Why did you do it?

[Anonymous]

We've always heard from the side of those cheated on. But to get a balanced view we need to hear both sides.

So if you ever cheated on your SO why did you do it?

Why didn't you just leave in the first place?

And was it worth it? Would you do it again?

[Guy13]

He look... guys do not cheat. It must be Feminism again !!

[watercolor_lions]

Because I wasn't being honest with myself, and timing was terrible.

I was with a boyfriend I didn't really have chemistry with, but had anxieties of me leaving, so I was damned and determined to never leave to prove I loved him. I didn't want to be an "abandoner". I'm adopted.

But I met my soulmate. And my boyfriend hardly spent any time with me. He was addicted to video games. We had nothing in common, except a mutual fear of being alone. And my soulmate and I had everything in common. But I barred him off limits, despite the magnetic attraction.

Then my boyfriend left for boot camp. So I distanced myself from my soulmate. But while my boyfriend and my soulmate were gone, I realized I didn't NEED my boyfriend. I could stand to be alone.

My fear of being alone is what drove me into my boyfriend's arms. But when I realized I didn't need him... He was already at boot camp. I couldn't just break up with him.

After a while, my soulmate contacted me and told me he missed me. I told him I didn't know what I wanted, so we kissed, and that's when I knew. I had to break up with my boyfriend.

I waited til he finished the Crucible to tell him. A heart wrenching time, but I couldn't do it while he was in boot. He never would have made it.

[watercolor_lions]

It technically was worth leaving. I wouldn't cheat again though. I talk to my partner now if I find someone attractive or not, and am willing to cut men off for his sake.