Why is it such a requirement for so many men to have a partner who wants kids? (Page 2)
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Iv been asking the exact same thing. I'm like you who don't want kids and want a long term partner. Some guys did dump me for not wanting kids and its a sucky feeling. I'm 31 and still trying to find a guy who can feel the same as I do as well as the same mindset.
This is an odd take. What kind of answer do you want here? Yes, many men want children, perhaps more men than women as they don’t have to be pregnant, give birth, etc. but why are you trying to shame men who want kids? Do you want a man who wants kids to give up that dream to be with you? I’m just confused at what you’re trying to say here.
Yes she think that he should give up his dream for her, childless women tend to be selfish.
I am happy the major of the women who commented can see how ridiculous your post is.
I don't see anything wrong with men having their standards. Just like How I hear many women say they will only date an educated man.
And now you're mad because you have to meet someone's expectations. So sad, too bad.
Yea men should not give up what they want for her, having standards is fairly important.
Let me guess, you re a liberal atheist? Im saying this becz those are the people who dont want responsibilities nor do they want to take on a burden for the sake of happiness or creating a family and be part of a community. Because these are strong inherited values human beings have which ultimately makes humans happy. So dont shame men for having these wishes and be ready for a boring, unfulfilling and depressing life
Pussy without strings is basically available EVERYWHERE in the USA these days. There's really no reason to get into a relationship with a woman unless something is being added to the package deal. Things like family and kids. A strong female partner who's going to be there for you no matter what. Why should a guy wife you up if 1) you won't have kids for him and 2) you'll leave him the second he gets sick or loses his job? Exactly. He shouldn't.
Yea she don't want to commit to children, so why would a man commit to her.
You should re-read that and see how insulting to men AND women.
You sound troubled and perhaps you should work through those before destroying the dreams of some poor guy.
Well of course she troubled, why else a woman would not want children.
@Berethor i think birth control medication interupts a woman's maternal instincts.
@A_Bell maybe, but then she might need to stop taken a birth control, problem solved.
Because children are Biologically what men want. They want to have their own child. To spread their genes. A woman that doesn't want children is, (I don't want to offend you but I can't express it in any other way) worthless for a man to have.
Not totally worthless, but they good only for sex, it's not enough for the long run.
huh? lots of men don’t want kids especially today. stats show men collectively are at an all time high when it comes to not wanting kids. and more men are getting vasectomies than ever before. you’ll find someone with no issues.
I hope you're being hyperbolic, but I see this type of mindset in women a lot. A man who wants sex only wants you for sex. A man who expects some housework done only wants you as a maid. That's not the way normal people think. A lifelong partner is supposed to meet all expectations, spoken or not. If a man wants a family, he doesn't just want an incubator, it's just one of his requirements and there's no need for the shaming tactics.
Thank you for this comment
Bearing a raising kids isn't easy. It's typically a hallmark of most women to want to have a raise kids. When a woman doesn't want to it can be very concerning. It can be a red flag that she's selfish and incapable of sacrifice. Well I guy would be dumb to commit to a woman like that.
That's a tough one because it is a fact of humanity that the primary purpose of relationships and sex is to pass on our genes through reproduction and raising a family, and most people develop a very primal urge to do that eventually.
On the bright side, there are some men who are like you in that they don't want children. You just need to find one, and I'm confident you will. Hang in there and good luck.
Because having kids is a big thing. For me and a lot of other people, including you, it's a deal-breaker issue. It just happens in this case you are in the minority side of the deal-breaker, so dating becomes harder for you.
This was the value that was instilled in so many AS kids. We were all raised to "grow up, get a job, have kids, raise them, die." And a lot of people- guys AND girls- grow to hold on to this.
It's also how biology work, children are the future, childless women don't have heritage.
Now you're making that up. It's not a requirement, it's a preference. If a man wants children of his own, he has no business wasting time with a woman who doesn't want children or is indecisive about it.
She also said that women that have children serve as an incubators for men. :)
You're allowed to have a choice of wanting children or not, just like some guys are allowed to want them. I feel you though I'd like a long term partner but no children.
There’s a guy out there with baby mama drama that I’m sure doesn’t want anymore kids
Because they do. 🤷♀️
I guess you should cope with reality.
Guys want to have kids it’s in the nature. Why don’t you want to have kids out of curiosity
It’s not a requirement for me, I rather buy a goldfish instead.
You have to find someone who doesn’t want kids therefore you have to try and mention it early when meeting a men. But your desires might change later in life. Never say never.