If you tell them to get the fuck out and break the argument, they'll be mad, but then they will also feel like you are in charge and are a man that takes the lead, and they are a women. Women always want to feel some shit, so they mix up drama when they don't understand their feelings.

[SolitarySolace]

How can you be sure she'll actually leave? Amber Heard didn't leave when I'm pretty sure Depp asked her to and when she didn't he tried to avoid her / escape from her. Yet she just kept coming after him. If it happened to Depp, who's to say it hasn't happened to other men who aren't at the same status as him?

[BeMuse]

Even the crazy ones that stalk you will typically leave when you tell them to get out... They don't get really crazy until they get to overthinking shit. If you cut them off early, they don't have time for that spiral to occur. They get shocked, but they leave. If they are truly crazy and come back, just don't let them in again... Most girls aren't complete nut bags. They will be mad. They will give you space. They will tell their friends or family how you are wrong and they are right... But at the end of the day, eventually they get lonely and want your attention again and are willing to compromise and make peace.

[SolitarySolace]

Ha... that hasn't been my experience at all. But alright man.

[Adam1978]

Because the statement has been said, we don't want to waste time on a loop discussion, in attempting to wear us down, because there won't have any new arguments. If they actually wanted to solve it there wouldn't have been an argument in the first place.

[Sonorous]

I've been around someone like that. She happens to be female. And it's usually because she wants her emotions to be validated more than to actually solve the problem.

[monorprise]

Women are along with people in general today are taught by modern Media/culture to embrace their emotions and live for and by them. This means they tend let their feelings go far further in guiding their actions then they should under some supposed believe in their "wisdom".
Unfortunately this is a very much flawed believe as emotions are nothing more than primitive instincts designed for a simple and very violent world that largely ceased to exist 50+ thousand years ago for humans.

For many women this is a particularity big problem because the area pf their brain that process emotions is particularity close and well connected to their memory center. So a woman who has a troubled emotional history with someone they feel entitled to resolution from can find themselfs in an unreasonable emotional feed back loop in which no listening can take place.

This is particle likely if like Amber they have a personality disorder rendering them even more unable to accept or process any other information.

Men being far more prone to dealing with potently dangerous drama and fights from being kids, know from experience they need to leave emotionally charged situations before they get out of control, as they will among guys much more quickly become violent.

So men evolved an instinct to flee such situation to allow everyone to cool down rather than do something they both regret. otherwise they end up dead or in jail.

Women being less violent and until more recently more controlled by fear have yet to evolve such a response.

[Kaytiee]

For me, I can't rest until I know arguments are solved as I do not want it to happen again, I find it extremely difficult, I could change that about myself but I want to be with someone who can also communicate. I don't see it as a flaw unless you get angry/mad because of it.

Just because I want it resolved sooner rather than later doesn't mean I am not level-headed, I can stay level-headed in stressful situations and often have to.

As for why? I don't know, maybe it's in our biology. My dad was also the same, he walked away.

[bolverk]

When a woman is in an argument with a man they get emotionally invested in that argument and they want to keep it going - AKA they love the drama,
Men on the other hand realise that arguing with a woman is a fruitless exercise and can lead to one of two scenarios,
1 The men is pushed too far by the woman that he looses his temper which could lead to a physical altercation with the woman, leading to police being called etc.
2 The man doing the most powerful thing he can do, not engaging in the argument and walking away, knowing full well it will drive the woman nuts.

[Danielle93]

Interesting. I once heard that a man had to actually push his angry wife off the door she was blocking. She was pulling his arm hard and preventing him from leaving. He really had to go to work and she wasn't listening to his ''let me go, I got work, let me go, please, let go''. Now that's crazy.

[genericname85]

because women often can't detect that their emotional state is tainting their judgement. they're all up in their emotions. when men notice that they're getting angry, they leave, cause they know angry people make bad decisions and they pick back up when they're more fit to have a conversation.

[lightbulb27]

a very observant question.

I think women may be better communicators and aim to be heard. leaving the emotional connection "dangling" is like choaking off their air supply. for a guy, they feel ok in an absence of discomfort.

women seek constant emotional connection, I think that's the difference.

some of this may be personality. I'm avoidant, my woman deals with every emotionally relevant matter until it's settled. It's how we are wired or trained.

[Aerissa_Jade]

It is actually reverse for me, I want the break and he wants to keep going at it, to get a immediately solution. Says its because he is afraid if we do not resolve it right there, that we'll forget and then next time something happens it will be worse.

Or as I see it, he has his talking points lined up and if we take a break... he'll forget them.

[arkward-villain]

I think at those heated moments, ladies like to be heard and put an end to the argument. Men on the other hand don't like to be quarrelled, don't wanna listen especially if they are on the wrong, they prefer walking away. So when the man fails to listen to the lady, she increases her voice, quarreling, which can lead to fights.

[Alcoholic_Wannabe]

Most men are retarded.. so they've accepted a reality where arguing with everything you have can lead to fights because "that's just the way it is."

Women (and superior men like me) are willing to say "just because I'm continuing this argument, doesn't give you the right to behave like a pussy."

[Quigly]

Someone like Amber Heard can argue for hours and hours. They aren't really looking for any middle ground or solutions to problems. Because they have something mentally wrong with them, it's just an irrational attack with the end goal to take your peace of mind away from you. They want you to be just like them. Crazy!

[AviatorTom]

With me and my SO, it's exactly the opposite. She wants to stop the argument and I want to continue discussion so we can resolve the issue we're arguing over.

[jasco]

Because either the argument is stupid, the ladies just wanna argue and talk even tho we already gave them an answer, who knows

[Secret6620]

I don't like to leave things unfinished or without closure.

[SolitarySolace]

Even though that more often than not only tends to escalate tensions as opposed to calming things down enough to solve the issue?

[Secret6620]

Okay

[monorprise]

Nobody does, but you must learn to leave when you or they become angry. There can be no resolution to any conflict in anger. Anger robs people of their ability to think rationally and offer honest and considered judgements.

This is why men leave, they know from experience with other guys in heated arguments that the moment anyone becomes emotional is the moment its time to get away unless you want to fight.

[Secret6620]

@monorprise um okay

[hahahmm]

Men tend to prefer to build things. Women tend to prefer to be entertained.

[Toast792]

They really don't. That's a bit of a crazy generalization...

[worldscolide]

It's not a women. Just the sociopaths. And it's men too..

[TDDMS]

It's painfully obvious Amber Heard is either a psychopath or has BPD. She falls into the cluster B personality disordered.

[Lookingforthetruth]

because too things that women like are drama and attention. They can't enough of either.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Same reason why women tend to want to escape an argument with his significant other while the men prefer to continue the argument without any breaks

[Blackcupcake]

huge generalisation

[SolitarySolace]

Is it?

[Lookingforthetruth]

and yet it is true. That's the point of generalization. It's meant to show a pattern for the majority and not the small minority.

[Blackcupcake]

it is not true, no