Is sleeping with your ex boyfriend's friend (10 days after the break-up) still cheating to you?

[Anonymous]

I broke up with him because he cheated several times with 3 different women. I found out through one of our mutual friends (he hated what he was doing) and text messages. He tried his ''sorry I got caught'' bs begging.

10 days after dumping and blocking him, I slept with one of his friends. I used to always find him attractive but kept that myself. I don't care if he finds out. If he does, good. I don't regret it. Even though we did it nearly 2 weeks after the break-up, would you still feel cheated on?

[User3191989]

In the movie "Varsity blues", spoiler alert, Paul walkers character has a girlfriend, and is the star qb (by the way, she's the head cheerleader) as if it couldn't be any more cliche. Anyway, spoiler alert again, he winds up getting hurt, to the point where he can't play again, ever, and the backup quaterback, james van der beeks character, winds up taking over. he has a girlfriend also, she's not a cheerleader but, she's still really pretty (amy grant, by the way, is the actress). So, we find out that paul walker (r. i. p.)'s characters girlfriend (played by Ali Larter), was only ever going out with him because she wanted out of the small town in texas they are from, and he was her way out, but she never actually loved him. She tried to seduce james, and at first, he decided he was going to do it, bought the condoms and everything, but, once they started kissing, again this is all spoiler alert, i apologize, if you haven't seen it yet (it's a 1999 movie), he realizes, he's not really in love with her, EVEN THOUGH, ali's character and james character have been friends forever. They kiss, but, he realizes he doesn't want to go any further. She even does the "whip cream bikini" just to get him to sleep with her and be her way out of the town.

Did he still cheat, knowing he was with Amy Grant's character, cause he kissed ali larters character? Even though he stopped it

[Asker]

Yes kissing while in a relationship, it's still cheating.

[User3191989]

he never told his girlfriend, BUT, later on in the movie, she saw ali and james kissing again, so i think she thought they were cheating anyway. point is, he never loved ali, he love amy. it took ali, for him to realize that

[AviatorTom]

It's not cheating to me... you need to be in a relationship to cheat, and the relationship ended 10 days ago.

But... ah, here's the rub... your question implies that you think it might be cheating, which really means you didn't want to break up and you want your ex back. Good luck with that.

[Asker]

Hells nope, I don't want a cheater back. I wish he finds this out so I can laugh in his face.

[Anonymous]

Not cheating, just petty. But you don’t care about that so I don't know why any of this even matters.

[Asker]

While I don't care about it, I just didn't want to be seen as a cheater of low morals. If my ex boyfriend finds out, I'll be having the last laugh.

[Opinion Owner]

I know you don’t care, as I stated above. But if having low morals was a concern of yours then that’s thrown out the window. The best revenge you could’ve gotten was dropping him for good, but sex with his friend? That won’t hurt, it will just look foul.

[BlueScorpio]

No cause you broke up, that's considered rebounding and revenge sex?

[Asker]

I admit it was a bit for revenge, even though I found his friend attractive. Then I liked the moment and don't regret it.

[SteveSmith1985]

Not 'technically', but it's an equally shitty thing to do. Also, that 'friend' of your ex's is a fucking scumbag.

[Asker]

He's just attractive but I don't love him nor feel any deep emotions for him.

[SteveSmith1985]

That's... really not relevant. It's the betrayal aspect. Plus your ex is now thinking you wanted to fuck his friend the whole time you were together. Don't get me wrong, your ex sounds like a piece of shit. Nevertheless, what you did was an incredibly shitty thing to do to someone... to anyone.

[OlderAndWiser]

It is not "cheating" but just an example of using someone for revenge fucking.

[Lliam]

It's not cheating. You already broke up. What your ex thinks about it is irrelevant. He's the cheater. Fuck him.
You did the right thing by moving on.

As for having sex 10 days after you dumped him. Good for you. I'm glad you enjoyed it.

[Asker]

I fail to understand why more people don't break up if they want to sleep around. It's so easy, just break up and they can sleep with whoever they want to instead of lying to your partner that everything is ok and going behind their backs.

[Lliam]

That's how I feel, too. I never cheated. If I was unsatisfied with my partner, I broke up before dating anyone else. I hate cheaters. They are liars. They are dishonest.

[Truthatanycost]

'10 days after dumping and blocking him, I slept with one of his friends'

This is how another persons low vibration can infect you! These actions have done nothing for you. It's not cheating... but you've cheated yourself.

Note that the best way to deal with any breakup is to completely remove them from your life, and that includes their friends. Then you simply bring yourself higher than they were, live a better life and make choices that increase your vibration and peace.

[Fireguy17]

Nope, I don't think I've ever had a 10 hour waiting period.
You are no longer together, hence the ex part, so the clock is ticking.
Go fine someone or more that make you feel better.
He probably didn't wait 10 days.

[Asker]

I wish he would find out so I can have the last laugh. I imagine telling him ''yeah your friend was so great in bed, much better than you, you suck, always suck and always will'' ... then laugh.

[Fireguy17]

he will probably know or think that.
The best thing you can do is move on with your life, don't have any contact with him and he will really know that you have moved on.

[Agape93]

Nope. You broke up with your ex, you hold no duty to loyalty to him.

[Asker]

Thank you. Yeah I'm glad to not be a cheater like him. I can't understand why more people don't do what I did. If they want to sleep around, then break up and then they can sleep with whoever they want to.

[Anonymous]

Def not cheating, but sounds like you feel guilty but are trying to convince yourself otherwise. Just accept your decision. You were single when you slept with his friend so its not cheating. Guilt could be coming from it seemingly being out of spite but even then no need to feel bad about it at all.

[TroyDT2]

Nope. Not committed means cheating can't happen. You will probably get flamed by people for being with an ex's friend, but he does not own you nor do you own him. I would never limit myself because of that "rule."

[that1guy19]

No. You're broken up. This is a rebound/ way to move on from him or get back at him 🤷. But in no way is it cheating

[Asker]

Originally it a bit of revenge (''so you can have his fun and I can't'' type of thing) but then I liked it and don't regret it. At least I did it after breaking up and 10 days later. Meanwhile my ex boyfriend will forever be a lowlife cheater in my eyes and to others that know.
If he finds out great. I imagine myself laughing and telling him ''Yeah your friend is way better than you, you suck and always did, always will''

[that1guy19]

Ya sounds like you just wanna hurt him and this hook up means nothing. But I'm glad you don't regret it

[Noahzaid]

It’s not about its cheating or not, it’s just I think a vagina should have a break for 4 months after a break up.

[Asker]

If the break-up would've been for other reasons or on good terms then maybe I would've taken a break but since it was as a result of his serial cheating (therefore very bad terms), I didn't care too much about taking a long break nor of mourning my relationship.

[FilmGuy93]

It's not cheating, but it is petty and foul. You're trying to hurt him.

[Asker]

Yeah it was originally a bit of revenge but then I liked it and don't feel any regrets about it.

[FilmGuy93]

You are free to make whatever choices you wish to make. All I can do is answer the question you ask me 😌

[Noodle_fan]

nope , because you broke up with him first then you sleep with someone

[Asker]

If my ex finds out, good so I can laugh in his face.

[Anonymous]

No but he will think you were doing it while you were together.

[OddBeMe]

It’s more the friend cheating on his friend honestly.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

No it’s not cheating

[Asker]

I wish he would find out though so I can have the last laugh.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

I hear ya girl

[exitseven]

it sounds like the two of you deserve each other.

[Asker]

I didn't sleep with anyone while in the relationship. I slept with his friend when I already broke up, 10 days after the break-up.