Do you think its ridiculous that women make their husbands lunchboxes?

[Anonymous]

Or cook their husband breakfast before he goes to work? My mom has never cooked me breakfast before I went to school ever since I graduated high school. NOBODY has cooked me breakfast or made my luncboxes throughout college or even when I worked at corporate. I made my own breakfast and lunchbox or simply bought a bagel

To believe that there are grown adults out there who expect someone else to take care of them like theyre a lunch of little kids. Waiting for a mother to do their dishes, cook them breakfast, make their lunchbox, clean their messes is UNBELIEVABLE.

grown adults out there who is always looking for a mother to care for them. If you made the mess, u clean it up. If you know you need a lunchbox tomorrow, you make it yourself!

[Phoenix98]

What's wrong with that? That's how I grew up and my mother didn't do it because she had to she did it because she wanted to. Just like how I would do things for my partner not because I felt like I had to. But because I wanted to like labor related stuff around the house, fix things, move things, tend to the yard and garden, work on her car etc. All things quite a few women expect from a man.

I can certainty fix my own breakfast and lunch I do it every day. But if the girl I'm with wants to do it I'm not gonna tell her no. It's a nice way a partner can express their feelings.

After all any good cook knows good food is made with passion and love whether it's the passion and love a person has towards the person they are cooking for or towards the food itself.

And before you say something no there is nothing wrong with splitting the cooking, cleaning, etc. But don't try to dictate how people live their lives and make them feel like shit for the stuff they like doing for each other. It's not your place to get angry for other people when they are just fine doing what they're doing. And just because it hasn't happened for you does not mean it hasn't for others.

You outta let go of some of that anger I couldn't imagine being as bitter as you, it ain't healthy.

[Asker]

you're sick filled with excuses. Sure, she donest need to fix a car if she DOES NOT KNOW how to fix a car. Sure, she does not have to mow a lawn if she isn't strong enough to mow it. But you are entirely CAPABLE of cooking. When you don't wanna cook but rather obligate her to do it, it shows you're lazy. Shit that you're too lazy to do so you look to impose that on a woman.

Its like telling someone to clean the toilet for you, to express love. A man who truly loves his wife won't force her to clean his toilet. He would do it himself or hire a maid.

No man who loves his wife would expect her to wake up an hour early to cook him breakfast.

there are so many ways to express love, giving massages, taking them out on vacation. It really does not need to be expecting your spouse to be YOUR SLAVE

[Phoenix98]

Mighty presumptuous of you to assume that she wouldn't know how to do or can't do those things.

And also again mighty presumptuous of you to assume I don't want to cook or that I think she would be obligated to do it.

Your making a lot of assumptions for someone who's a stranger who does not know me and who's to much of a coward to show her face.

Not even remotely the same thing /=.

And who's saying that we do expect those things except for you? Again your making presumptions based on probably your own experiences or lack there of. Not everyone is like you there are plenty of men out there who do things for themselves and don't rely on or expect anything from anyone. And plenty of women who actually like taking care of their man because it makes them feel good and is a way to express what they feel. Just because you haven't experienced either again doesn't mean it it doesn't happen. The world does not revolve around you and what you think.

*sigh* your missing the point entirely.

"there are so many ways to express love" Your exactly right but at the same time that's exactly what your failing to see though. For some people taking care of their partner is there way of expressing love. It may not be your way of expressing love and that's fine but we're not talking about you we're taking about other people.

[Phoenix98]

Again no one is expecting their spouse to be their slave and again your missing the entire point of someone doing something for someone because they want to in spite of it not being expected /=. Your just pissed off because what they are doing is something that you don't like/agree with. And because of that you refuse to admit that it's just as much of a valid expression as anything else.

Why are you so dead set on making it seem like it must be expected or that they are a slave because they do it? When that's just simply not the case.

Did you know that in Mexico one of the greatest expressions of love toward someone is cooking/food.

El amor entra por la cocina ( (Love enters through the kitchen)

[Asker]

@Phoenix98

lets be honest, who the hell likes waking up an hour early to cook breakfast for her husband LIKE A SERVANT? no one.

who likes taking out the trash for her husband LIKE A SERVANT? no one

Who the hell likes cleaning toilets for her husband LIKE A SERVANT? no one

Yea, she can claim she is doing it out of love. but no man who truly loves his wife would enjoy seeing her slave away doing shitty tasks like this.

lets face it, you don't want to do it cuz its shit work. You CONVINCE HER TO DO IT under the excuse of showing wanting her to "show love" . you're just manipulating her and taking advantage of her.

[Asker]

there are so many ways to show love. it does not need to be doing shit work...
if you're a grown ass man who CAN COOK, you do it yourself.

what is next? her wiping your ass after you take a shit?

[boundless]

If you want the furniture moved, do it yourself. If you want your car fixed, do it yourself. Your car got a flat and it's in the middle of the road, oh well get out and pus it yourself lady. If you want the lawn maintained do it yourself. See how that works out for you as the physically weaker sex.

[boundless]

*push

[Kelly6]

@boundless that explains well.

[Asker]

Its unreasonable to expect a woman to do those things cuz she can't. But if you're a grown ass man who CAN COOK, CAN CLEAN, you shouldn't be expecting other people to do it for you.

[boundless]

Well everything is give and take in a relationship. Clearly you have nothing to offer, so nobody is going to waste their time on you.

[Noredcarpet]

I get your point but it is nice to get a lunch box, lol, I've fixed lunch boxen to others and they for me, could be just friends too I was living with at the moment. Lots of people show love by giving, offering food. When I was pregnant my man prepped these big lunch boxes for me, guess he took the saying you eat for two litherely. Both women and men can be working in the Kitchen making food, I suppose it does not trigger me as it does you with lunch boxes :)

[Asker]

The way I see it, nobody should impose their spouse to make their lunchbox or wake up an hour early to cook them breakfast, if they are fully capable of doing it themselves. Its like imposing shitty work on your spouse because you didn't wanna do it.

Its like telling someone to clean your toilet to show love. A man who truly loves his wife won't force her to clean his toilet. He would do it himself or hire a maid

[Noredcarpet]

Again I get your point, perspective but there are those who wants to do it, show their love that way. I know of one couple who take turns with their lunchboxes writing loving messages or fun quotes to one another. Of course it should not be forced or imposing.

[Anonymous]

I don't know of anyone who's done this since Wilma Flintstone. Maybe Lucy Ricardo? But I think Ricky always at at the Copa.

[Anonymous]

Wow. Such a negative attitude.

I bring my wife coffee in bed nearly every morning. No, she doesn't expect it. That's why people do nice things for each other. Because of love.

Oh, and yes, she makes the lunch I bring to work. I never asked her to, she does it because she knows I appreciate the gesture.

[Asker]

Its like telling someone to clean your toilet to show love. A man who truly loves his wife won't force her to clean his toilet. He would do it himself or hire a maid

[Opinion Owner]

That's a bizarre prospective, but ok.

Unpleasant chores get done by whomever because they need doing. No one is forced.

[MrChinaski]

From time to time, people launch into meaningless attacks on others regardless of their views just because they feel like being angry at the time. And, because they are clearly right in their deeply held opinions, they go anonymous for the whole exercise.

OP: You are not wanted here.

[exitseven]

Sometimes my wife used to pack my lunch if she was making one for herself. I did not mind doing it myself.

[Anonymous]

I find it ridiculous that men and women haven't been separated into non-connected walled-off continents yet, only reason I believe it hasn't happened is the epsteinian societystill need a steady supply of young victims for their requirements

[sirderpsalot123]

No, normal people like doing nice things for their partner. It's called a healthy relationship.

[sirderpsalot123]

Ok weirdo

[DryGermanGuy]

Different strokes for different folks! She makes him lunchboxes and he changes the oil and tires of her car. Who am I to criticize other people's successful couple dynamics?

[Asker]

And who says its successful? Women initiate 70% of all divorces... they aren't happy with marriage. They work full time jobs then come home to do 90% of housework and child care

[DryGermanGuy]

I say it’s successful because I know such couples for decades. But you do you! Run around with your list of „dos and don’ts“, see where it gets you.

[beenherebefore]

No, I think it’s adorable. My Partner does not expect me to make his lunchbox or even cook for him I do it because I want to.

[Asker]

Because you want him to marry you. Trust me, once you have to work a full time job then come home to care for 3 kids... cooking for him will turn into a chore

[Asker]

Lotta girls do things they dont actually want to do just so they can get the ring. Once the kids come out, he won't be helping you with the cooking. He won't make his lunch box either

[beenherebefore]

Girl I’m already married what are you talking about? Your toxic judgement is clouding the way you see or think relationships should be

[Crankor]

Why would it be ridiculous? They aren't required to do so but when they do it is very much appreciated

[Ariesman81]

Perfect. What else don't you bring to the table?

[Asker]

so if a woman doesn't cook for you then she brings nothing to the table?

[Ariesman81]

I'm just trying to figure out if you're in the asset or liability category.
So no cooking. That's cool, I don't like buying flowers anyway.
What about cleaning?

[Asker]

what is wrong with splitting the cooking and cleaning?

you see? this is the reason why so many women are divorcing

[Ariesman81]

This is also the reason so many men aren't getting married

[Asker]

@ariesman81

women initiate 70% of all divorces. Let that sink in.

[Ariesman81]

Wow. 70%? That's a lot of happy men. I do wonder how many of those women were actual losses though

[Kelly6]

Wow,

looks like you don’t understand healthy relationship

[Asker]

A healthy relationship is expecting your wife to be your substitute mother? You out grew your real mother now you need another one?

[Asker]

Whats next wiping his ass for him after he takes a shit?

[Kelly6]

So why is wife needed if she can’t help in anything?

[Asker]

So if ur wife isn't your mother then it means she isn't helping with anything? Haha

Do you realize how retarded that sounds?

[Kelly6]

I help my husband and my kids.
Cook for everyone. Make lunch for them too and pack it.

So them I should not cook for hubby and tell him go cook yourself , I’m not your mom?

[Kelly6]

So tell me what does wife have to do in a relationship? Make a list

[Asker]

@kelly6

A wife is NOT responsible for waking up an hour early to cook her husband breakfast before work. Its reasonable to do it for the kids cus the kids can't do it themselves. But to treat a grown ass man like an infant, is retarded. No, its not love. You can take a man out to a nice restaurant to show love. You can give him a massage to show love. But to wake up early every morning to make breakfast for a grown ass man for the rest of your life, as if he can't do it for himself, is retarded

[Asker]

Whats next? Wiping his ass after he takes a shit?

[Asker]

If he makes a mess, he should clean it up. Its not your job as a wife to clean it up for him. Dont call it love, cuz its not.

[ClassicDropout]

Its not ridiculous... you're overthinking this. Sometimes people just want to life easier for their partners..

[Asker]

Of course your life will be easier, you're being treated like a BABY

[jahaims]

Aw you are too broken to understand how a healthy relationship works

[Jmmmfi4]

No... that's a wife's role that's why we get married

[Asker]

No thats not a wifes role, thats a mothers role

[Jmmmfi4]

Wife's usually become mother's eventually

[Asker]

Whats next wiping his ass for him after he takes a shit?

[Jmmmfi4]

If he physically needs help

[Asker]

Well you dont physically need help making your own lunchbox. You're a grown ass man