And doesn't care about you as a person, or your personality traits?
If he’s making you question that then he probably doesn’t want you for you, just other things. But if you’re an overthinker and have been through some bad experiences that make you question a lot, then here’s some ways to find out.
If he finds time for you, knows your likes/dislikes, you’re not always texting first, he doesn’t mind introducing you to people he’s close to, he isn’t secretive, you know you can depend on him during your struggles if you need him, he’s willing to fix a problem like an argument, & try to see if he’s showing you any of the five love languages.
Everyone is different though, girls & guys. He might have gone through things and might not be able to express his feelings well or he’s a quiet person that’s never gone through much so he doesn’t know how to show you what you would expect him to. Only way to really find out if you’re still not sure is to have a talk & see his responses/actions. People usually act certain ways based on what they’ve gone through or are used to and might not even know some things could be a problem to their significant other.
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I think it could take different forms like, he could be worshipful and think you are a flawless angel who does everything right, bc he hasn't bothered really getting to know you and just assumes everything about you is perfect bc of how you look, OR, he could treat you as a sex object and only care about the physical part of the relationship or showing you off, and not really want to hear what you say or think.
I have had both of these relationships!! They were both bad in different ways. I think the thing in common is not really wanting to get to know you both good and bad.
That sounds like a unique problem. To tell you the truth, it's a very unlikely scenario.
If a guy is only physically attracted to you and doesn't seem to like you romantically, then he will hit and quit. Most men don't like women who are bland, so if you wonder why he doesn't reply sometimes even though you guys hook up regularly, well now you know.
Only time I could think someone having a "trophy wife" is if they're super rich and old. Trophy wives are just there for their looks and nothing else as those guys hire maids and nannies to take care of everything else. Younger men don't date girls who are hot with no personal traits that they find attractive, they just sleep with them and move on.
The obvious one would be being overly physical. Only meeting you at indoors places and not really having fun dates. Not doing stuff with friends if you happen to have a social group. Never met each other’s families if you happen to be open about that, if not then it doesn’t matter. I guess the last but not least can be a girl asking what the signs are lol
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I know I'm gonna get hateful responses on this, but I think every heterosexual man is like that. I think their passion for beauty is simply too strong to rationalize anything else. They will ALWAYS go for the most prettiest one and reject "ugly" ones just because they don't physically fancy them. They justify this ridiculous selection by using "men are visual" phrase. In the end all they want is a pretty, good girl that will support them, be kind to them, provide them with sex and children. Luckily for them there are MANY girls like that, that are pretty and GOOD ENOUGH. "Ugly" girl can never be good enough, they simply do not exist to men. "Ugly" girls are bullied in school just because of how they look. Imagine a line, above are "pretty enough" girls, and bellow "not pretty enough". Men make their preferences based on the selection above the line, only. I don't know if it's biological or whatever, but men HAVE TO find you above the line, it is their first condition. Now some are super pretty, some are kind of pretty, some have something specially pretty about them, but the point is that they are above the line. I've hanged out a lot with male groups of friends to know and hear enough stories on how they catagorize women, and some are very disturbing to be honest. The only time a man will reject/dump a super beautiful girl is if she is super toxic, unstable, etc. But I mean SUPER, SUPER, SUPER! She has to be more ugly on the inside then she is pretty on the outside for them to go next, and even then it's super hard for them. The problem is that not many girls are like that, most super pretty girls are kind of okay so they settle. But don't doubt for a second that an "ugly" girl wouldn't get rejected like a rocket if her personality was just kind of okay. Well, truth be told, an "ugly" girl wouldn't even have a chance to prove her personality because she is invisible to all men who only have their eyes on the girls above the line. Now lets talk about DESPERATION. Unfortunatelly there are men out there who hadn't had much luck in dating, who get rejected all the time and who are still virgins or been awhile since they had sex; these men reek of desperation FOR HOT GIRLS. I call this a "hunting" mode where they only think with one head. I have a friend who is like that, and he is not an attractive man, and every time we go out he is scanning for girls, of course. He claims he wants to settle down, get married and have kids, but the few times I suggested him some girl he said "hmm not my type, I prefer prettier". And mind you that one of them was actually pretty from my point of view, and she was interested in talking to him! This didn't only happen with that friend, happened with others too. Another example was an ex of my close friend; she is extremely beautiful and he wasn't so much. She gotten with him basically for rebound, and kept causing drama and stress and situations with her exes and simply not treating this guy right. She knew that but she had her own justification. She dumped him many times and gotten him back every time. When we asked why is he still with her, he said "I don't think I could ever find another girfriend that is nearly as pretty as she is and wants me back". And I'm not gonna count how many times I heard the same reason from other men too. Of course, she had SOME good qualities besides her looks (like cooking, being kind to friends and animals, responsible and somewhat honest), which made her good enough for him. I simply refuse to believe that there is a "biological condition" that justifies these unrealistic preferences. Men are driven to beauty and sex way to much then I think it's normal. It's as if they go completely dumb and with 0 personality standards when they see a pretty girl. It's like an addiction they can't break. Also justified with "men are visual creatures"... I wonder what idiot came to that conclusion? Because of believing something like that men keep doing it. They surrender to these urges as if their life it's in danger. So that's why they value looks/attraction so much. I don't think they can explain it themselves either, but I would address all men with this to really sit down and think about how this is impacting their lives. Is it really that hard to see women as just humans, beneath that pretty flash where there's just bones and organs? Without skin everyone looks the same.
I know this goes for women as well, but it's a bit less then for men. Women on the other hand have their own wrong points of view that we can discuss on some other topic, I'm only using men because the question was about them.
In short, to answer your question, there is NO WAY to spot the sings, because men give their best to please and keep attractive women close. Whatever good deed he does for you, it could very well be motivated by his admiration and obsesion to your looks, and you will never know.
There is one way. Take a look at all the women he has dated. If they are all women a million years younger than him, he's likely dating you for your looks. Dont be surprised if he dumps or cheats on you with a younger woman by the time you hit 40
Well does he just want sex from you? Do you do activities together? Do you have plenty of same interests? Do you have interesting common ground conversation? Does he go out of his way to help you out? Is it a 50|50 type relationship? So many questions
Doesn’t ask about your day/ mental health/ do things for you that make you happy. If they only comment on your physical traits. Sex is only form on intimacy you have. All red flags. I’ve done it when I was younger and not proud of it.
He doesn't give a shit about your dreams and personal traits but more if you worked out that week, what you did and what you wear etc
They give you less attention on days when you don’t look as good.
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They only care about the physical parts of the relationship
Lack of shared interests and hobbies between you and your partner means its definitely just about looks.
well I been there for 5 freaking years for her when I could of left at any time. In fact when I had a petrifying fear of her leaving it fucking killed me inside so bad i was balling my eyes out freaking crying and shaking scared out of my god damn fucking mind. does that answer your question
I think he would start comparing you to other women.
He doesn't introduce you to anyone else as his girlfriend and most of your interactions revolve around sexual acts.
We don't date for long someone we just wanna have sex with. The appearance doesn't matter. If there's no real connection, we leave early as we could.
All they care and talk about is sex.
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