While certain men will deliberately lovebomb and string along women just to keep her for sex, that doesn't always seems to be the case.
Two of my friends were supposedly staying with a boyfriend that wouldn't commit. However, in both cases they admitted the guy told her from the beginning ''I don't ever want kids, I just want a girlfriend''. The 2nd guy broke up himself, was trying to set her free, told her himself he didn't want to waste her years and she kept begging him back. He still broke it off. Both girls has the mentality that if he really loves her badly, he'll change for her, that he'll change for the right girl.
How stupid can a girl be? The man is honest from the beginning, telling you he doesn't want kids, that he only wants a girlfriend and you're still trying to change him? I actually feel no pity for those girls. In those cases, the girl got stuck herself. Is that the case sometimes too?
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I agree, I've even seen some women on Gag who are with men who have said to her "I don't know what we are, and I don't know what I want" and she will still try to stay with him hoping he will change into her dream husband.
Women need to learn that when you ask a guy where he sees the relationship going he usually means what he says. Doesn't want kids, doesn't want marriage etc. aren't really things he's gonna change, and if he won't even commit to more than being a fuck buddy, you're really wasting your time.
Then some of those women punish the next guy by saying " Well I'm not giving you sex until you marry me" LoL.
It's like, just find a guy who has the same goals as you from the start rather than trying to manipulate people.
Yeah it is the case. And I agree with you. If they said they didn't want kids or didn't want something from the get-go, then accept it. Don't try and "change him" as a lot of women like to say. He won't. So move on.
One of my friends is sad about the break-up. She doesn't realize the guy did her a favor by setting her free. Sounds like he applied logic (she wanted kids in the future so he broke up) vs her lack of logic of trying to change someone.
Exactly. You shouldn't have to change someone in order to date them or like them. If you liked them as the person they were when you found them... then why the hell would you try to turn them into someone else? It's stupid thinking.
It's a girl thing to assume she can change him (she can't).
It's a boy thing to assume she'll not change (she will).