My take is that men are more willing to put the happiness and needs of his kids above his own happiness.
As a culture, we tell our sons how to treat women and what to expect from them. We do NOT do the same for our daughters. Consequently, many grow up with wildly inaccurate expectations about relationships and marriage, and thanks to television's insistence on drama, and the pervasive influence of "show only the best" social media, many grow up thinking a relationship is only right if it's always easy.
Add in the effects of growing up under entrenched Feminist social doctrine, which tells girls (it tells boys many horrible things, too, but that's not directly relevant to what I'm saying here) that 1. men are inherently evil oppressors; you're doing yours a great favor by being with him, and it doesn't matter if you hurt or rob him, because he's just a man, and 2. you are female, and therefore weak and helpless; unable to make positive changes in or improve your life in any meaningful way, so if something in it goes wrong, throw it all out and try again.
If you look at other cultures, you'll see they don't have these problems. They have OTHER problems, to be sure; I'm not saying that arch-traditionalism is a good idea, just that a more rational assessment and better preparation for the realities of adult life would serve our society VERY well.
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According to psychology today new data about divorce and non-marital breakups contains an unexpected finding, and I think it underscores the fact that we're in the midst of an ongoing evolution in what people want and seek in their romantic relationships. The study, based on a survey of over 2000 heterosexual couples, found that women initiated nearly 70 percent of all divorces. Yet there was no significant difference between the percentage of breakups initiated by women and men in non-marriage relationships.
These clinical observations are consistent with what the study’s lead author, Michael Rosenfeld, suggests: that women may be more likely to initiate divorces because the married women reported lower levels of relationship quality than married men. In contrast, women and men in non-marital relationships reported equal levels of relationship quality. Rosenfeld said his results support the feminist assertion that some women experience heterosexual marriage as oppressive or uncomfortable.
He adds, “I think that marriage as an institution has been a little bit slow to catch up with expectations for gender equality. Wives still take their husbands’ surnames, and are sometimes pressured to do so. Husbands still expect their wives to do the bulk of the housework and the bulk of the childcare. On the other hand, I think that non-marital relationships lack the historical baggage and expectations of marriage, which makes the non-marital relationships more flexible and therefore more adaptable to modern expectations, including women’s expectations for more gender equality.”Women Initiate Divorce Much More Than Men, Here's Why Psychology Today
I think women are used to having the attention we receive on social media and for a lot of us, it goes to our heads and we think that we'll have better options. However, add age and kids, our options are less and they're usually not what the women wants. Some of us have this false belief that when we're older we're still able to pull high value men, but unfortunately, that's not realistic. Also what's happening is, average women are trying to date out of their leagues. You may get into bed with a high value, but you definitely won't be able to keep him. We have to date in our leagues. That's something that many people get offended by and don't take into consideration. most people assume it equates to money, but it's really everything, status, job, etc..
I would say there are a few reasons for that.
1.) Men stop behaving and acting the way they did when their wives married them and fell in love with them for. When I say this, I mean his personality and behaviors that made him attractive did a 180 and he is now killing her love for him.
2.) Communication is not understood from either party. Women want to be heard and understood, they don't want problems or issues they have solved. They will do what they will do, they just want you to listen to what they are thinking about. Very rarely will they want your true opinion about their issues. Men just want their women to be upfront, submissive and to trust his leadership for the relationship.
3.) Both husband and wife stopped courting and dating each other. Just because you are married doesn't mean you stop doing what got you to that point in life.
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Marriage only benefits men. They literally get everything done for them while the wife is struggling to try to take care of everything. Like it makes sense why a woman wouldn't want to stay if they ain't getting anything out of the marriage.
I think a lot of men don't want to deal with the burden or hassle of filing for divorce even when they know they aren't 100% happy in their relationship anymore. It's time and money they don't feel like putting into filing.
Studies actually prove that married men live longer than single men. But married women live shorter lives than single women.
Likely because women aren't happy in marriage.
When a woman gets married, her career and ambitions take q loss. She begins juggling different roles such as working mom and the chef of the house and the maid of the house and the official parent of the house.
Believe it or not, even though most mothers hold jobs, they still do most of the cooking, cleaning, child rearing duties. When the kid gets sick, its always the woman requesting time off work.
On the other hand, Men get a free maid, free chef, free nanny at home. He gets to enjoy children, spend more time on his career since he has a free maid, free chef, free nanny at home to do all his his personal work
The major declared reasons for divorce tends to be too much conflict and arguing, lack of commitment, and financial problems. So basically many women file for divorce because they like to stir up drama for the excitement, but hate to lose and get bored of the fighting eventually. They are attention whores and can't accept that men have jobs and need a little space from time to time to decompress and distress so they don't stroke out or have a heart attack. A lot of women a spend thrifts that spend the family into the poor house which leads to conflict.
men have always been willing to tolerate more bullshit from women than vice-versa and shoulder so much of life's burdens that even revealing 10% of it makes them look like emotional wrecks.
the constant demonization and scrutiny they receive for not living up to a certain standard or expectation whether expressed overtly or covertly along with receiving no credit or encouragement unless they become winners somehow goes unnoticed and swept under the rug.
women on the other hand are made to feel so uncomfortable that any slight discomfort is too much to handle hence why they file for 80% of all divorces and before anyone points the finger at men being the reasons why. lesbian divorce rates are actually much higher than gay divorce rates.
We are tired of dealing with stupid shit or toxic behavior from guys who promise change but never deliver.
based upon my narrow experience, the women can't handle the pain anymore. the pain could be anything, they just aren't happy and see no way to get better, have to deal with a "human" they thought they valued, but they really can't deal with. Humans can be a real pain in the neck. In each of these cases, there was no cheating. The women were far from perfect. In essence, inability to adapt.
I've seen as many divorces from men as women.
Women initiate 70% - 80% of divorces, and the #1 reason for divorce is lack of commitment. You do the math.
https://www.divorcenet.com/resources/common-reasons-marriages-end.html
https://ifstudies.org/blog/lets-stop-blaming-men-for-divorce-a-response-to-harry-benson
We need to start holding women accountable for destroying marriage before marriage becomes a thing of the past. Society will crumble without marriage, and we are quickly approaching that point. We need to stop protecting women and be honest about the real problem.
Most posters aren't going to get this because they're too young but all women hit that age around 40 (sometimes as early as 30) where they start questioning every life choice they've ever made that has led them to that point. The men have no defense against it. Because as any man knows when a woman "feels" something, there's no reasoning with her. I have seen this happen with many of my married friends (kids are definitely a factor in this) not surprisingly kids are aging out at this point. And then the two become a business that is no longer in the business of raising kids. So a lot of times the wife's decision is to start over an relive the youth she feels was put on hold or taken from her by her kids. And the guy typically wants to continue being a 40 year old adult.
Divorce benefits women. It's just bling bling for them. Men always get the shit end of the stick. I married once and never again. And I advise all young men to avoid it. One day she may get tired of you and decide to cash out. Let it be some other sap. Don't let it be you. Don't get married.
I would agree with the statistic but not with your reason. I think most men want to make things work, its what we do, but we are also unwilling to change. So we stay in, hoping itll get better but usually once the wife makes up her mind, its over.
Women are never happy. They are too hypergamistic, they love drama and are always worried about stuff.
Men are usually easier to please. Peaceful home life, let him watch some sports, let him eat, regular sex, go out every now and then and a guy is usually good.
I think it happens because women aren’t generally super comfortable speaking up about their needs, and they will make little (and sometimes not so little)! concessions for people they love. So the man thinks everything is fine because he’s getting what he wants out of the marriage and is basically happy, while the woman has been stewing in anger and building up pressure for years because she feels like her needs are being ignored.
From what I have seen the judge usually looks at what the monthly household expenses are and that is what the guy has to pay. He gets to live on whatever is leftover. I knew a couple of guys that made good money and one moved back in with his parents and the other rented a room at some place for displaced persons. Why would a guy file with a hand like that.
1) Because he would have to have a lot of money to get a lawyer.
2) Because he's lazy or a procrastinator
3) Ladies first. If she goes first, then he will just react to what she started.Most times women are quick to make decisions hence ending in bad relationships.
When a man is good and shows interest in women, they just go with it without getting to know the man properly, after getting married, the man shows his true character making the woman frustrated ending to divorce.
Like a Bollywood series Lies of the heart , a perfect example of mistakes made by women when choosing life partners
Men and women are wired differently. Most guys are oblivious. As long as they are not constantly fighting with their wives they think everything is okay. Meanwhile the wife might be miserable, and gets frustrated because hubby doesn't see it. Except for maybe with entertainers, most women do not go into marriage thinking, "Just a few years and I can cash in."
According to statistics if I remember correctly what causes most divorces are infidelity and money problems are among the tops.
So if 80% of women are filing for divorce assuming you mean in the U. S. then it's because they are being cheated on or financial stress and disagreements.
Honestly, woman control the key to marriage relationship and divorce. It's they who get to say yes to the guy when he proposes. They set the rules of cheating and relationship, and when something is going wrong it's there choice to get a divorce
Women who don't like the man, their life improves to divorce and people generally do what makes sense.
Men their life generally gets shittier so they don't divorce.
One example is whether the man or woman files, generally the woman gets the house and the man has to move out typically to not as good arrangements.
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