Did I really cross a line?

Question

Two weeks ago when I woke up I walked down into the kitchen to get some water and I walked past the patio doors. What I didn't notice until I turned around was one of the landscaper guys was outside and when I turned around he was looking at me. I was embarrassed, and ran out of the room because I wasn't fully dressed. My boyfriend saw what happened and yanked the blinds closed and started giving me shit about walking downstairs in just my shirt.

Then last Monday the same landscaper guy was out front when I got home, and he asked me a harmless question about the placement of one of the trees. I didn't have an answer, which I told him, and then we talked for a few minutes about the rest of the yard. But who happened to roll up? My boyfriend, and he saw me talking to him and when we got inside he seemed okay but then later said "I thought you were gonna let that guy see your ass some more". It made me so mad I left.

I don't think I was wrong for walking around expecting privacy or wrong for being nice to him. Was that really crossing the f line?

ShellyB · Accepted Answer

It is hard to interpret attitude or emotion from just reading a few words but, I would think your boyfriend was just teasing you, I would have treated it as a joke. As for the overall situation it happens you did nothing wrong. Your boyfriend probably thinks the situation is funny or cute. If it comes up again I would joke about it like "why do you think we got such a good price for landscaping" or whatever. JMO I could be misreading the situation so if I sound wrong, trust your opinion more than mine!!

Paige90 · Accepted Answer

Not at all! First of all, it's only your butt he saw and everyone has one. Your boyfriend is overly paranoid! Does he tell you which bikini to wear too?

DaveJord · Answer

No I don't think you did anything wrong. But why get so upset over it... reacting that way only reinforces your boyfriends perspective. If ou didn't to anything wrong, then why react that way?

Just saying this is how people like your boyfriend think. They act like it was joke, and you just over reacted to it. When you kinda know it wasn't a joke, but since reacted how you did it weakens your stand point. Its you got passed and just took your ball and went home, because you didn't get your way

If you laughed it off and just said whatever guy, you seriously that insecure? Do you really think I am that type of person? He might of got the message and shut up.

If he's the jealous type, then it doesn't matter what you say honestly. He's just going to be that guy.

But you get pissed and storm out, well it reinforces the other person's belief or motivation for their snarkey comments. That you must feel guilty on some level to get that upset over a comment.

But no you did nothing wrong going down stairs half dressed. I do it every day.

sage2021 · Answer

I think your boyfriend is concerned for your safety. So, some strange landscaper dude saw most of your naked body - then asked you a question and walked together some more?
You are really putting yourself at risk here. What if he starts stalking you? What if he's crazy! What if he sneaks in your house and kills you?

Your boyfriend is right - put some clothes on!

This should have you very concerned about landscaper dude - not your boyfriend! He probably doesn't want to see what happened to you on the evening news!

alance99 · Answer

He seems to be very controlling and you haven't done anything wrong, you also know when a guy is trying to have a inappropiate coversation or something like that, landscapper just took the advantage of situation of you checking a girl out coz your window blinds werent shut and if you knew about it before hand, you would have dressed appropiately on your own, there are thousands of guys on street that check every girl can your boyfriend stop them from checking you out, he can't treat you like a non-living object

sarahsmile8839 · Answer

I don't think you crossed a line. It sounds like it was no different than wearing a skimpy bikini at the beach or pool. I'm single now, but the last boyfriend and I went to a nude beach. It made him so horny when other guys looked at me but only he could touch me.

crossdressingrihno · Answer

You were careless and that’s not too bad, we all make mistakes.
With mistakes in mind your boyfriend made a joke in poor taste, not all jokes are gonna be a banger.
Honestly you both should just kiss and make up because no matter what relationship your in someone is going to do something stupid and the other will say something stupid.

I wish you the best luck in your relationship and hope you both work it out.

Kori1236 · Answer

Your boyfriend sounds like a possessive immature child. To me giant red flag. He needs to calm his shit. In the privacy of your own home it is absolutely normal to expect privacy.

Aaron03 · Answer

Sounds to me like your boyfriend is jealous and insecure. I’m sure he walks around the house in just boxers every now and then. So what you did was innocent and nothing to do with you trying to flirt with a landscaper. He needs to chill out and realize the innocent mistake it was. And what are you supposed to do…not talk with the people doing work on your yard? Sorry but he is way out of line.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

You man is way too jealous and controlling... its your body, if you want to show the landscaper everything, it is your choice. It isn't like your boyfriend owns you. Obviously he thinks he does, which isn't a good thing.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Wow. That harmless-ass joke threw you for a loop? You walked downstair in YOUR house in the morning, wearing fewer clothes than normal. Your boyfriend made a JOKE ABOUT IT. You're a humanbeing. Sometimes you're naked. Move on

Aimée__LJ · Answer

No your boyfriend is being stupid and insecure. You need to talk to him about the way he speaks to you. It's not okay and shouldn't continue

QuietVerbena · Answer

I agree with you 100%. Your boyfriend’s acting crazy.

loveslongnails · Answer

Your boyfriend sounds like an insecure douche nugget. You did nothing wrong. Tell him to grow up and age his age, not his shoe size.

SnowedIn · Answer

You didn't cross a line. Your boyfriend has jealousy and control issues.

LogicBomber · Answer

If you have open windows, you shouldn’t expect privacy. It would be different if you had closed blinds and someone was peeping through them.

Likes2drive · Answer

Sounds like it was a harmless accident and your boyfriend seems kind of insecure

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Are you in charge of the yard? Are you the homeowner?

Sparkie460 · Answer

Your boyfriend needs to calm his ass down. You didn't do anything wrong.

Batsy01010101 · Answer

your boyfriend is a fucking jackass dump him

Xtendable · Answer

You didn’t cross the line. My girlfriend has done that before. Its fun, funny and something to laugh about

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