Is it OK to flirt with someone else, if you don't act on it?

Question

Where's the line?
Are you playing with fire? Or is it harmless fun?
At what point does harmless, become harmful?

Can you just enjoy the fact that you have this interest, and that you're human, and we only live once?
When does monogamy become the " definite" line?
Why must one fulfil everything, if they cannot?
Does it make it wrong that you can "take a lover", accepted by both parties, or otherwise?
Don't get me wrong, I've never cheated ON ANYONE and I don't think I ever could, but I have cheated WITH people... So I do know both sides of the coin!!

Both are equally amazing, but for VERY different reasons!!
I think it's an amazing topic, and can be sexy as hell!! 💯👌😜❤️

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

lots of little questions in here... let's see

Is it OK to flirt with someone else, if you don't act on it? without generalizing, yes, sure... it is okay to flirt just a little bit if that is your personality, if you are playful and comfortable with it and if you do it the right way, a flirt is just that, playing around a bit without a deeper intention, if both parties recognize that and are aware of it, it never becomes a problem... and this is different from leading on someone and tricking them, that is different, that's more like playing with someone's feelings or mindset, lol

Where's the line?
Are you playing with fire? Or is it harmless fun?
At what point does harmless, become harmful? the line is always exactly where you personally are, and exactly where you stand on these matters and the other person as well, everyone is different so everyone has different perceptions of things, like I mentioned it before... as long as the two people are in tune and aware of what is going on, it can be fun and it can be harmless, and the moment either of them or both do switch it and start to lead on or play around, that is playing with fire and that can become a mess, a little one or a big one, still a mess... so, make your choices and own them, your boundaries are yours and you're always the first one that should be able to say stop, or enough

Can you just enjoy the fact that you have this interest, and that you're human, and we only live once? of course you can enjoy something enjoyable, of course you're all human, and of course you all live once but... this should not be used as an excuse to mess around with people and their mind/their emotions, there is no justification for doing it wrong, lol...

When does monogamy become the " definite" line?
Why must one fulfil everything, if they cannot? now.. this is a very different thing, now we are talking about people in their own relationships, flirting with other people that are not part of those relationships... so this is a very different take, and you are no longer just making choices for yourself as an individual, now you are interfering with the implications of a third party, and their feelings and their emotions, their wellbeing... monogamy, being faithful and loyal, these are about commitment so, if you are not capable of respecting and honoring these, because you can't help yourself and become a flirt with others, then you should let your partner know about these things so they are aware and then it is about the two of you being OKAY with these things, because yes, there are people in relationships who can be a bit flirty and playful with others that are not their partners and this never represents a problem for them just because it does not really affect them, that also exists and I've seen it many times but there are also the cases in which people in relationships do flirt with others outside of it, and then things go really bad and end up worse at the end

"does it make it wrong, cheating..." to keep it simple, anything that goes into cheating territory, is always wrong for me... cheating means that you are doing a wrong to people

caring__1 · Accepted Answer

I'm a bit confused. You say you want to flirt without acting on it, yet it also sounds like you're open to multiple partners. Flirting is fine, as long as everyone is clear as to what is being done and for what purpose. Just make sure your actions take you where you want to go while also being considerate of anyone else who may be impacted by your choice. Understand you'll never have control over others, and there are some who won't take no for an answer, so you're gambling with this choice. You don't want your play to end up as rape.

Guy13 · Answer

Why do I not worry about this. I enjoy the person in the moment no matter the style or type of flirting. There are times when I have to chill…like when a gay grabbed my arse and his other two friends demanded my accompanying fat friend to show them my Drag pictures. I am not an ugly man… Anyway, people do what they do and try to enjoy, rather than break a wrist, when one crosses the Flirt to Sexual touching line. 🤷🏻‍♂️

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Would you flirt with another guy if your boyfriend was present, listening, and watching what you were doing? Why not?

DevikaButts95 · Answer

Something to discuss with your partner. I don't care if any of my partners flirt personally, doesn't mean everyone is the same.

Mafia24 · Answer

Ma'am Would you like If guy slap your butt n whisper you look gorgeous in club?

loveslongnails · Answer

I don't really understand what you're asking, other than to say, "why bother to flirt if you're NOT going to act on it?" LOL Just to see if you "still have it"?

Anonymous · Answer

Intent is everything. Also not all relationship dynamics are the same. Some women/men would be ok with it some would be infuriated. You should NEVER do anything that disrespect your partner.

aaron210419 · Answer

Cheating is anything you do with another person that you feel you have to hide from your partner.

Guardian45 · Answer

Flirting is instinctual with me. I'm hypersexual. So if I find a woman attractive, then it just happens!

FilmGuy93 · Answer

It's really not okay.

Jennz6 · Answer

Yes.

bananathunder · Answer

It's fine... YOLO

Charliefretz329 · Answer

I think it’s fine. It keeps your spirits high

Reddy4it · Answer

Totally agree

jayhams · Answer

Flirting is cheating

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Not really

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