Is a woman packing lunch for her husband controversial nowadays?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Just asking.

My wife usually packs me lunch for work, and it's something that some people find unusual where I work - an employee even joked that I'm "lucky". Then there are articles like this one, and I realize that more than ever people just like to find something new to be outraged every single day. https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-8356081/amp/Wife-slammed-packing-tradesman-husbands-lunch-work-morning.html

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My thoughts on this kind of thing is that I simply see packing lunch for your partner as a nice and caring gesture, and I too used to do it for my wife when she was working and I was home.

[AmandaYVR]

It's idiotic.

[pause for effect... and to create a bit of tension, as the person wonders on which foot I stand, lol]

"People slammed her for babying her husband and waiting on him hand and foot."

Oh please. This whole, drawing gender lines in the sand business has got to stop. Sure, a lot of women weren't actually happy with 2.4 kids hanging onto her legs as she slaved away in a kitchen with no dishwasher and everything was made from scratch. And it was a constant keeping up with Joneses. And she missed having a career, an outside life, another sense of purpose, and time away from the home. And being respected for something more than her domestic 'duties.'

However, women are not statistically happier, now that they are working just as much outside the home as men. Riddle us that, huh, feminists? Even with much greater equality now.

Possible Causes: Women have a lower stress threshold. (This is not my opinion. It has been proven in surveys and studies.) They find work stressful, and have a lower stress response. And, they come home to a partner who's chillin' on the sofa, and doesn't really care that there are dishes in the sink, he ate a salty, not-so-healthy, frozen meal for dinner, and the bathroom mirror has spots all over it. He just doesn't really care. [Some men. Although I happen to know all the ones who do, in fact, care.] So, women, with their higher standards of living, end up doing the lion's share of the housework, and then... they feel bitter. "Why can't you help out more?" Or, if they're a Millennial or Gen Z, they might say, "You're not supposed to help me, you're supposed to do 50/50!" I see it time and time again (I have seen a lot of dating realities shows, so I know what people in their 20s care about and are looking for.) Girls in this age group are taking a stand. They feel it's "unfair" to be "waiting on him hand and foot." "I work too, you know" (she does.) But the issue (if there is one - debate this amongst yourselves), is that females today see gender roles as equal. Except when it comes to something masculine. He should propose, and buy the diamond. He should share his income. He should plan special dates, and gifts, and holidays together. He should appreciate 'the pink tax', and what it takes to look good/hot for him. He should get the cars fixed. He should negotiate terms when facing opposition. And she should not have to cook for him, or do all his laundry. Or make his lunches.

50/50 falls apart pretty easily, actually.

[watercolor_lions]

I feel like it's silly how a nice, caring gesture could be considered "controversial" now days. If a man packed a woman's lunch, would anything be said about it?

It's just silly. Couples should be able to express their care for one another without it being a sexist issue on who is loving each other the right way.

[Chazmatazz269]

Something would definitely be said about a man packing his woman’s lunch, and the term “simp” or “cuck” would almost certainly be used. It is indeed strange how we have so completely warped our values system to make almost anything objectionable, including love and kindness. How jaded must we be?

[BigWhiteWolf87]

@Chazmatazz269 grow up. It's not hard. If you genuinely care for someone then you will help them even in packing a lunch. The guys who'd call someone a simp or cuck are just losers and douchebags who couldn't land a decent respectable woman (so not the bar hoping tramps they're used to) if their lives depends upon it.

[watercolor_lions]

@Chazmatazz269 My husband says he agrees with you. Now all the nice guys want to hide.

[CallmeTheKnight]

No. Nothing wrong with that. She wants to make sure he has food at work or wherever he may be.
I had an ex who would make me lunch for work and even bring me a post workout shake or meal before I left the gym. Do I miss those days... Damn I miss those days

[slatyb]

No, partners do all sorts of things for each other. My wife does a lot for me, because I'm working a job and she's not.

[AviatorTom]

I certainly hope not. My SO is much better at preparing food than I am.

[OlderAndWiser]

Like you, I see it as a sign of caring and affection.

[MichaelEspinoza]

Here's my opinion on this subject , as a Man if My wife wanted to pack my lunch the next morning she is More than welcome. I mean really in today's society it's controversially if a woman does that but if I was married & my wife wanted to pack my life she is welcome to - who cares what everyone else thinks you are married to her not them.

[DermalPunch]

Please don't take this woman for granted. Spend time listening to her. Don't treat her like an appliance. If she actually makes a different lunch for you everyday she loves you.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Never took her for granted and never will

[DermalPunch]

Good!

[Still-alive]

no but --expecting-- her to do so because you think that is her --role-- to do that is controversial.

however if she freely wants to do this by choice she can and is not controversial.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

That's what I think. I also think it's important to consider doing the same when the roles are switched - ie. she goes to work when the husband stays home, it's nice if the husband packs her lunch for the day.

[midnightmoon05]

Exactly how I have it now. My honey is a stay at home dad/husband. We both love our roles to care and love each other. He is really good at domesticated tasks as well as masculine household work, fixing cars, computer, fisher washer, refrigerator.
We are both lucky to have each other. Don’t care what others say.

[Account]

I don't see anything wrong with that. She is not being forced and it is something that you would also do.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Exactly. I believe in reciprocity in relationships - what she's willing to do for me, I'm willing to do for her.

[Paul09]

Well depends on you arrangement. But for me it would be nice sometimes. I could pack her lunch too. I don't want her to bother me lol. But some situations why is she doing more work than the man?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Those situations are when the man is being lazy in my opinion. Marriage is a team effort and everyone must do their part.

[ShellyB]

I don't think so but I can't speak for everybody, for me it is not controversial at all and, I can't really see why it would be as long as everybody is satisfied and not being forced to do things they don't want to do.

[Smoothing]

Don't worry about those people. The han race is slowly becoming obnoxious. You have a good thing going on in your marriage. Cherish it. Don't let loosers put any seed of doubt in your head.

[Smoothing]

The human* race

[NathanDavis]

I have my niece to cook her own meals, and prepare her own lunch for middle-school...

if I said that on social media, they would probably call child services on me... lol

[Nomina]

I don't think so. From what I see around me, it's not that uncommon here. And no one really complains.

[TrueConfection]

I'm not surprised. I've been slammed for packing my husband's suitcase.

[Paulalove98]

Hopefully not. I'm still getting to know my boyfriend since we're in the early stage of our relationship, but honestly I'd love to pack his lunch for him before he goes to work or somewhere someday.

[βιυεsκγs]

I love doing things like that for my man😍 makes me feel more feminine

[midnightmoon05]

That’s awesome!! I am happy things are working out for you both. She is very sweet!

[melanieeeB]

Not at all, if she wanna do that and you're fine with it too.. it's all good🙏🏼

[sheikalana]

Why would it be controversial? Is just me taking care of my husband.

[llorando]

It's only controversial if your a feminist who goes looking for things to complain about that don't need complaining about. As long as the woman isn't being forced to do something, It's no one else's business what she does for her husband/man.

[joeldalton]

Because feminists hate anything that approaches being decent to another human being.

[jayhams]

Depends on the roles of everyone in the household.