No, I didn’t create the status but it was written by a woman maybe in her early to mid 20’s.
Do you agree with her? Are women blamed too much for the faults of men?
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I think too many of you think the status is saying women aren't at fault for anything, which it isn't. She's saying that men do not like taking on responsibility but for some reason women are expected to carry all the baggage and responsibility. She's not saying that women are innocent in everything, but that the actions of men cannot be put on a woman.
Are women blamed too much for the things men do wrong?
I think people in general aren’t accountable for their own situation. Men are very often blamed for women’s choices, if she’s unfaithful well why didn’t her partner give her the emotional fulfilment she obviously felt the need to get elsewhere? Calling men dead beat dads while doing everything possible to keep sole custody in situations where they want to be fathers. Many of us blame bad behaviour on pms and mood swings, we go on dates with men we aren’t interested in for free food or tickets to events.
Our gender is just as culpable - it’s a personality trait not a gender one. People need to be accountable. Both men AND women for the choices they make and the consequences of those
I disagree. I think this particular person is clinging on to these comments. I hear the exact same thing but gender swapped from dudes and I’m sure she has too but for whatever reason is choosing only to acknowledge the side that paints her as the one with the struggle. Women are getting blamed for things men do wrong all the time and men are getting blamed for things women do wrong pretty much equally. It’s all a matter of perspective. On one hand neither is entirely responsible but on the other neither is entirely innocent either. We are all responsible for our own actions but should never choose to be blind to the fact that our behavior effects other’s in profound ways.
I totally blame women for picking a man that is a deadbeat. Most of the time women are slaves to their throbbing pussy, & get involved with a man who doesn't have good fatherly traits. So that is her fault! #ThePowerOfChoice
I think blame is often misplaced. As a woman, of course I have encountered more men who feel like women are responsible for shit they didn't do. Like it's the fault of women that "nice guys" like Elliot Rodger go batshit insane and that he would have never done what he did if he had gotten pussy. It's women's fault for getting raped/harassed/groped because they dressed or acted a certain way, even though they said no. It's a woman's fault that a young man's promising career in a sport is ruined because he decided to sexually assault her. It's a woman's fault that she got pregnant without wanting to, even though it takes two people to have sex. And so on. Of course I see these types of cases all the time because I'm a woman and I'm personally affected by what's happening to other women - because it can and has happened to me too. But I'm sure men also get a lot of shit thrown their way even when they don't deserve it and shouldn't be held responsible.
"Are women blamed too much for the things men do wrong?"
I would say there is an equal amount of men and women who blame other people for their poor decisions in life. Now if you're talking specifically within a relationship, maybe men blame women more - I don't know.
What women don't seem to realize is just how much power they have over men. If women held men to a higher standard and stopped having sex with every other player and fuckboy that makes them tingle down there, then there would be more decent and responsible men. I know what you're thinking, "I'm not like that." Ok, cool. Most women go through a phase in their late teens and early 20's and are like that.
As the saying goes, "Why buy the cow when the milk is free?" Men don't need to meet any sort of standard to get sex from women. So instead of meeting the expectations women have for marriage, we just have sex with them instead.
It should be noted that black women have it even harder. The dynamic between black men and black women is totally fucked up. Black men can't be held accountable by black women when the can fuck scores of white women whenever they want. This is also why black men are constantly talking trash on black women. It just becomes a race towards the bottom, where black women feel like they have to constantly put out, and never demand anything from black men in order to keep them around.
Generally, I think people who are insecure or have a fragile mindset blame other people for their failings.
So let say...
I have anger issues? It's the fault of the person who made me angry - not me for not knowing how to cope with my anger effectively.
I cheat? It's the fault of the other person for not putting out, not meeting my desires etc... - not me for not respecting the sexual boundaries of my partner, talking about potential relationship issues and trying to fix them.
I'm a criminal? I could have been raised better, I didn't know any better, etc... - not that I'm accountable for my own actions and it's my own fault if steal something or stab someone.
It's all utter, utter bollocks.
Nobody's perfect. I myself have had professional help for anger management, and suicidal thoughts.
But ultimately? If someone recognises they have a fault, and are actively doing whatever they can to fix it or get help for it? Well... Actions speak louder than words ever will.
A proper, decent man or woman will never, ever make excuses for their actions. They'll recognise it and do something about it.
more like the opposite. i see girls all around me blame men for everything. men are too forward they harass. are too quiet they are gay and friendzone material. we do stupid stuff, its men who should "man up" and handle everything. i dont see how what you say works, i've never been blamed for men's problems...
I think it depends on the men. Some men blame women for everything and think that they're always right because they're men, and only they can express their opinions, and women's opinions don't matter. Although some of the things mentioned above could be true to some extent, but the criminal isn't just about the mother not raising the person well, because unless the person grew up in single-parent family, his parents both raise him, but sometimes it isn't about how people raise their kids, it's about the societal influences, social media, environment in which people grow up in, etc.
She speaks 100% the truth and you could not better say it also then she did with her great examples. I say therefore also nothing more. But yeah, man do blame a woman for all the mistakes man themselves make. Amazing and very hurtful for woman also this happens. A woman is weaker and man can carry more weight and why does he give all the weight to a woman to carry while he carries nothing. Even in movies, you see this typical male behavior that it is for him an honor to do nothing and just watch and look while others must do the things while he is doing nothing. I know my English is not great at all. It is not my mother language also. But it is annoying and I love great English speaking people who even can say things straight away right in the English language what it then all over a sudden makes a lovely language also.
Not really.. That's just nitpicky really.. A man is totally blamed if he is a cheater.. Really a woman would get more sympathy for cheatin than a guy.. I don't think anybody is blamin a man bein a deadbeat on the woman.. They blame the man for that.. LOL.. Usually wit a baby the woman is around and the men is not, so they get to take all of they frustration about a certain situation out on the woman.. Wit the criminal thing, I'm pretty sure they blame the man for bein a criminal and not his mama.. Or they would say his parents should have raised him better.. But, nobody hardly blamed parents for criminal behavior.. I'm pretty sure in society right now, it's the opposite of what this status is sayin..
No one wants to take responsibility for their actions. If she's unfaithful, then he should've been a better boyfriend/husband. If she's a deadbeat, the man should step up to make up for it. If she's a criminal, she's only been misguided and is just an innocent victim who happened to fall into the wrong crowd. Oh, and let's not forget my two favorites: If she's abusive, he probably did something to deserve it. If she raped him, he should've been able to fight her off. You can twist it around in so many ways, it all depends on who you ask.
It depends on the situation and circumstance and the people doing the blaming because believe it or not most men don't blame women for anything because most men don't bitch about anything but if a woman gets with a criminal knowing he's a criminal and then is shocked when she gets treated badly it's her fault not for the things he's done but for not having the common sense to walk away but the male in this situation isn't innocent either of wrong doing obviously but if the question is aimed at is the women to blame or not the male may not be mentioned because we are judging her actions not everyone's involved despite what we may think
No one is perfect. Man or woman. With that said I've seen guys who like to put blame on the woman rather than take responsibility. They bitch that they're pay is being garnished for child support because they can't or will not except responsibility. It's easy to put blame somewhere else rather than to face the truth. Myself I was raised to respect women. Now yes some women can be just the same way and blame the man for every little thing also. So yes I think she's in part right. As they say the door swings both ways.
Hmm. Depends somewhat. Women certainly bear some blame when they pick bad guys--especially since it seems like for every girl dating a piece of trash, there's two male family members, three beta orbiter friends, and five coworkers telling her he's trash. Or as Taylor Swift said, "I knew you were trouble when you walked in, so shame on me!"
Criminals... well, that's just certain populations that will produce endless supplies of criminals. Single mommery of women sleeping with criminals and not even using proper birth control isn't helping, but it's part of it.
ALSO flip side is, this gets reversed in plenty of places. Church groups especially are keen on "everything is the man's fault."
No, it's just bullshit. You could just as easily say:
1) If a woman cheats it's because her man neglects her. 2) If a woman is paid less it's because a man is oppressing her. 3) If an adult woman sleeps with an underage boy it's okay because the boy would have loved it anyway.
Nobody is getting blamed for everything more than men at this time, and particularly white men.
That you post smells like victimnasing and twisting. When you do some research on both genders it's more blaming that the male can't satisfy the female and the immature behavior females do are right doing by default, that men are deadbeat, what the man do is wrong by default, a purp, evil by nature that wants to rape and do violence against females when reach have been don for the justice system in some countries have shown that it isn't much more common that females becomes violent towards males.
Have also found that a lot of females doesn't want to take responsibility of their own shit no matter what.
Many females tends to be very reckless when they are horny and skip protections than blaming it on the male when they get STDS or pregnant instead of taking responsibility.
Some even blaming males to play with their hearts when they do it themselves.
In general blaming their actions and outcome on the opposite gender.
Hell yes I agree with that cause I see it happening all the time. That status is 100% true. I hear guys say its women's fault for raising fatherless boys and daughters but nothing about the dad.. that's funny. Yeah it's her fault for spreading her legs open to a no good man but it's also the man's fault for getting in between her legs without a condom knowing fully well he didn't want any kids nor wanted to take care of kids either. You're both to blame, own up to it.
nothig is said about dads? why would you say anything if the kid is fatherless. hows that the dads fault. if a woman is spreading her legs shouldn't she have a condom just in case or are condoms sold only to men? i agree both are to blame
ok sex with who? there must obviously be a 2nd person. or are you saying that bcs men are doing the fucking men have to buy condoms and that women are the ones who are being fucked dont have to? are you implying that women dont have the agency to buy condoms. bcs if they dont have agency, they're objects. so your objectifying women. 2nd. men and women both are reaponsible for their OWN protection. and bcs equality and diversity, women have to buy condoms in equal number.. also if a woman say she wants to fuck me, is she now responsible for protection? you can't have ur cake and eat it too.
Do you see yourself as a victim or that most females are as default no matter what she do?
She shouldn't have let him in without protection especially with someone that doesn't wants to take responsibility or if she doesn't want to be pregnant. only a moron blames other for their own recklessness that it is the others responsibility. no wonder many sees females as someone that doesn't want to take responsibility for their own shit.
@grega239 you're reaching, no I'm not objectifying women. Look as a woman, it's my responsibility to my own femininity products, like tampons etc so as a man it's your responsibility to buy condoms that you know are best for you and your size. If she wants to be condoms good for here, but for me I don't have a reason to get them cause my boyfriend gets it for himself.
@crazy8000 no I don't see myself as a victim, do you see yourself and other men on pedestal and think you can do no wrong? Obviously cause your still blamming the woman, she shouldn't have let him in but any man with half a brain, should know better to not go in without a condom either. It's just as much as his fault for being irresponsible, both them are at fault. Not just the woman, but the man as well.
Even if it is both, sometimes must you be the one that makes the decision and go with your decision no matter what the other comes with to get what they want. we can't put it on the other one just because it has been that the man must think little extra, some human's doesn't think this much when it's on and some doesn't give a shit or take responsibility, it's just how some human's are. It's better the one with something extra between the ears to make the decision instead of being lazy and blaming others.
Have practiced this with persistent females that was ignorant with this and tried to get it inside of themselves.
You can't trust most people in this situation, only yourself, don't be a fool that blames your unwillingness to be the one that decides, that's just attitude problems of the bad kind, and put yourself in shit by your own decision to be a lazy fool that doesn't want to take decisions for your own well being or some child's that doesn't have any saying. or for that matter get some nasty STDS that you can't get rid off and will die premature.
ok explain this to me. as a guy i dont expect to have sex at any time of the day,/week/ever, so it would seem stupid to me to buy a pack of rubber if its just gonna end up gathering dust. and since women are the ones deciding who they let in it kinda makes more sense for women to have condoms
@grega239 you're just trying to get out of being responsible and logical here. The same thing could be applied to a woman, she may not need a full box of condoms herself either. But honestly who cares how little sex you have, when you do have sex it's your responsibility to make sure you wrap your Shit up before having sex.
You guys are 26 and 40, it's kinda of ridiculous that neither want to admit that you and other men are responsible for your own actions. You guys are better off just saying you feel like it's mostly the woman's fault and men shouldn't have suffer from their bad decisions. Why is it that I can say it's both people's fault (woman AND man) but you guys are still resistant to saying the man is part the issue as well? It's like you guys are casting stones but forget that you still sinned yourself.
my point is, why would i have condoms if women reject me. like ita more logical for a woman to have them bcs if a woman says no, of what use is a condom to me if im not gonna get to use it. why have a condom if i dont think i'll need it. this isn't me dodging reaponsability. i just assume im not getting laid therefore i dont buy condoms
@grega239 simple: not having sex, don't have to worry about buying condoms. When you do or get ready to, you go buy condoms. C'mon on man this isn't hard to do. , the woman still ends up with a box unused condoms even if she rejects the guy.
i did buy condoms when i KNEW im gonna get it. hell i even said no when me and her didn't have any, if u can believe it. thats kinda my way of thinking. i 1st ask myself"do i need this"if the answer is no i dont, then i dont buy it. lets say im looking to buy a car. i wouldn't buy a pick up bcs i have no need for a car of that size.
@grega239 and that's a good thing that you said no, but yes that's what in saying, when you know and both of you agreed to have sex, you just go and get some condoms.
Obviously you tend to see gender vs gender, that makes you blind.
It's not what it is only what you make of it. Some people just don't know better, it's just how it is, don't lower yourself to their level just because of some fixation, when you have got to you have developed past a lot of nonsense selfishness and jealousy ;)
@crazy8000 No, bascially you're doing gender vs gender yourself cause you still can't admit that men are at fault too, have you been reading anything I said? I've said its the woman's fault as well but you keep completely overlooking that cause your fixated on me saying men are at fault too. I think you see this as personal attack on your gender when in actuality it's just the truth.. men do, just like woman can, make poor decisions. I know you have a hard time digesting that.. but it's true.
Umm... I think the two have no relevance. First of all guys get blamdd for girls as well. Daddy issues, exact same statement defending cheating. Second, him taking or not taking responsibility doesn't exclude her from some of the blame. In the case of the deadbeat boyfriend, she did cN oose the deadbeat and has to take responsibility for that choice, that has nothing to do with his responsibility for being a deadbeat. In the case of the bad mother, not its not always true, but sometimes it is true, and although the guy has to own up to his life, that doesn't mdan she is completely irresponsible. In the case of cheating, its just an excuse used by both sexes.
I feel like this shit can go both ways, I knew a girl who was willing to cheat on her boyfriend and another wanted to leave hers just because they were working hard to support them and they didn't have time to spend with them. Smh lol. If a girl sleeps around a lot it's cuz she got daddy issues. If a guy gets stabbed by a crazy ex-girlfriend, he shouldn't have stuck his dick in crazy lol.
"If [she's] unfaithful, the [man's] not satisfying [her], if [she's] a [gold-digger] the man should've picked a better [partner], if [she's] a criminal, her [daddy] should've raised her better."
This doesn't scan in my eyes, but you're welcome to disagree.
Dumbest shit I have ever read. Of course you're partially to blame if you end up having a child with a dead beat. And I've never ever seen a man get out of cheating because he said 'she didn't satisfy him' and I've never heard 'mama should have raised him better'. The more popular phrase is PARENTS should have raised him together. Which the poster conveniently omitted.
To be fair the mother is often the primary parent considering its extremely tough for both parents to have a full time job and take care of their kid.
To be fair have have heard that phrase multiple time but it's still true. They're both at fault. If you raise someone to be a criminal you should hold yourself at least partially responsible.
It's the other way around. Women are the ones who never have to take responsibility for their own actions. When a girl cheats it's the guys fault because he wasn't giving her enough attention.
Who exactly is saying women have ANY responsibility for what men do?
OTOH, it's women that blame someone or something else for EVERYTHING that happens to them. Nothing is EVER their fault, nor do they have any influence or responsibility. Just ask them!
Quite the reverse , especially if the male is of European extraction , then... EVERYTHING remotely negative is our fucking fault !! Try stepping into my shoes as a FT working single dad , now that's what I call " privilege " !!! You must inhabit a parallel universe !!
I think women are blamed too much for things that men do wrong but it's not the men that are blaming them women blame themselves every time a woman breaks up with a guy the first thing she says is what did I do wrong like it's automatically her its sad but I guess that's what women do
If anything it's men who are blamed for every problem under the sun and women who are assumed to be innocent little creatures with no agency or responsibility.
Yeah okay. Eveything that goes wrong with women. Men to shame and blame. Everything that happen to men, men still to shame and blame. And who's known for irrational thinking, Women and of course men is to shame and blame. Even men to high pathetically pack their shit and leave earth for women. Still men to blame for your consequential high rate suicides. 😂😂
Yeah I agree with her. Then again if she is only dating guys that act like that and never take responsibility for themselves, then she also needs to take the responsibility that she may not be to good at choosing men to date.
While she is right.. she is over exaggerating a little bit a lot tbh 'if he a criminal the mama shud have done better' is bull shit as the dad shud have had a role to play... if the dad left sure its not entirely the women's fault but she also shud have done better
I completely agree. When a woman is raped they say she looked too hot or too cute and had it coming. Like it's our fault some rapist decided to go and rapist.
well i regret to ur above Answer and sorry for that... coz that what u r saying is not at all true... the people who think as u said are only at least 5%... just coz they r creep nd doesn't know anything... nd the one who commits such acts are the ones who doesn't even care about how that went on the women coz they all don't have any mother or sister in their family and doesn't even think what would happen if their family faces the same... yeah i do know that people behaviour towards girls hasn't changed that much still nd they just ask for being Physical with them... nd these guys are mainly teenagers who just have urge to satisfy themselves... but haven't u heard about the girl Nirbhaya... i think u Should also see what happened after that case... still there are guys who r innocent nd just the thing is that they all are put in the same category :-(
It's the other way around. A woman can't get a job? It's men's fault. A woman is fat? It's men's fault for putting beauty standards in society and making her ugly.
Nah, men get blamed for making relationships work, for starting them, for making sex good, for pleasing our women, and for fixing things when it goes wrong.
@He-Loves-Me-Not She knew how he was, but willingly spread her legs anyway. Bitches love the bad boys. Until they don't. Then they blame him for being who she already knew he was.
@He-Loves-Me-Not That is sometimes women's weakness. They will see a guy as who they think they can turn him into and get upset when he won't change. But on those rare times they successfully change him, she gets bored and moves on to some new guy.
Is that a joke? It's typically female to blame a man for her cheating. In everything, a woman just have to say it's her guy's fault in some way, and boom, everyone sees her as a victim.
No I don't believe this is true at all. If anything I think women do this more then men. Instead of taking responsibility they try to blame it on society and like men are to blame.
No, in fact, I'm pretty sure I've heard all those excuses used by women more. It's human nature to blame everything else on everybody, including blaming blaming people on other people.
Eh? No I don't think that is accurate I think many many women are very quick to blame the man for what they do wrong themselves as well It is not a gender thing but a narcissism thing
Most people just tend to blame the other part when they're emotional. Some men blame women, some women blame men. I hope this generalization would end in both ends it's getting tiresome.
Everyone is responsible for their own actions, in actions, and reactions. Everyone involved has some sort of fault. It isn’t good, helpful, or healthy to just dump it all on one person especially if it’s by default.
In my experience I've always blamed myself when in reality after a few months I realize it wasn't me. This stuff is subjective though and changes from person to person. I don't agree w whoever wrote that. I think it can go both ways and it does.
this is bullshit. not satiafied is usually a womans exuse. if he's such a deadbeat, leave him, if he's a criminal, leave him. women need to take responsabilitiy for the men they choose to fuck with
That's not all true, it all depends on if a male doesn't take responsibility for his own actions then he's just a low life scum and for the males such as myself who take responsibilities for my actions those are the people you want to be dating
No I don't, my mom would never cover for me, I don't expect her to. I think men hated on way too much, and let's be honest if you're getting info from FB you fucked up. Not to be an asshole or anything.
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