I meet guys and make them frnds I am never interested in them romantically but something inside me wants them to be romantically interested in me?

[Anonymous]

I can't help but make them fall for me. Even I'll never be 1% romantically interested in them. I just like when they crave me. When they finally purposes me. I don't answer i ask them about their feelings in so much Detailed way I don't know I feel pleasure listening when they tell me how intense they feel about me and what made them fall for me. After that I deny in the most nicest way possible that they are so good they deserve better and tell them I can never think of them in that way. Make them feel bad for falling for me and even thinking about me in that way they would feel guilty and mostly pedophile as I m always younger than them at least 8 years. Just like this then they don't want my frndship anymore cuz they only want me romantically but I still want them to be my frnd. I don't know this idea is so fantasizing that someone loves you no matter what. But none of them stays even knowing I'll never be theirs. what I always want is someone to be selflessly and madly in love with me even knowing I'll never be his.

[Gent207-2]

I enjoyed that game being ever wanted but never within reach . Though I must applaud you in being "gentle" in the let down - I was never any good with being gentle.

Thankfully never attained the attention of pedophiles ether except for may be once while walking in my neighborhood during my teen years. Damn me for being diped in the fountain of youth lol

I do wonder at that last bit though is that material or emotional selflessness?

[Asker]

I don't know everyone is cursing me in opinions they really don't understand that I want to end it but I don't know how to.

[Gent207-2]

I have no animosity towards you or your situation. In fact I am intrigued by your post and have a few questions. DM me

[Gent207-2]

On second thought I'll respect your privacy and ask you here - I was reading over the other comments and I observed that you are able to pick-up meaning and intent In verbiage i. e
You have emotional intelligence and empathy. But you are unaware of the connection only the consequences of your actions i. e. satisfaction of your emotional needs. You recognize the difference between sexual vs emotional attraction. However you experience neither of these attraction toward these guys.
--- before I continue - is English your first language? I read your post a second time and realized that English may not be your first language. If I had to guess, I'd say you live or were from western Europe.

[Asker]

I followed you. You can dm me now.

[Fireguy17]

it is very natural to want to feel wanted.
So that is what you tend to look for, someone that wants to be with you even though you do not have any desire to be with them.
It fills your need for that.
I'm sure there is some term for that, but I don't have a clue.

[boggboss]

This is so toxic I had to reread in you enjoy leading people you call friends on letting them think thay have a chance then pull the rug out from them and u want them to stay u might need therpy

[Asker]

Yes I Know but trust me I don't do it intentionally I don't even know when I end up doing that.

[Asker]

I don't know what's wrong with me.

[YourFavoriteFriend]

It's really nice that you understand and accept that. Please, seek some help before you hurt someone. We all wish you the best of luck!

[Asker]

I don't know but I love it when they know they don't deserve me but they are so much forced by their feelings they end up saying it to me while I make them suffer more by asking them every details about their feelings making them feel like I don't trust them and then they get a hope if they prove me I'll agree but no I deny in the end. Cuz I never wanna keep a relationship I started with a lie.

[boggboss]

U do because u get off on the fact of it and do it repeatedly you are not unaware of it

[boggboss]

Even the language u use shows you either don't care or enjoy doing it saying stuff likewise love when they know they don't deserve me" or "while I make them suffer" u are completely aware what u do is shitty yet u choose to do it again

[TheFlak38]

In other words you're just another attention whore who can't get enough attention. Millions of men wouldn't be enough.

[Asker]

But I Don't do it intentionally 🥺idk when I end up doing that please don't hurt me with ur words. I m trying to improve.

[TheFlak38]

You're trying to improve? You can start by deactivating instagram and twitter and facebook and all these other apps on your phone elevating your vagina to the most astronomical heights. That would be the perfect start.

[Asker]

I don't use those apps. Plus I never feel sexually attracted to them. I don't use them for that type of pleasure. It satisfies my emotional needs.

[TheFlak38]

attention whore alert

[Asker]

Jerk.

[Asker]

If u were here I would make u fall too and then u will die for even holding my hand. Jerk

[Asker]

So Rude u r

[TheFlak38]

at least I don't whore myself for compliments and attention like you

[Anonymous]

What's the question

[Asker]

Why do I do this?

[Opinion Owner]

Oh! I don't know! Let me read it again

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe, you just want validation. Somewhere in your life, you gave yourself to someone and it wasn't enough! You weren't enough, in their mind! Now, you just want to have some kind of validation. For example: I like to flirt! But, when a guy flirts back, I tend to run in the opposite direction. For me, it's not cute for a guy to flirt with me. It's a turn off. I start thinking there's ulterior motives.

[Asker]

Oh thanks that makes sense