What is your take on why 80 percent of divorces are filed by women?

[Anonymous]

My take is that men are more willing to put the happiness and needs of his kids above his own happiness.

[NamerOfStars]

As a culture, we tell our sons how to treat women and what to expect from them. We do NOT do the same for our daughters. Consequently, many grow up with wildly inaccurate expectations about relationships and marriage, and thanks to television's insistence on drama, and the pervasive influence of "show only the best" social media, many grow up thinking a relationship is only right if it's always easy.

Add in the effects of growing up under entrenched Feminist social doctrine, which tells girls (it tells boys many horrible things, too, but that's not directly relevant to what I'm saying here) that 1. men are inherently evil oppressors; you're doing yours a great favor by being with him, and it doesn't matter if you hurt or rob him, because he's just a man, and 2. you are female, and therefore weak and helpless; unable to make positive changes in or improve your life in any meaningful way, so if something in it goes wrong, throw it all out and try again.

If you look at other cultures, you'll see they don't have these problems. They have OTHER problems, to be sure; I'm not saying that arch-traditionalism is a good idea, just that a more rational assessment and better preparation for the realities of adult life would serve our society VERY well.

[suzzieQ]

According to psychology today new data about divorce and non-marital breakups contains an unexpected finding, and I think it underscores the fact that we're in the midst of an ongoing evolution in what people want and seek in their romantic relationships. The study, based on a survey of over 2000 heterosexual couples, found that women initiated nearly 70 percent of all divorces. Yet there was no significant difference between the percentage of breakups initiated by women and men in non-marriage relationships.

These clinical observations are consistent with what the study’s lead author, Michael Rosenfeld, suggests: that women may be more likely to initiate divorces because the married women reported lower levels of relationship quality than married men. In contrast, women and men in non-marital relationships reported equal levels of relationship quality. Rosenfeld said his results support the feminist assertion that some women experience heterosexual marriage as oppressive or uncomfortable.

He adds, “I think that marriage as an institution has been a little bit slow to catch up with expectations for gender equality. Wives still take their husbands’ surnames, and are sometimes pressured to do so. Husbands still expect their wives to do the bulk of the housework and the bulk of the childcare. On the other hand, I think that non-marital relationships lack the historical baggage and expectations of marriage, which makes the non-marital relationships more flexible and therefore more adaptable to modern expectations, including women’s expectations for more gender equality.”

Women Initiate Divorce Much More Than Men, Here's Why Psychology Today

[Asker]

Still say to just outlaw marriage completely. Stop living together and you can sleep in a different bed every night.

[suzzieQ]

Or just dont get married if you dont want to. Not like anyone is forcing it on you.

[Asker]

If women don't want to be a wife, then don't get married. Stay single and have as many men as she want. Just stay single. You can't expect to get married but act single.

[suzzieQ]

They don’t, but being a wife doesn’t mean being a domestic servant or mothering your husband.

[MDollarBill]

What the study didn't get into is how hypergamous women have become today, or how the courts are so stacked against men that divorce is often the same as winning the "litigation lotto."

[suzzieQ]

@MDollarBill no the study was based on data. If you are concerned, you can take the appropriate precautions or just not marry at all. It’s a simple enough solution. If you think women are hypergamous now…. Try reading a history book lmao

[Asker]

I'm with you on this, never marry a woman. Just use women for what they are made for, entertaining men. Never keep a woman that he will have to feed. Pump and dump her is the only way to go.

[Labokachulaa]

I think women are used to having the attention we receive on social media and for a lot of us, it goes to our heads and we think that we'll have better options. However, add age and kids, our options are less and they're usually not what the women wants. Some of us have this false belief that when we're older we're still able to pull high value men, but unfortunately, that's not realistic. Also what's happening is, average women are trying to date out of their leagues. You may get into bed with a high value, but you definitely won't be able to keep him. We have to date in our leagues. That's something that many people get offended by and don't take into consideration. most people assume it equates to money, but it's really everything, status, job, etc..

[Asker]

You are the first woman to tell the truth. Thank you for being honest.

[Labokachulaa]

Thank you.

[Asker]

Men don't file for divorce because men put the happiness of his kids first instead of his own. I would like to know of those divorces that men did file, how many was because his wife was cheating.

[Haha456]

i don't think the lack of better options as a woman ages has anything to do with the topic being discussed. I think that GAG just has a widespread rampant culture of misogyny where a woman has absolutely no value when her looks are gone.

[Haha456]

@Asker

why would you file for divorce if you have a free maid, free chef, free nanny at home doing all your shit work?

[Asker]

@Haha456 if married life is so bad for women, why do so many women want to. Get married, over and over?

[Haha456]

@Asker

there have been studies that proven that single women are happier than single men

[Asker]

@Haha456 I am doing everything I can to make as many women happen by getting as many men as I can to stop marring them.

[Asker]

No man want to be a woman last choice to marry, we are not a woman clean up husband. You can rot in you home with your cats eating your eyes out alone for all we care.

[ShadezMcgee]

I would say there are a few reasons for that.

1.) Men stop behaving and acting the way they did when their wives married them and fell in love with them for. When I say this, I mean his personality and behaviors that made him attractive did a 180 and he is now killing her love for him.

2.) Communication is not understood from either party. Women want to be heard and understood, they don't want problems or issues they have solved. They will do what they will do, they just want you to listen to what they are thinking about. Very rarely will they want your true opinion about their issues. Men just want their women to be upfront, submissive and to trust his leadership for the relationship.

3.) Both husband and wife stopped courting and dating each other. Just because you are married doesn't mean you stop doing what got you to that point in life.

[Apple1996]

Marriage only benefits men. They literally get everything done for them while the wife is struggling to try to take care of everything. Like it makes sense why a woman wouldn't want to stay if they ain't getting anything out of the marriage.

[bingbongbangbung]

Not when women can take half of the money and assets, plus have a higher chance of child custody

[Apple1996]

@bingbongbangbung that's benefiting from the divorce not from the marriage

[Apple1996]

@bingbongbangbung hence why women are filing it so they can get some compensation back from the years they sacrificed

[Asker]

Women don't want to be a man mother but wants a man to be like her father and pay for everything she want.

[Apple1996]

Not the same things there. Men are suppose to provide for their families. Women aren't suppose to be doing 100% of everything else

[dolemite89]

So if your husband works all the time to pay for you and your children while you don’t have to have a job how is that “ain’t getting anything out of the marriage”? 🤔

[Asker]

Then why are you women the ones pussing for marriage? I don't know a single man that WANT to get married. It's only the women trying to tie a man down.

[Chthou95]

Marriage only benefits men? LMAO

[Apple1996]

@dolemite89 cuz I'm literally working harder then he is to care for our kids. He'd be working the same job regardless if me and the kids were here or not and also getting paid less cuz of not having a family.

[Apple1996]

@Asker I only got married cuz my husband wanted it but okay 😂

[Apple1996]

@Chthou95 it does. Look up all the benefits men get from being married. You'll probably be shocked

[dolemite89]

if your husband doesn’t have the job that u want him to have then that’s between you and him, most guys bust their ass to provide for their family

[Aiko_E_Lara]

If it only benefit men the why are there more men who don't wanna get married? I see you just said "that's benefiting from the divorce not from the marriage" without realizing that divorce is related to marriage. A woman can manipulate a man in marriage by threatening a divorce. How is that a benefit?

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Struggling to take care of what?

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Stop trolling

[Apple1996]

@dolemite89 not what I'm saying. I'm saying that most men will be working the same job regardless if they have a family or not.
To say they are busting their ass compared to stay at home moms is ridiculous since being a stay at home mom is the equivalent of having 3 full time jobs a day with 0 breaks and no pay

[Apple1996]

@Aiko_E_Lara most men don't even know the benefits or tend to pick the wrong women so they aren't getting them.
And yeah women can threaten cuz like I said they ain't getting anything out of the marriage so why would they stay?

[Aiko_E_Lara]

What i also forgot to mention is women demands marriage more so why is that? And what exactly are the benefits? because i can give you the disadvantages of it which outweighs its benefits.

[Apple1996]

@Aiko_E_Lara they demand more cuz they currently aren't getting anything 😂

And it's mostly happier, better health and more wealth. If you want more specifics you can look it up

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Then that's a stupid and an unrealistic reason as to why someone has to be demanding over something. Unless it really has something to do with giving them more benefits than men. That's the more realistic reason.

You're just giving claims without any reasoning to your claims. I can only give you 3 disadvantages which makes a way bigger impact than you think www.youtube.com/watch

[Apple1996]

@Aiko_E_Lara it's stupid to demand something when you are getting nothing?
Most people aren't gonna do stuff unless they get some benefit from it

[Aiko_E_Lara]

You've proven my point. If most people aren't gonna do stuff unless they're gonna get benefits from it then women don't demand for marriage unless they get some benefit from it. So you've contradicted your original statement.

[Haha456]

@Asker

why shouldn't she get half your assets if she is your free maid, free chef, free official parent of the house? she's doing all your shit work so you don't have to do it. you can dedicate more sweet time to your career.

women lose in marriage, men win in marriage.

this is why women initiate so many divorces.

not to mention once a woman has kids, her career faces a huge blow of a setback

[Haha456]

@Apple1996

you have it easy compared to the rest of the working moms who need to work 8-9 hour shifts then run home to continue cooking, cleaning, tutoring at home.

[Apple1996]

@Haha456 working moms pay someone to watch their kids 8-10 hrs a day. They are actually the ones that have it easy. I've heard from a lot of working moms that they'd go crazy staying in the house all day with their kids. Also no cooking/cleaning when nobody is at home most of the day

[Haha456]

@Apple1996

do you think working moms play around 8-10 hours a day?

they actually have to work jobs and they need to prove to their bosses why they are worthy of their jobs. they can't just take an hour nap like you once you get tired of breastfeeding.

[Apple1996]

@Aiko_E_Lara your obviously not understanding that most women don't know that they are getting themselves into the position where they have to basically be slaves. They are expecting 50/50 then not getting it cuz men do not follow through on their word

[Apple1996]

@Haha456 anyone in general that works is getting breaks. Stay at home moms are not.
And I have no idea why you would think moms have time for a naps? My husband naps/sleeps way more then I do. Literally haven't napped in years or slept through the night in years either

[Haha456]

@Apple1996

sweetie, breaks are non existent in the real world except for lunch. go to any corporate office building, you will not see anyone lounging in the break room except if it is lunch time. why? because the boss will suspect that you're playing around instead of working. when you have bills to pay , you can't be fucking around with your job.

Legally people are allowed 15 minute breaks every 4 hours, which is practically nothing.

as a stay home mom, you can take breaks whenever you want. you can take a nap while your baby is sleeping. you can sit in your car to eat some delicious cupcakes during grocery shopping, walk around enjoying the sun.

working moms wouldn't even know what a cupcake tastes like or ever get the chance to see the sun.

[Haha456]

@Apple1996

often times, taking breaks at work means not being able to get work done on time by the end of the day. There are deadlines at work. Its not a "work whenever you feel like" environment. If your boss wants something done by 6pm, you don't have the time to take a 2 breaks. You're gonna bust your ass to get it done regardless of how exhausted you are.

you better do a good job too cuz your boss can fire you if he thinks you're not good enough.

[Haha456]

@Apple1996

As a nurse, I stand 7 hours a day excluding lunch. The management even tells us to never let the cameras see us sitting down because it will make big bosses thing that we are not working. Work is not easy. You clearly have never held a job if you think work is a playground

[Apple1996]

@Haha456 my husband literally just took a 2 hrs lunch break and was telling me how he's gonna be late back to work cuz he wanted to stop at the store for snacks to eat at work. So some people definitely getting breaks and able to eat snacks whenever they want.

It's impossible to do anything when my son naps since it's only 45 mintues and I have 2 other kids that do not nap and another baby on the way to prep for so there is no time for naps or eating during the babies nap.
My kids would scream at me in the car if I tried to eat sweets in front of them, also have a panic attack sitting in the parking lot cuz they don't wanna just sit there for no reason.

[Asker]

Women keep saying that but will turn around and get remarried and do the same old thing. Second marriage have a 75 percent divorce rate.. why do it? Remember, it's the women wanting to get married, not the men. This is on you ladies.

[Asker]

All you have to do is tell your husband to quit work, stay at home with the kids and you get a job to support the family. It's an easy fix if your not happy with your set up.

[Haha456]

@Apple1996

quit lying. nobody gets to take 2 hour breaks at work.

babies sleep a lot all the time. many babies sleep all day long. you can nap so much with all that time.

when i first graduated from college, i held my first job - a 8 hour shift with mandatory overtime. I ate breakfast, lunch and dinner at my desk. I began my shift by 8am. By the time I hit 1pm lunch time, I was so exhausted that i could not work anymore. But i had to force myself to work all the way until 6pm at night. I only wished i could walk outside, grab a donut , take a nap then go back to work.

No employer is going to pay you to play.

you should be lucky you get so many breaks.

[Apple1996]

I have no idea why other women do it tbh. I did it since my husband is military. If that wasn't the case I wouldn't be married. Maybe a spiritual marriage but not legal

[Haha456]

@Apple1996

even right now i am breaking my back. I stand 7 hours a day. Been doing so for the past year. I get foot pain , constantly looking for the newest sneakers that can relieve the pain, my knees aren't as good as they were 5 years ago. In a few years, I'd be having kids too. Then I will just be rushing home to cook, clean and care for my kids just like you. There are many moms who stay up all night with their newborn babies and still have to rush to work the next morning. Nobody cares if she never slept. She can't fall asleep at her job either

you have it easy. you just think you have it the worst because you've never seen worse

[Apple1996]

@Haha456 eh people in the military take about 2 hr lunch breaks everyday. Traffic is so crazy during those hours of lunch I can't make appointments for my kids or anything due to the traffic.

Babies do not sleep all day... you are so very wrong about that. And there are seriously no breaks as a mom.
Only way I can see a mom getting breaks is if she has all her kids in school/daycare or has family nearby that she can dump them on. Other that that there are no breaks

[Haha456]

@Apple1996

people in the military don't do anything. they just pretend to work while they get paid. military isn't even a real job. come to the real world where you actually have to prove to your boss why you deserve to get paid

i didn't sleep over the past week due to the fact that my grandma has cancer and needs constant care at night times. By 5:30 in the morning i have to wake up go to work, do a perfect job, not make a single mistake despite the fact i had only slept 3 hours over the past 2 days.

do you think anyone cares? no.

[Apple1996]

@Haha456 military has many jobs so that's hard to say which job is and isn't working harder.

And that's like every night for me for the past 8 years. Having no sleep is normal for parents. Obviously no one at your job cares just like no one cares about stay at moms that still have to work full days and function normally.
I usually go from 6am to 11pm with my kids everyday then wake up about 3 times a night and have to take that time for personal things like showering/eating so there is no time to sleep

[Haha456]

@Apple1996

just give it another 10 years, you will find that you have little to nothing to do at home. Kids are only hard when they are young. when they are older, you will find yourself doing little to nothing.

[Apple1996]

@Haha456 oof nah I've already been learning that things get harder as they get older. Things are easy when they are babies. I'm trying to enjoy this time while it's still easy. It's the reason why I love having newborns. That's about the only time I can actually catch a little break

[Apple1996]

@asker I'm actually very happy being a stay at home mom but it is more difficult then having a job. My husband cannot raise the kids the way we want them to be raised since he can't breastfeed and doesn't have the patience for homeschooling

[Haha456]

@Apple1996

Things actually get easier because your kids need less of your help. They no longer wake up crying in the middle of the night. I remember being 17 where my parents did nothing more than cool breakfast lunch and dinner and laundry for us

[Aiko_E_Lara]

"obviously"? And do you even think you actually understand the situation? Look, you yourself even chose to get married for whatever loopholes you got yet you're still claiming that marriage only benefit men. No one gets married for no reason.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Housewives live some the easiest lives in the world

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Those shows are called the real HOUSEWIVES! And not the real Working Bitches for a reason

[Apple1996]

@Aiko_E_Lara I got married for the benefit of my husband and kids. Not for myself

[Apple1996]

@PainusNdeeAnus real housewives show doesn't show stay at home moms that get 0 help. If there was a show like that I'd be impossible to flim since there is so much that moms do

[Apple1996]

@Haha456 some parents don't raise their kids to begin with so obviously they think it's easy to ditch their teens that need the most help to adjust into adulthood. Reason why so many adults have shit jobs, can't regulate their emotions and don't know how to manage finances is cuz their parents stopped parenting when they hit teen years or never parents them at all.

[Haha456]

@Apple1996

Many of us do not have the luxury of getting 2 hours of sleep during the day while the kids watch frozen on tv.

Understand what you have is a luxury.

And as for the lack of sleep, there are plenty of students who work jobs that barely get any sleep either. You think you have it hard cuz youve never seen harder

[Haha456]

@Apple1996

Werent you the same person who said you looked forward to kicking her kids out of the house at 18?

I've spoken to you lots on here.

Trust me, your first priority is yourself, not your children

[dolemite89]

false, men choose way more enjoyable or lucrative jobs when they don’t have a wife and kids to take care of. and i’m sorry but being a stay at home mom is not as hard as being a construction worker or running a business. and i don’t understand how being a mom and trying to imagine an equivalent pay for your efforts equate? your not bringing others value, your taking responsibility for the problems YOU created for yourself. that’s like me not working cuz i have to take care of a bunch of dogs i adopted and saying do u know how much i would get paid to take care of these things 😂 nobody forced you to have a bunch of kids as young as you are, all i hear is whining and patting yourself on the back for how difficult you’ve made your own life 🤦‍♂️.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Let’s stop pretending being a stay at home mom is a hard job it’s not especially with tablets and cocomelon

[Asker]

Kinda one sided ain't it? Men have to do his part and half of hers but the wife works too hard to mow the grass or wash the car, clean the gutter and the list goes on.

[Apple1996]

@dolemite89 don't know about other men but my husband is working the same job he'd be working even if he didn't have kids.
And I'm bringing my husband and kids value. If I died tomorrow my kids would be sent off to my parents cuz my husband wouldn't be able to afford daycare for them.

And it's ridiculous that I'm not allowed to say what I do is difficult. I guarantee 99% of people complain about their job. I'm allowed to complain/say its hard if I want to

[Apple1996]

@Asker all the "male" jobs fall on me since my husband is gone often. I'm guessing it's the same for many other women

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@Apple1996 lol nice excuse. Or you may just be a simp who thought it's only going to benefit your husband. Anyways, what still stands is that girls still demands for it. For what? To make us happy and they get mad if we don't want to commit to marriage even if we know marriage don't make us happy? You know it sounds fishy if women say it is a must to get married.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

The video explaining it to you also still stands by the way

[PainusNdeeAnus]

The Bible says sin ruined man and womans relationship and look here we are now years later still in conflict

[mobiusforniner]

Wow. Sucks for you i guess. My wife stays at home by choice. Hangs out with friends, play dates with other moms and kids, watches disney plus and tik tok videos most of her day. I do the cooking, dishes, grocery shopping, vacuuming, yard work, help with kids homework, fix the house and cars, manage finances... all while working full time and sometimes additional hours to make ends meet.

And yet, my mother in law claims im a never at home, im always "too quiet" and "too tired" and I dont prioritize her daughter and im abusive and controlling.

And then you wonder why men cheat...

[Apple1996]

@mobiusforniner cheating cuz you do chores at home? Seems like not a valid reason to do that...

And yeah obviously not the case with everyone like you said you pull your weight but for my husband that is basically impossible. I'm really a solo mom here with my kids

[mobiusforniner]

Sorry, but yeah I totally hear you. kids are an even greater stress on a marriage. We have two and every day is an adventure. And to your point, many guys aren't without reproach. Modern men are lazy and dont do shit. Hell, many guys can't even replace a bulb much less a kitchen faucet or fix a lawn mower.

And no, cheating not becuase of doing chores, but becuase of feeling emotionally neglected and taken advantage of. Complacency kills relationships.

[Asker]

So we can depend on you to try and stop as many people as you can from ever getting married?

[Apple1996]

@mobiusforniner true a lot of modern men won't bother to fix their cars or anything like that. Don't have the skills to do so

And oh I really can't relate on that since the sexual side of my relationship keeps getting better overtime. I've heard for some people it goes down the drain after kids tho

[Asker]

Men don't know how to fix anything because they were raised by a single mother. Bet he can bake cookies and make brownies.

[Apple1996]

@Asker it can be the single mother thing but also can ba a privilege thing. Like some people just hire someone to fix it instead of doing it themselves so they never learn

[mobiusforniner]

No, men can't fix anything because they like the easy way out. Video games and online dating, for instance. Gimme the reward now, without working for it. God, I dont even have to try to attract women when this is the majority option.

[Asker]

Men need women about as much as women need men, so why don't we just avoid eachother as much as possible. This goes back to what I said. Love is dead, it's now just a transaction between to people, you want something from me, it will cost you money or sex.

[BlueScorpio]

I think a lot of men don't want to deal with the burden or hassle of filing for divorce even when they know they aren't 100% happy in their relationship anymore. It's time and money they don't feel like putting into filing.

[BlueScorpio]

I thinknthe reason women file more is cause they reach a breaking point. If they know they aren't happy or feel like the husband is no longer happy or putting effort into the family hone etc. She will file for divorce instead of trying to stay and fake it, a lot women would rather be divorced instead staying in a relationship that's not working out or hit a dead end. Also there are multiple reason why women file, most common ones are adultery, abuse, and financial situations.

[Haha456]

Studies actually prove that married men live longer than single men. But married women live shorter lives than single women.

Likely because women aren't happy in marriage.

When a woman gets married, her career and ambitions take q loss. She begins juggling different roles such as working mom and the chef of the house and the maid of the house and the official parent of the house.

Believe it or not, even though most mothers hold jobs, they still do most of the cooking, cleaning, child rearing duties. When the kid gets sick, its always the woman requesting time off work.

On the other hand, Men get a free maid, free chef, free nanny at home. He gets to enjoy children, spend more time on his career since he has a free maid, free chef, free nanny at home to do all his his personal work

[inhua]

um nothing is free in marriage. not even for men. men still needs to be the main source of income, the unofficial bodyguard of his wife and kids to protect against home intruders who also kills the spiders, the grunt who moves all the heavy furniture and does the dangerous work like cleaning the gutter.
mortality rates have a multitude of factors to simply pin in on marriage and relationships.

[Asker]

All the more reason for marriage to die and stop getting into relationships.

[Haha456]

@inhua

Women have way more to lose in marriage than men. Wayyyy more.

Vast majority of families can't even survive on 1 income nowadays. Moms need to work at their jobs then run home to work in the house

[inhua]

losing out on what? money? a free bodyguard? more free time? both marriage and divorce favors women more than men. marriage was designed specifically to protect women and have a man bare the responsibilities of her safety plus that of their kids.

majority of families can't survive is because of the increased workforce. more workers mean lower wages and more taxes to be collected. socialist elites used feminist propaganda to brainwash women into abandoning their parental duties and joining the workforce and that's even mentioning illegal immigrants. men don't go to work because they want to. they go to work because they have to. jobless stay-at-home men who play video games all day get shamed by society. only feminists are out here shaming stay-at-home wives.

[Haha456]

@inhua

More people working also means more people spending which increases economic wealth. More peoplr working also means more competition and talent and productivity which means companies can make better profits. Companies already the least workers as possible. No company is gonna open up a job just to give someone a job.

Cost of living is increasing due to inflation, not due to increasing number of people on the workforce

Women deserve alimony and the mans assets if marriage halter her career growth and now she has 3 kids to raise all on her own. Men never had a career setback after having children. Men never has to give up anything to enjoy children. Men dont even. need to be single fathers. He has someone raising his kids for free, why shouldn't she deserve his assets?

[inhua]

in what way do women lose more in marriage when she's getting alimony as a prize for divorcing her husband? why should she get alimony when she gets to go to work too? what's with this obsession with career growth? unless you're Elon Musk trying to get humans on Mars, something that's never been done before, career growth for anyone man or woman is meaningless.

[Haha456]

@inhua

why shouldn't she get alimony if she had a career setback after having kids? why shouldn't she get alimony if she's the one raising the kids all by herself?

[Asker]

But married men don't want to live longer, married men can't wait for it to be over. That's why men commit suicide more than women.

[Haha456]

@Asker

data actually shows married men live longer. i can show you the link

[inhua]

she's not the one raising kids by herself. you gotta stop discrediting the work that fathers put in.
why does he have to pay her money because she got bored in the relationship and keeps comparing hers to that on TV? career setback is no reason to get alimony just because she feels like breaking up with guy over her inability to control her emotions.

[BeMuse]

The major declared reasons for divorce tends to be too much conflict and arguing, lack of commitment, and financial problems. So basically many women file for divorce because they like to stir up drama for the excitement, but hate to lose and get bored of the fighting eventually. They are attention whores and can't accept that men have jobs and need a little space from time to time to decompress and distress so they don't stroke out or have a heart attack. A lot of women a spend thrifts that spend the family into the poor house which leads to conflict.

[BeMuse]

*are

[BeMuse]

So what should you take away from that, many women that file for divorce are selfish in general, irresponsible, and self destructive.

[BeMuse]

So don't marry those types of girls even if they are roughly half the population...

[Asker]

80 percent of women are those types of women.

[BeMuse]

From my personal experience I'd agree, but from the statistical divorce rates, the ones that do it to a point that it leads to divorce is about half the pop. So obviously some are worse offenders than others.

[Asker]

Research as shown that 90 percent of college women will file for a divorce, avoid these women at all cost. These are for entertainment purposes only.

[BeMuse]

"Research" huh... No sauce though... Young marriages do have higher rates of divorce, but it's not in the 90% range.

[inhua]

men have always been willing to tolerate more bullshit from women than vice-versa and shoulder so much of life's burdens that even revealing 10% of it makes them look like emotional wrecks.

the constant demonization and scrutiny they receive for not living up to a certain standard or expectation whether expressed overtly or covertly along with receiving no credit or encouragement unless they become winners somehow goes unnoticed and swept under the rug.

women on the other hand are made to feel so uncomfortable that any slight discomfort is too much to handle hence why they file for 80% of all divorces and before anyone points the finger at men being the reasons why. lesbian divorce rates are actually much higher than gay divorce rates.

[Agape93]

We are tired of dealing with stupid shit or toxic behavior from guys who promise change but never deliver.

[Asker]

You say that but you never change your game. You keep doing the same thing getting the same result. It fun to watch and hear women cry about it on tictok. LMAO.

[Agape93]

What drugs are you on right now?

[Asker]

Women are not rocket scientist. Bad people attract bad people. You don't like men, date a woman. We don't care.

[Agape93]

Who said I don't like men?

[Asker]

Thank you for asking but I'm glad to say that I take no medication for anything.

[Agape93]

You should probably start then

[lightbulb27]

based upon my narrow experience, the women can't handle the pain anymore. the pain could be anything, they just aren't happy and see no way to get better, have to deal with a "human" they thought they valued, but they really can't deal with. Humans can be a real pain in the neck. In each of these cases, there was no cheating. The women were far from perfect. In essence, inability to adapt.

I've seen as many divorces from men as women.

[Anonymous]

Women initiate 70% - 80% of divorces, and the #1 reason for divorce is lack of commitment. You do the math.

https://www.divorcenet.com/resources/common-reasons-marriages-end.html

https://ifstudies.org/blog/lets-stop-blaming-men-for-divorce-a-response-to-harry-benson

We need to start holding women accountable for destroying marriage before marriage becomes a thing of the past. Society will crumble without marriage, and we are quickly approaching that point. We need to stop protecting women and be honest about the real problem.

[Anonymous]

Most posters aren't going to get this because they're too young but all women hit that age around 40 (sometimes as early as 30) where they start questioning every life choice they've ever made that has led them to that point. The men have no defense against it. Because as any man knows when a woman "feels" something, there's no reasoning with her. I have seen this happen with many of my married friends (kids are definitely a factor in this) not surprisingly kids are aging out at this point. And then the two become a business that is no longer in the business of raising kids. So a lot of times the wife's decision is to start over an relive the youth she feels was put on hold or taken from her by her kids. And the guy typically wants to continue being a 40 year old adult.

[Jccowen77]

Divorce benefits women. It's just bling bling for them. Men always get the shit end of the stick. I married once and never again. And I advise all young men to avoid it. One day she may get tired of you and decide to cash out. Let it be some other sap. Don't let it be you. Don't get married.

[mobiusforniner]

I would agree with the statistic but not with your reason. I think most men want to make things work, its what we do, but we are also unwilling to change. So we stay in, hoping itll get better but usually once the wife makes up her mind, its over.

[Miristheiss]

Women are never happy. They are too hypergamistic, they love drama and are always worried about stuff.

Men are usually easier to please. Peaceful home life, let him watch some sports, let him eat, regular sex, go out every now and then and a guy is usually good.

[FilmGuy93]

I think it happens because women aren’t generally super comfortable speaking up about their needs, and they will make little (and sometimes not so little)! concessions for people they love. So the man thinks everything is fine because he’s getting what he wants out of the marriage and is basically happy, while the woman has been stewing in anger and building up pressure for years because she feels like her needs are being ignored.

[exitseven]

From what I have seen the judge usually looks at what the monthly household expenses are and that is what the guy has to pay. He gets to live on whatever is leftover. I knew a couple of guys that made good money and one moved back in with his parents and the other rented a room at some place for displaced persons. Why would a guy file with a hand like that.

[sage2021]

1) Because he would have to have a lot of money to get a lawyer.

2) Because he's lazy or a procrastinator

3) Ladies first. If she goes first, then he will just react to what she started.

[Asker]

I don't care were a woman is in her relationship, she is shopping for something better all the time. This fact is why I say that women are not capable of loving anyone but themselves not even her own kids.

[kevypatyy7]

Most times women are quick to make decisions hence ending in bad relationships.

When a man is good and shows interest in women, they just go with it without getting to know the man properly, after getting married, the man shows his true character making the woman frustrated ending to divorce.

Like a Bollywood series Lies of the heart , a perfect example of mistakes made by women when choosing life partners

[LiamJHayden]

Men and women are wired differently. Most guys are oblivious. As long as they are not constantly fighting with their wives they think everything is okay. Meanwhile the wife might be miserable, and gets frustrated because hubby doesn't see it. Except for maybe with entertainers, most women do not go into marriage thinking, "Just a few years and I can cash in."

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

According to statistics if I remember correctly what causes most divorces are infidelity and money problems are among the tops.

So if 80% of women are filing for divorce assuming you mean in the U. S. then it's because they are being cheated on or financial stress and disagreements.

[Asker]

No one is talking about the fact that women have move in to the work force and taken the job away from men that paid enough to support his family. The law says a company has to have more women on the payroll than men. So women get the jobs and then bitch about men not having good jobs.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

That's not the reason. Women have always worked throughout history.

Hardly no one intends to get married then divorce sometime later.

Relationship and marriges fall apart because adultery happens, abuse happens, and couples fight over money and stuff like that not because job aren't available. Ridiculous.

[Asker]

Look up STARTER MARRIAGE.

[AmeerX]

Honestly, woman control the key to marriage relationship and divorce. It's they who get to say yes to the guy when he proposes. They set the rules of cheating and relationship, and when something is going wrong it's there choice to get a divorce

[bamesjond0069]

Women who don't like the man, their life improves to divorce and people generally do what makes sense.

Men their life generally gets shittier so they don't divorce.

One example is whether the man or woman files, generally the woman gets the house and the man has to move out typically to not as good arrangements.

[Lowiu]

No for example a majority of domestic abuse victims are women

[Asker]

Research has shown that women do more abuse than men do. Women just get away with it. Abuse and toxic is the fall back reason for all of women failed relationships. But they will date the next guy that was said to be toxic or abused by his last girlfriend.

[MrOracle]

The vast majority (over 70%) of physically abusive relationships are mutually violent - meaning both people initiate violence against each other. In relationships where violence is one-sided, almost 2/3 have the male being the victim. These are US government statistics. Even then, domestic abuse represents a small percentage of divorce actions - the #1 reason women give for divorce is that "I'm not happy", with financial pressures being second place.

[Asker]

Not true, there more women abusing men than men abusing women. Men can't report it because the man is the one arrested. Google domestic abuse by gender.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

The majority of domestic abuse relationships are between lesbians 🤣

[Asker]

I read an article that said that 70 percent of lesbian couple had domestic abuse in them.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

It's very simple really:

If a woman files for divorce, she gets half the man's money.

If a man files for divorce, the woman gets half his money.

The incentive system for divorce is totally one-sided.

[Literalbillionaire17]

I feel like women tend to settle. Also I feel like a man will sit in a unhappy relationship just bc he doesn’t want to be the one “ruin a good thing going”. I noticed a lot of men aren’t as assertive in that area.

[Anonymous]

It's a legal strategy. Cases settle easier if the woman files so the lawyers for both sides advise to do it. It's not just a large number of women wanting divorces.

[Asker]

Women and family courts are killing families and marriage. Thank you.

[MountAverage]

Probably because 80% of men turn out to be shitty husbands.

[Asker]

Simp to the rescue.

[MountAverage]

You need a simp to rescue you? Okay. Sorry, can't help with that.

[jshm2]

You're wrong, then. As 80% of the time it's the woman who gets the kids and it's the man at fault.

[Berethor]

That's how women take man's money, that's why many men don't marry nowadays.

[Akam93]

Because their husbands can't keep their dick in their pants.

[Asker]

And women play no part in this. Not surprised at your answer, feminism as indoctrinate you well.

[Asker]

For every man with his dick out there is a woman with her legs in the air.

[thsnakegod]

so you don't want to have sex with your husband?

[HighValue]

From what I have seen in real life, women cheat MUCH more often than men do, especially when married.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Why aren’t they satisfying their husbands

[Asker]

He would if you did your job.

[Asker]

With you comment, I can take it that you not ever going to get married.

[Chthou95]

Because they get bored and want something better. Remember men she's not yours, its just your turn.

[Anonymous]

Are you the same incel that said DNA tests should be mandatory?

[bingbongbangbung]

Are you the same troll account that doesn't know what an incel is?

[Opinion Owner]

The shoe must fit if this triggers you

[Asker]

How come all these single mother can't raise son that you women like? Men are so bad but half of then was raised by a single mother. These mothers make their sons sit to pee like girls. Would think you girls would love to marry these mommy boys, you could fix eachother hair and paint eachother nails. How cute. 🤔

[Opinion Owner]

The hell are you even talking about? Fuck, you sound like such a loser.

[Asker]

That set you off, LMAO.

[Opinion Owner]

No, I actually pity you, because you're just miserable and senile

[Asker]

No, my mind is working just fine, thank you for being concerned.

[Asker]

No, but I agree, don't you?

[Opinion Owner]

You're bad at lying

[LeeannaDD]

Women have options 🤷‍♀️ no need or pressure to stay in a broken relationship.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Not after 30 and especially not after 40

[Anonymous]

The system is favored to women. They will not financially struggle, get more custody, and let's face it... Some beta simp always willing to step in and fix her after the other guy broke her heart and she broke his wallet

[Anonymous]

Because divorce is lucrative for women. Once they're entitled to the man's money and property, it's better to take it and find another man willing to pay the bills.

[dolemite89]

women have nothing to lose from getting divorced and everything to gain so of course they’re more likely to be the ones to leave.

[linka_pat307]

Women get boring easily especially when the man is not putting effort or cheats

[Pete671]

Because courts are massively biased in favour of women,

[Anonymous]

Because most women see marriage as something to wipe their asses with so they can take everything the man has..

[Asker]

Women love the wedding, not the marriage. My wedding cost 25 dollars. Made sure it was me she wanted and not just the wedding.

[LimitedBenefits101]

Because they know they getting the house, the car and the kids

That's why men should never get married.

[Anonymous]

Because the court systems favours women.

They get everything, the guy gets put essentially into slavery paying alimony and losing more than half his stuff.

Small wonder why guys want pre-nups and why women are so against them.

[Anonymous]

I wonder if women can tolerate a poor relationship or atmosphere less well than a man so they are the first to make a move.

[Jgfhk]

Because women win. Men lose in divorce, they lose their kids and wealth. Women only think about themselves

[theplanet]

kids initiate the divorce, because most kids hate their dads.

[Anonymous]

follow the money. Who benefits from a divorce?

[Midgetmcwidget]

No I like a guy so I wouldn't date anyone else

[Anonymous]

Men might be more of the problem than they think.

[Anonymous]

80% of men make lousy husbands.

[In_Trance]

Because they gain more from the settlement

[OddBeMe]

They have more power now.

[ZenJen444]

Because men are usually the ones who mess up

[Twalli]

Men are taught to tough it out.

[Songomatic]

God despises that choice if made unanimous ly

[jimmy2]

80 %l single mothers I would believe