Do you think looking for love on social media is desperation?

[hannah]

What do you think about relationships that start from the social media?

[CrazyGirl2]

Social media sites? Yeah pretty much. I used to get hit on a lot on GaG, not as much anymore, but i still do get guys who tell me that they literally love me, but I just politely remind them that this is not a dating site, and that I’m not here to find a boyfriend. Especially when I get hit on (sometimes) up to 5 to 10 times a day just walking around campus! Now internet dating sites? That’s completely different, and I don’t think it’s desperation to use an internet dating site. Although I’ve never used one, I do know quite a few people who met their spouse on a dating site! Apparently they do a good job of filtering out the type of person you absolutely do not want to date, and match you with people who share your values, goals and beliefs. Which I imagine would really make it easier to find Mr or Ms. Right, when you already know you have so much in common?

[NeverknowNeverTell]

yes it is
I notice most people looking for love on social media are dealing with one of two issues. !. they want casual hookups and it's easier to find hot and naive people online or
2. they think being single is such a horrible curse that they'll try anything to get validation and intimacy.
if it happens to work out, cool. it's rare but i know it can happen, one of my family friends is married to someone they met online and they seem to have a normal marriage.
in my personal experience, it's always been bad. they either just treat you like Pornhub or they're so desperate and clingy it's borderline stalking.
good luck to anyone who's trying to find love though, on or offline.

[OpenClose]

Kinda?

Like the gap between introverts and extraverts has widened as we've become more sedentary and deal with more strangers. Introverts mostly think they suck at dating because they are picturing themselves in a bar setting. Like yeah, in a loud bar, the loud aggressive one is going to have the advantage. But what about a quiet art gallery? Now the loud aggressive one is obnoxious and pushing everyone away, while the introvert's unique insights start to shine.

So something like social media gives introverts a better outlet for their thoughts, so they'll probably shine a bit more.

But on the other hand, I'm not that attracted to most girls on dating sites. It's lots of "leftleftleftleftleftleft... right? eh leftleftleftleft oh here we go!" But this could just be due to selection bias where the most broadly-attractive ones get snatched up quickly.

[ShadezMcgee]

I wouldn't call it desperate since it has become more accepted than it used to be back in the day to meet people online. It may be the only option if you are no longer in a constant social setting like college where a lot of people normally meet their spouse or girlfriends and establish friend groups.

I think if one goes online to find a date it isn't desperate as much it is a far cry. Dating apps these days are namely hookup locations than meeting someone, but the odd part is that hookups is where relationships tend to sprout from post college. Having no expectations and not looking seems to be when that part in life pops up.

[Guy13]

most of the time people on the dating sites are passing time with no intention of ever getting off the couch, shower, and to a meet. Ease, Fear, and Rejection protection are the reasons why people stay in a false dating paradigm like LDR.
3/4 of the American psyche would crash if Social Media went down a week.

[AviatorTom]

No. Social media is one of several tools that can be used for a wide variety of things. Looking for a relationship on social media is a reasonable use of it... better than scammers, spammers and conspiracy mongers.

[coachTanthony]

You met your partner in an alley in NYC or Bumble. Does it really matter? lol

[Fireguy17]

No, but there are probably much better ways to find someone special.

The better pay to join dating sites, e harmony, it's just lunch are better places to look.

Because of the cost most people are looking to be in a relationship.

There will be some just looking to hook up, but if you are really serious about finding someone special.

That is where I found my wife.

It can be a lot of work, and you need to be honest on your fact sheet.

The better you are with describing who you are looking for the better your chances are of finding someone.

[Alwayreckles93]

Yes exactly especially now a days people get scam all the time. Later find out that person does not exist.

[Fireguy17]

@Alwayreckles93 yeppers!

[red324]

I've never understood how someone can knock someone for attempting to find a significant other. I got called out by a girl on facebook I went to school with uears ago for sending a friend request to her friend. Okay so why did this girl accept my friend request then? Why does she have have to speak for other people. The girl was 28 she can speak up for herself. Ended up unfriending both of them because she went all pyscho on me about something else not even related a couple months earlier but what did I ever do to deserve being called out like that?

[Aerissa_Jade]

Doesn't matter if someone is desperate or not, if they find what they are looking for, true long love and a family or whatever else.

I don't have an opinion on what it is, but living rural, it is easier to meet people there then go into the city to meet in person later.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

Kinda yea but I’m 40 it’s not our generation. I think it doesn’t work. My boyfriend is 21 if he would have just found me on social and slid into my DM I’d have been like no get a girl your own age. But he put in the work made me feel sexy and young and he got me. He woulda never got me with a hey beautiful DM

[DaySpring]

Everyone is desperate. The word gets a bad name.
Desperate - having a great need or desire for something.

Everyone is wired to have a strong desire for connection and sex.
That is nothing to be ashamed about. @hannah

The problem is people have no discipline and boundaries.

[Alwayreckles93]

Huge No , No I am old school I saw it's better in person and face to face. My grandpa got scam I told me but he yelled at the top of his lungs that it was love at first and sight soul mate that I don't know nothing about life when I was only trying to help him. Turns out when my grandpa sent $12,000 he no longer heard from the woman. I made research the same lady pic was up. Turns out my grandpa's girlfriend did not exist it was a made up character. My grandpa cry.

[MrOracle]

If you are looking for a relationship partner, then you should be doing that in person in your local area, for at at least 98% of your effort. If you stumble into someone on social media who is local, fine - exceptions are rare but not completely impossible - but online should never represent more than a tiny fraction of your partner-seeking energy.

[Chazmatazz269]

Absolutely, that and ignorance. Young people, particularly women, have bought into the nonsense about in-person meeting and dating being dangerous and stoopid. So they do what they’re told and resort to online interactions. Ever wonder who funds those particular headlines? Ell oh ell!

[Kevinb18222]

For me I’ve never found anything good on a dating site. To be honest all my good relationships happened by chance. The girl I met and have been sorta starting to date just walked in the area I work from where she worked. I wasn’t looking for her. She found me

[maximumpower]

not necessarily despiration; rather, alternate - and more modern - approach to meeting others.
not much different than the "dating services" of 70s-90s or the "matchmaker" of previous ages.
one must certainly be on their guard about who they meet on such venues, tho.

[peacesncream]

It depends on if they trying to use that person or if they really want that person some people on theses social apps can be desperate n at the same time can be trying to use people because they want to see what u got

[Kaneki05]

Of course it is. Wouldn't trust a person who denies that. And this coming from a person who's had mostly LDR relationships because I ain't gonna pretend I have girls knocking on my door.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No, I think looking for someone offline is desperation.

The odds of a match being THAT close seems extremely small, so it would almost certainly result in settling to look offline, and only desperate people settle.

[LittleSally]

It's highly unlikely.

But most youngsters are used to it and believe it is the only way... so I guess you're a product of your generation (by 'you', I mean people).

[Lionman95]

No I think it´s as valid as dating apps are. As everybody knows the flaws of dating apps there are not many options left if you don´t have any offline potential partners.

[catlady0317]

It’s not desperate persay, I think it depends on the situation. For example, if you’re someone who has anxiety or gets tongue-twisted, then it’s acceptable in my book. Then again, I think meeting the old-fashioned way is much more romantic and rewarding!

[LovingJo]

No, and if you feel this way, then you need to get over it.
Love is love, grab it, where you can find it.
If someone else is making you feel like this, then fuck 'em!! 💯😘❤️

[Paulalove98]

Met my boyfriend on tinder. Don't think any of us were desperate. I guess it depends on the approach.

[DaySpring]

Desperate - having a great need or desire for something. (4th definition on google)

[Ironic_Method]

Nah. Love can be found anywhere. You have some older people that have trouble adapting with technology that will be like "back in my day" and all that, but they still telephoned when their parents told them to write letters.

[petitedollbabee]

In a world that’s still in the midst of a pandemic, I would much rather meet someone on social media than bump into a random person on the street.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

It is just looking through the options available. I would definitely not call it desperation. Just one of the options for looking for love.

[exitseven]

I used to think that and maybe still do, however after being on this site I can see how you could conceivably finds somebody you might have a romantic relationship with.

[JDavid25]

Nah, more like convenience really.. And I think good for then if it worked out well enough to start a relationship..

[CallmeTheKnight]

No. Then we should say it's desperate to look for sex or friends on social media as well.

Whatever you make of your experience on social media is up to you.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I don't think it's desperation per se, but from my experience people looking to date online seem a bit desperate.

It's far better meeting people in person instead of a random person hiding behind a screen you don't know from nowhere.

[Berethor]

It technology and not all people like clubs, but it not easy to find someone in social media.

[Chestpain101]

No, but these are usually the loneliest types of relationships. To be in a relationship you must be all in it takes so much effort on both parties. Healthy relationships even if the begin on a dating app or social media should meet ASAP.

[UniquelyBasic]

Its not surprising since its the world we live in now.

[Twalli]

Not really. Some people can't go out to meet people. If I was single, I would. I can't go out and meet anyone in person for the foreseeable future.

[dragoblack]

With current dating society online dating has become a mean of convenience and an easier time that irl... granted that depends on what part of the world you live in.

[DiegoO]

In my defense, the only LDR I had turned out to be spontaneous. I am not sure if my LD ex actively looked for someone online. I didn't.

[DiegoO]

Also, it didn't happen on a social media. It started in a chatroom.

[DiegoO]

And the chatroom is longer working.

[Anonymous]

Social media? You mean like here? Kind of. But like Facebook dating? No. It's just kind of another form of online dating apps.

[OddBeMe]

You meet people where you can. Have to be careful no matter where.

[Guardian45]

I dont think looking for love on social media is desperation, but current reality.

[Shy_Steve]

Any Girl looking for love is more Attractive to me because I'm looking for love aswell.

[Nandan1080p]

Its true.. its mainly Desperation..

There may be exception ignore them

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Looking for one on social media, yes that's desperate but just take an opportunity isn't.

[Jltakk]

Not desperation, just a convenient and sad state of the times

[bishoyyy]

Normal. I believe they are pretty common and normalized now

[Anonymous]

Desperation is when it is deperation... people can meet in a really nice romantic way anywhere.

[sarahsmile8839]

No. It's one of the ways to do it in 2022.

[Anonymous]

Yeah desperate. Cause your friends should’ve helped you out in that aspect or even your family as well.

[Anonymous]

Yes, desperate and sad.

[sheikalana]

Nah. Nowadays can be hard to meet people.

[rienna888]

lol i dont think so i use dating apps

[Fromdusktilldawn]

then I would be true desperation

[whiskeyontherocks]

Yes.
But probably not a bad thing to try.

[Minahh]

Some people are just huge introverts, it's ok

[Hallix26]

It can be, but overall I just find it unnatural.

[LimitedBenefits101]

Yes very desperate

[Zachary00112]

Yes don't do it there creaper than you think

[melanieeeB]

Nope

[roy_ricky09]

Ofcourse it is

[Lynn2001]

Not necessarily

[Fuentes]

Kinda

[ZenJen444]

Yes it's desperate